Hello, I am hoping you can help... I don't know where to get answers.. My daughter is involved in a relationship which I believe my grand kids are in mental danger. She left the father of her kids because he was cheating. Now she has allowed them to spend one week with him and one week with her. This is not working for her, his fiancée is letting the kids call her mom and when they drop the kids off they don't want to go with her they want to stay with mommy Nichole not Evette(real mom) . The kids are 4 and 2. The 4 year old comes back not even speaking to Evette. And The 2 year old cry for mommy Nichole. She has told them time and time again not to let them call her mommy. Evette has a full time job, and they give the excuse that nicole spends more time. Evette is scared since he participates that he has this right, Not true. This is not a legal action just mutual. Now the ex want to move 45 minutes. Away and move the kids from there mom and school. He can't do that? The girlfriend gets involved in the kids school activities and pretends she is there mom. Evette disapproves of this and has told them time and time again, It's like the girl feels these are her kids and gives evette no respect. Evette does no drugs, just works and cares for the kids when she has them. She is a good mommy when she has them. Where can she go for help. She makes too much for a public defender but can't afford a lawyer $4000. Where can she get legal help? Or what should she do?

I hope that one of our legal experts can offer you some help.

From what I see, they share custody, but is this a non-legal agreement between the two of them?

Your daughter cannot afford NOT to get a lawyer- these are her children. Yes, they are his too, but surely somebody has to step up and have this settled in court? If she does nothing, and he is suddenly gone, then what is she going to do.

And as to the children, they need not be ping pong balls between the mother/father/stepmother. While they are so young and impressionable, loyalties can be bought with an extra piece of cake. They do not know what is necessarily in their best interests.

Please encourage her to seek legal help, and set up a schedule that works for both parents. I would be robbing banks to get the money I needed for a lawyer if my ex and his girlfriend were about to take my children away.