View Full Version : Me and my curent ex boyfriend are having huge issuse I need help
his_love
Apr 29, 2010, 09:09 AM
OK me and this guy have were dating for 6 and a half months and the last two months I was always on edge, and everything made me upset or mad and I got really mad this passed week and I yelled at him, but I didn't mean to take it out on him, he just left after I yelled at him without saying anything and then he didn't talk to me for two days and I was so upset. Then I finally got ahold of him after those two days. And he said I broke his heart and he didn't love me the same anymore. I was so upset and balling crying and he said that he still cared about me and loved me just not in the same way and I told him how sorry I was cause I really didn't meant to always take stuff out on him I was just so upset and I was scared all that time that I was going to loose him, and I just don't know what to do withmyself anymore I love him more than anything and I would give anything to get another chance cause I never really understood how upset it made him for me to yell at him until now. And I would never do that again to him I just don't think that he believes me.
startover22
Apr 29, 2010, 09:28 AM
Sounds like you need to work on yourself before you work on this relationship. You stated that you have been irritated for some time now. Maybe take a little bit of time to figure out how to resolve what is happening so you aren't so irritated? Tell him you are going to work on this by yourself because he means a lot to you and if he is willing to start fresh after that, then it is a win win. If you are happy with yourself and your surroundings, you will have more positive relationships! Good luck.
talaniman
Apr 29, 2010, 03:12 PM
Well yelling at your boyfriend is no way to solve your issues, and frankly, until you know what's causing your issues and how to handle them, I doubt he wants to risk it happening again.
I sure wouldn't, but begging won't help at all. I think you leave him alone a while so you both can let the dust settle and reflect on what went wrong without influencing each other.
Devorameira
Apr 29, 2010, 04:30 PM
There's really not an excuse for you to yell at your boyfriend, unless he's been abusive or been cheating.
You definitely need to back off and work on yourself. If you have anger issues, you may want to talk to a counselor to try and figure out what's causing them.
Good luck!
Gemini54
Apr 29, 2010, 10:08 PM
It's a really hard lesson to learn isn't it? You can't vomit your $hit onto someone and expect them not to get upset.
It may be that your BF has just had enough, as I suspect this isn't the first time you've acted this way. It's a difficult way to learn that being awful to someone can shift the way they feel about us. You can't take people's love for granted by abusing it.
If his perception of you has changed, there is not much you can do. Pleading and begging will only make things worse. You can however, be mature, take a good look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself why you behave this way. Your future relationships will benefit from it.