How do I keep a long distance relationship working if she lives about two hours from here?

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Hey no_regret how far are you two from each other?

We will be 2 hours away from each other

Working together through honest communications is the key to any relationship. Be it a million miles apart, or right next door.

I was in a relationship with this girl for about 2.5 yrs. We were about 3 hours away if you drive with the speed limit. I will always visit her every weekend and stay with her for the whole weekend. Everything was good, when we see each other its like seeing that person for the very first time. I was so much in love but as time pass my love tend to die little by little. I had many things going on with my life and she got so needy and clingy. The relationship got really boring to me but for some reason she was more in love with me each coming day. I guess what I am trying to say to you as a man, when you two are together, don't argue with the little things and enjoy every moment with each other. Don't get to clingy and needy and make it fun never boring. When you know he is on is way, dress up really good and surprise him with food in the table that always makes me smile hahah. Communicate like tal said, and never EVER complain about the distance. If he drives to see you, appreciate him, just say thank you for driving all this way just to see me. Little things like that will make him feel needed, and appreciated.

I would say how long do you want it to be long distance for?

I would also like to say that eventually the only solution and the only way to make it eventually work if you want it to work is by actually one person making a move closer.

We Are 16 years old, I am a guy, and she is moving two hours away from here, so I don't know what to do, but we haven't started going out yet, I've gotten as far as telling her how I feel, and she's OK with that

At worst you will be pen pals, but if she is okay about your having feelings for her, what does that mean? She feels the same or are you going to be an official couple or what??

That's where the communications comes in, so you can both know how each other sees things and what you are going to do about it.

If she doesn't want an official relationship, then its just friends.

What does she say about this, and the distance, and what will you both do about it?

Well she said she just sees me as a friends, but if we get to know each other better, then we could go out, so ima giv her my fone number so we could talk, she said no tha first time I asked her out, then she told me what I said, and that she didn't want to hurt me, so ima tell her if she really doesn't want to hurt me, that she would call me, at leastas a friend

I think she clearly will see you as a friend, but as a romantic partner, forget it. Don't get her a phone, that's going way overboard for some one that has no romantic interests in you, and I doubt she ever will, but was being nice and throwing you a strong hint. She isn't interested. So this isn't a relationship, and you do better thinking it could be one, especially if she is 2 hours away.

And how about English instead of that chat/text crap. Good communications relies on be able to understand, and be UNDERSTOOD and this is a public forum, open to all.

I don't think it's realistic to start a relationship long-distance and maintain it for years to come. At 16 you have the rest of high school, college - you know, one or both of you are going to want to date other people. You aren't going to want to miss all your school dances, have no girlfriend for any of the holidays or the summer, or to have one who's just never there.

If you stay in touch as friends and one day end up in the same place, you can try dating then.

well she said she just sees me as a friends, but if we get to kno each other better, then we could go out, so ima giv her my fone number so we could talk, she said no tha first time i asked her out, then she told me wut i said, n that she didnt wanna hurt me, so ima tell her if she really doesnt wanna hurt me, that she would call me, at leastas a friend

To be honest, if she didn't want to hurt you she wouldn't give you false hope or allow you to lead yourself on. However, she is making the same mistake a lot of not-interested people make. She is being too nice and polite. She isn't being blunt in saying what she feels and means.

If you don't want to get hurt, let her live her own life without any type of guilt trip from you (yes, it is playing on her emotions to say anything along the lines of 'if you don't want to hurt me, you will call me'.) and live your own life without expecting anything from her.

Look around. Let yourself see the other girls who are available and aren't moving away. Some of them might be interested in being friends and maybe someday girlfriends.

Since I have more information, I can come up with a better answer.

16 years old, and somebody moving away. It does happen.

You know what in the future you will never know when your paths might cross again and get together even years later. It is always possible.

I moved away from somebody almost 8 years a part. Eventually we crossed paths again and I moved back to the same area and you know what we are still together to this day as husband and wife.

Your young, you might meet people in between but it is always possible to come back at some point. If that is what is meant to happen.

Let her live her own life and live your own life. Keep in touch as friends, if that is what is wanted but if not let it go.

Good luck.

OK, I mite just stay in touch with her, then il see what happens, but she's kind of warmin up to me again, so I think I mite be able to... and I think she said just a friend because a close friend of mine said she had a boyfriend... in houston and we live in the dallas area.

Hey no regret. When I was 16 years old, I was dating this girl and she moved about 3 hours away from me, we dated for 8 months and I was in pain just because I was really into her. We talk here and there but I wished we just ended it with friendship before she moved.
What I'm trying to say is, your only 16 years old, many girls will come and go, but let this one be your friend and see how it will be when you turn 18, keep her on the side, and see if something happens when you both gets older, and if it does you have all this years to really know each other.
Don't rush things your still young. I can assure you, that it will not work out even though you try.

ok, i mite just stay in touch with her, then il see wut happens, but shes kinda warmin up to me again, so i think i mite be able to.... and i think she said just a friend because a close friend of mine said she had a boyfriend.... in houston and we live in the dallas area.

This is going to be a bit harsh, but please, think about it:

Staying in touch with her if she wants to stay in touch is all well and good. However, you need to open your eyes and face the fact that she is not in a relationship with you at this time no matter how much you wish she was. I am not even certain that there is a friendship to try to keep going.

If the friend is correct, then she is already in a long distance relationship and is unavailable. You should leave her alone.

I think you are starting to do what a lot people do when they are afraid of getting into a relationship. You are focusing on someone who really isn't interested into you in the same way you are her. As long as you keep hoping to get involved with her, you don't feel like you have to look around and see the available females who will still be in your area. If you did look around you might find some amazing young women who might just like you, too.