Ok, so I know there is a lot of other stuff going on, and I am not trying to take away from that, but I need help, and I am not sure where else to turn.

As some of you know I have had a less than stressful past few months. To summarize I've has a bit if a scare with medical concerns, had surgery, heard talk of lay offs at work, went back to work earlier than I should have in hopes of saving my dreadful job. It didn't work. I am getting laid off in June.

A few months ago I started a thread about how I thought my boss hated me. I got some advice on how can anyone like me if I don't like me, and it wasn't him who hated me but me who hated me... maybe so... But things have not improved there. My boss treats me like a second class citizen, some of my co-workers have made it perfectly clear on how they feel about UN educated, single, UN-wed mothers. One calls me an idiot on a regular basis. They are constantly talking about me and making fun of me, and when I tried to confront them about it, they told me I was paranoid. I am so stressed there that I have not had my period for 3 going on 4 months now. (sorry, maybe T.M.I?)

I also volunteer at a shelter, it is mentally and emotionally draining. I can't stand to go in there anymore and I quit last night. I have been able to nothing but cry and beat myself up for it. I feel like the worst human being on the face of the earth.

I am depressed. Yes I have talked to my doctor, he prescribed me some sleeping pills that are supposed to help me relax, and tested me for my thyroid and ran a few other tests. He wants me to talk to a therapist, but I just can't take the time off work right now, and not to mention I just can't afford it.

I am not writing this, asking people to tell me how great I am or anything, and maybe it is the wrong time seeing all the other stuff going on, maybe I am making a fool of myself or asking too much or being too needy. I just don't know anymore, because I am second guessing myself, so no matter what path I choose to follow, I have this impending feeling of doom, and constantly thinking and asking myself if I made the right decision.

I don't even know what I am asking of people, maybe how they deal with stress, maybe comic relief, maybe just knowing someone is out there listening to me, or feeling how I feel?

Well, I read what you have to say and it was indeed interesting. I don't know your previous goings-on in your life as you stated some people have, I haven't been around here long, but I'll offer my opinion to you.

I went through a similar stage in my life, the thinking that people hated me, and the socially draining rejection from other people, that being said, going to a therapist I think would be very helpful to you, it helped me out a lot in that situation, and therapists can do a world of good for you. Do you really not have time to see one, or are you just scared to see one perhaps because of the stigma attached to it, maybe I can help you with some questions you may have about therapy?

Hey Carl, thanks for responding. I really don't think I have the time to see a therapist. I work Mon-Fri 8am-5:30pm. Seeing as I am getting laid off, I really don't qualify for any other time off during working hours. I did have time accumulated but I was in hospital in November for 3 weeks with H1N1, and have used up all my personal and "sick" time.

I really don't think I am afraid of the stigma, I am actually kind of looking forward to it. There is a lot of stuff I need to get off my chest, that I have never been able to talk about before.

So, how did you deal with the 'socially draining rejection'? ( I really like the way you summed that up, it honestly hits the nail on the head)!

Hi bella, just a couple of questions,

1. why can't you take time off, from the job that your GOING to be redundant from in a couple of months.

2. why give 2 sh*ts about the arseholes who you know don't like you, I really hope you insult the one who insults you right back.

Just a thought, but I think you should take that time off to see a therapist and to in a sense get better.

1. I feel guilty... stupid eh? I know, it's just the way I feel.
2. I feel guilty. I can't insult or hurt people's feelings, stupid eh? I know. I don't know why I care what people think of me, and it's not like I care so much, but when I have to spend 8,+ hours in an office FILLED with people who obviously don't like me, and talk about me, it makes me feel a little bummed out...

Yes in June once I am laid off, I will see a therapist, but until then...

What about waiting until you're finished with the current job and then find a therapist. I can't remember where you live -- so not sure about availability of therapists and sliding scales, etc. As far as job hunting and a resume and stuff like that go, I'm your girl! How many mouths do you have to feed, and will there be some kind of monetary support once your job ends? (Yeah, I'm nosy, but it helps to know this stuff so we can help you in the most effective ways.)

Once laid off I (should) qualify for E.I (I'm in Canada). On our pay cheques we pay Employment insurance, and if we end in situations like this we can get some relief.

I wanted to go back to school, (which I could while on E.I) but I feel like it would be a huge waste of time, I feel stupid, and pretty worthless right now.

1. I feel guilty... stupid eh? I know, it's just the way I feel.
2. I feel guilty. I can't insult or hurt people's feelings, stupid eh? I know. i don't know why I care what people think of me, and it's not like I care so much, but when I have to spend 8,+ hours in an office FILLED with people who obviously don't like me, and talk about me, it makes me feel a little bummed out...

1. no it isn't stupid, you are not stupid.

What you and wondergirl said I agree with, if you would prefer to see a therapist when you have time, that is perfectly reasonable and sensible. Other than that though do you have someone you could talk to about all this, I know your talking to us and that's great :), but if there's a good friend around that you trust and feel comfortable with, then sharing can do well :)


2. no it isn't stupid and you are not stupid

I appologise, its easy for me to sit here a million miles away and tell you what you should do and how you should act, when I try and put myself in your shoes from what you say, I know id act very similaly.

Could you complain to your boss about the blatant bullying that is going on, or even take it higher, your boss's boss or the police.

Yes I could take the complaint higher, and I am thinking of going to the labor board, as they already have one formal complaint against them.

As for having someone to talk to, I grew up as a military brat, moved constantly, I never had roots anywhere. I am now living in a town where I feel like I just don't fit in. I can honestly tell you that I do not have a good sounding board, or even a good friend in this town. And I just bought a house here, so it's not like I can just up and leave any time soon.

Thank you for the ideas, I am not trying to shoot them down, but it's a bit more complicated than it seems I guess.

I wanted to go back to school, (which I could while on E.I) but I feel like it would be a huge waste of time, I feel stupid, and pretty worthless right now.
Wouldn't you feel less stupid if you went back to school to get a certificate or whatever you need in Canada to improve your job prospects? After all, you've got all of us to help you with homework. (Sssshhhh. Don't tell Curlyben I said that.)

Lol thanks. Yes it seems that way, but I guess a better ord to describe how I feel is incompetent. You know? Like I would be wasting every one else's time.

Like I would be wasting every one else's time.
Whose time? Not the instructors since that's what they are hired to do, to instruct. If they didn't have students, they would starve. Not your own time because you would learn something new and helpful for the future. The other students are on their own.

What would you be interesting in studying?

Well you know you can always talk to us here right? :)

Talking to someone in person, actually using your voice to express yourself is a very good thing, but its harder than talking to people online. Again that's why I think talking to a therapist or someone in person would be a good thing, but I know a lot of us would be glad to help you if we can :)

Well, I always wanted to be a Vet, but now I feel like I don't have the heart to be one.

After that I am at a loss.

Thanks Albear. It's nice knowing that you guys are here. I was starting to feel like a trout in a sea of sharks.

Well, I always wanted to be a Vet, but now I feel like I don't have the heart to be one.

After that I am at a loss.
What about an animal massager person (chiropractic or healing touch stuff) or an animal behaviorist?

I would like to be behaviorist...

Hey!! I never thought about that!

I feel a notch better! :)

I would like to be behaviorist...

Hey!!! I never thought about that!

I feel a notch better! :)
You'd be good at that. You are sensitive and love animals. I bet they love you too. You're able to assess situations and figure out what's going on. Temple Grandin gets down to an animal's level (literally!) and has a knack for communicating with it.

Is there somewhere nearby where you could get trained to be an animal behaviorist -- like, earn credentials? Do you live near a zoo? I bet they would have ideas for you. Or maybe your vet or the animal shelter.

Thanks Albear. It's nice knowing that you guys are here. I was starting to feel like a trout in a sea of sharks.

No worries bella,


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(oh, call me bear :) )

I would like to be behaviorist...

Hey!!! I never thought about that!

I feel a notch better! :)

I think that would be an excellent occupation for you. I think it would also be a great step toward open a rescue of your own.

I think that would be an excellent occupation for you. I think it would also be a great step toward open a rescue of your own.

Ill second this :)

I don't live near a zoo, but you can bet I am going find out every thing possible about learning animal behavior. I did get excepted to the agricultural collage here. I was going to be taking animal science, but I bet I could expand on that!

I don't live near a zoo, but you can bet I am going find out every thing possible about learning animal behavior. I did get excepted to the agricultural collage here. I was going to be taking animal science, but I bet I could expand on that!
You certainly would have to know the animal science stuff, so yeah. How would you find out more? Does the ag college offer behavior training as part of the animal science program?

You could be like this woman --

http://www.certifiedanimalbehaviorist.com/bios/preid.html

(I'm really excited about this!)

Me too! Ok, I have no idea how I am going to find out... yet. But once I put my mind to something... I don't know if the agri does offer this type of thing. But I am going to look into it. Also a friend of mine is a trainer, she has only been doing it for 20 years (yea, that's just a beginner in the dog training world). I'm going to ask her how and where she started her training.

Thanks you guys! Cat and bear, you have no idea how much that means! :) WG, thank you for the ideas!

You certainly would have to know the animal science stuff, so yeah. How would you find out more? Does the ag college offer behavior training as part of the animal science program?

(I'm really excited about this!)

Same here!

Bella, look into on-line classes, etc. too. You aren't limited to just what is in your community.

But I am going to look into it.
AND you will report back, please!!

O.K. I am going to look right now. I am going to Google online classes. {{hugs}} I can't believe how much this thread has already helped me!

Same here!

Bella, look into on-line classes, etc. too. You aren't limited to just what is in your community.
And she might be able to practice on real animals in real situations while she's studying -- if not for free, maybe for a nominal amount. In fact, I have this bossy female cat who thinks she owns the house...

Hmm I found this as far as online classes...

Animal Behavior Course in Denver, Fort Collins, United States (http://www.askedu.com/en/detail.asp?CourseNo=91233)

I wonder though, how people would view online credentials to in school credentials?

O.K. I am going to look right now. I am going to Google online classes. {{hugs}} I can't believe how much this thread has already helped me!
I just reread your first post. What a difference a few hours make!! Are we a cool group, or what! Who can we all help next?

Your welcome bella :)

Good for you, keep that positive attitude, unfortunately I don't know anything about getting into looking after animals, but I can root for you and wish you the best of luck :)

Hmm I found this as far as online classes...

Animal Behavior Course in Denver, Fort Collins, United States (http://www.askedu.com/en/detail.asp?CourseNo=91233)

I wonder though, how people would view online credentials to in school credentials?
My son got two master's degree through online courses with a reputable college program. No one has ever questioned him about that. It isn't the online part; it's the college/uni/institution part that is important.

Online courses are important nowadays, allowing people to continue their education while at home taking care of a family or a farm or an elderly relative. One of our best state schools offers a professional librarian degree with online classes.

You guys are awesome. I am still frustrated with the things going on in my life, but you know this is giving me something to focus my time and energy on.

I can tell you when I return to work tomorrow I will feel pretty low again. I am dreading the thought of going there, I am actually having stomach pains just thinking about it. It is emotionally and mentally draining. I am shocked at the un professionalism in such a professional setting. I mean it's not like we are in high school. I work for an accounting firm.

Knowing all isn't hopeless is a help. Knowing that you guys care enough to talk me through this is so helpful. I was really excited about going back to school. I lost that feeling somewhere, and I am starting to feel it again.

I still feel like I am constantly changing my life to accommodate all the crap that keeps happening to me. I feel like I am always picking myself up from one bad situation or another. And I have to say, it's a bit this heartening. But one step at a time right?

Well, it's possible that your too trusting and too honest.

At work, you have to look out for you and no one else.

Comedy, humor and animals are great ways of relieving stress.

Not dealing with the needed surgery could have been part of you demise by reducing productivity.

True KISS, but how can one become not so trusting and honest?

How can I take something that is truly and honestly me, and change that? I know change is good... and change is knowledge, but how would I balance between me and a robot?

Have you read the site I totally believe in?

http://joy2meu.com/Personal_Boundaries.html

Get your side of the street set with impermeable bounds and keep your chin up,

The depression is what's keeping you down,it is making you think you are less than, that's the nature of depression.
Please don't project what tomorrow's work day is going to be like,you only have right now to worry about,live in the moment and let tomorrow take care of itself.

Hugs bella, yeb you can always come back to vent :)

Keep your chin up :)

Yep baby steps, like crossing a rope bridge your not going to run across it the best way is to take your time and baby steps :)

KBC - the link didn't work

It's hard not to think about tomorrow. The minute I get off work, I start thinking about how I have to go back the next day.

Try the link now,it was off but I think I got it!

Still says it doesn't work...

It's hard not to think about tomorrow. The minute I get off work, I start thinking about how I have to go back the next day.

I know that feeling all too well, secondary school and college, unfortunately I didn't have a way out, so my mind created 'safety procedures' to help me cope and survive that are still with me to this day, even though the situation has changed and I'm now in Uni, I still do the same things.

I don't want that to happen to you, and (although this sounds bad) I'm really happy that you won't have to put up with it for much longer and have a way out so to speak.

Still says it doesn't work...

Click on one of the links on thatpage, like site index

http://joy2meu.com/Personal_Boundaries.htm

Sorry,don't know what happened, I am using Google Chrome,not my usual Firefox.

you wont have to put up with it for much longer and have a way out so to speak.
Think of it this way, Bella: you have a bright future -- places to go and things to do and lots to discover, while your coworkers are fated to stay right where they are in their own probably miserable little pond. If I were you, I would have a big smile on my face at work and let them wonder what there is to smile about. Now you can afford to be the bigger person and do like the Bible says: "Heap coals of fire on their heads."

And you've got us; we've got each other (but they don't).

You are right WG. I'm going to give it a try tomorrow. I am going to try and do the exact opposite of what I normally do. Seeing as I already feel like the Constansa of the work place, I may as well take his advice. So when I would normally get right bummed out, I am going to try and smile, think about this thread.Thanks for the link Ken.

So when I would normally get right bummed out, I am going to try and smile, think about this thread.
By changing your own behavior, you have the power to change others' behavior. Try it tomorrow! See what happens.

You are right WG. I'm going to give it a try tomorrow. I am going to try and do the exact opposite of what I normally do. Seeing as I already feel like the Constansa of the work place, I may as well take his advice. So when I would normally get right bummed out, I am going to try and smile, think about this thread.Thanks for the link Ken.

Go bella go bella go!

Go bella go bella go!

*does dance*

You are right WG. I'm going to give it a try tomorrow. I am going to try and do the exact opposite of what I normally do. Seeing as I already feel like the Constansa of the work place, I may as well take his advice. So when I would normally get right bummed out, I am going to try and smile, think about this thread.Thanks for the link Ken.

Bella, let the personality that you show here shine through there.

I don't know if you have seen The Wiz, but the scene where Dorothy and company free the worker's from the wicked witch's sweatshop seems very appropriate. YouTube - The WIZ "A Brand New Day" 30 Years of Movie Magic! (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tROqE9N2nuQ)

Can't you feel a brand new day? :D

:D Thanks Cat. I almost gagged myself with a spoon :p but you are right, I'm going to go in there with a smile.

:D Thanks Cat. I almost gagged my self with a spoon :p but you are right, I'm going to go in there with a smile.

:)

Thanks to you too Bear! I really appreciated the song and dance!

Thanks to you too Bear! I really appreciated the song and dance!

Happy to do it :D

Thanks to you too Bear! I really appreciated the song and dance!

Bella, let me get this straight. You were down because a bunch of accountants snub you? Seriously, accountants? Like Rick Moranis played in Ghostbusters?

Practice this line: "Shut up and do my taxes, schmuck."

I love Yiddish, you can call people the foulest names and they get this clueless smile on their face.

Edit: You've heard the cure for stage fright - picture them in their underwear, right? My add is give them a wedgie.

That is a great line! :D

Yes it was accountants that had me down and out. They have the personalities of a wet mop. No offense to any accountants out there.

Plus it's tax season, so things are extra stressful.

So your out of the funk? Hope so.

You know what I think and feel and know everything will work its way out.

Cheers.

For now Jh. Trying to be optimistic.

Bella, let me get this straight. You were down because a bunch of accountants snub you? Seriously, accountants? Like Rick Moranis played in Ghostbusters?

Practice this line: "Shut up and do my taxes, schmuck."

I love Yiddish, you can call people the foulest names and they get this clueless smile on their face.

Edit: You've heard the cure for stage fright - picture them in their underwear, right? My add is give them a wedgie.

Haha brilliant :D

So I tired coming to work today with a new, fresh mindset, unfortunately, it didn't work.

The moment I walked in I went out back to the kitchen, and I could hear the other girls talking.

They were laughing and commenting on how one of the girls was leaving all her “dirty” work for me. They thought it was funny that they gave me a new list of staff phone numbers and asked if I could make a final copy and hand it out to the partners and other staff.

So I did on Friday. Monday I came here to find over 15 e-mails on how each person's phone number was wrong. They were off by like one number… I copied them exactly. One of the girls went into my bosses office, which is right next to mine, unfortunately I can hear everything, and told her it was sad that I couldn't even handle menial tasks like copy and paste and print.

That's what is getting my spirits down. I know I didn't mess those numbers up.

It's things like that, that bring me down. When I walk into a room, all talking stops. I know it's easy to say forget about them, but man, how much can a person take?

It sounds like you're being sabotaged. Keep copies of stuff, so you can prove you were set up.

Yes, not only that, but I filed these files, we do alphabetical filing. I went into the filing room and I found 6-7 "W" files put high up on a shelf, in the "Z" section, that no one ever uses. I filed them, went in there a few hours ago and the files were back there.

Yes, not only that, but I filed these files, we do alphabetical filing. I went into the filing room and I found 6-7 "W" files put high up on a shelf, in the "Z" section, that no one ever uses. I filed them, went in there a few hours ago and the files were back there.
Yup. I feel your pain for real now. That is just out and out mean. Is there someone you can tell this to, at least for the record?

On a lighter note, I talked to the woman from the Agri Collage, and she said I should continue on with my animal science class, but drop the chemistry and take the Animal behavior class!

Also she said that starting in September they will be offering an Animal physiotherapy class, it would be 4 years right alongside the animal science and behavior classes, and the best part?? 6 months of the class is done online! 

Yup. I feel your pain for real now. That is just out and out mean. Is there someone you can tell this to, at least for the record?


Yes I asked my supervisor, if she knew why they were being put up there, but I made sure to mention it in front of one of the partners. She was snarky, but at least I brought it out in the open.

On a lighter note, I talked to the woman from the Agri Collage, and she said I should continue on with my animal science class, but drop the chemistry and take the Animal behavior class!

Also she said that starting in September they will be offering an Animal physiotherapy class, it would be 4 years right alongside the animal science and behavior classes, and the best part??? 6 months of the class is done online!! 

This sounds great. :)

How many of these individuals are going to be laid off when you are? I am having a difficult time keeping a straight face while picturing them as low person in the pecking orderat a new job. That's if they manage to get new jobs and the ones who are left stabbing each other.

Well one of them was FIRED today. And the there are 2 others, but they may get psoitions in a different office.

I want to say it's because they are young, but you know they are only a few years younger than I. I know it's not age, it's mantality. And they have a low one I guess. I am gald you guys are hear to vent to.

Well one of them was FIRED today. And the there are 2 others, but they may get psoitions in a different office.

I want to say it's because they are young, but you know they are only a few years younger than I. I know it's not age, it's mantality. And they have a low one I guess. I am gald you guys are hear to vent to.

Maturity knows no age boundaries. Just ask the 12 year olds who want to date 19 year olds. :rolleyes: :)

Yes, that is so true. But they claim to be "like sooooo mature".

Ok only 2 more months to go.

Yes, that is so true. But they claim to be "like sooooo mature".

Ok only 2 more months to go.

When is your last day?

June 30th at 5pm! Can you tell the count down is on?

June 30th at 5pm! Can you tell the count down is on?

Would it be tacky to have a countdown calendar on your desk with fireworks marking the final day? :D

That's a good idea... hmmm ::seriously contemplating it::

Hi bella, sorry to hear about your day,

I agree with wondergirl that you should start keeping records so you can prove the underhandedness.

The calendar sounds like a fun idea :)

Although your boss might take it a bit personally

Ya, you are right bear. Maybe I will just mark it in my personal agenda.

I really want to contact the girl who filed the formal complaint with the labor board, she actually sued the company because of the harassment and the abuse she endured while she worked there.

I would be so paranoid, if I didn't know that they went through 5 people before I was hired. I was starting to think it was me. I was really feeling incompetent. It's still Hell being there...

That is a really good idea

Is there any way that you could contact her or them if that's the case, I'm not sure what you have access to but if you can legally access employment files about past emplyees then maybe you could find her.

Im going to throw in my 2 cents worth because it seems something keeps getting missed. If you feel you need or could use a therapist then you should seek one out now that has late day or evening appointments. Some even do Saturdays. It would be worth looking around for one.

Another thing is if there are women that are driving you insane at work I would suggest turning the heat up. Use tabasco sauce. If you put it on their chair and it dries then later when they are seated and begin to sweat they will have hot pants.. lol. Just don't faint laughing.

I don't know how I can go about doing it. I don't think I could look at employment records. But I may be able to do some fishing, maybe if I can find her name I can look her up on Facebook or something.

I don't know how I can go about doing it. I don't think I could look at employment records. But I may be able to do some fishing, maybe if I can find her name I can look her up on facebook or something.

The court case should be public record. Try finding her name by looking up the Company's name in lawsuits.

Im going to throw in my 2 cents worth because it seems something keeps getting missed. If you feel you need or could use a therapist then you should seek one out now that has late day or evening appointments. Some even do Saturdays. It would be worth looking around for one.

Another thing is if there are women that are driving you insane at work I would suggest turning the heat up. Use tabasco sauce. If you put it on thier chair and it dries then later when they are seated and begin to sweat they will have hot pants .. lol. Just dont faint laughing.

Hahah, I would die laughing!

I will look into the after hours therapist. I didn't know that was an option.

Oh that's good Cat.

The court case should be public record. Try finding her name by looking up the Company's name in lawsuits.

Agreed: virtual greenie :D

I haven't read back but big hugs to you Bella (((((((hugs))))))))

You say you aren't asking people to tell you how wonderful you are but Bella... you ARE!
You have become a good friend of mine over the past few months and I think you give excellent and caring advice.

Thanks Shaz, that really means a lot!

I also feel that you have become a good friend to me, and your advice, well, it's just awesome.

I really appreciate you all being here letting me vent, and talking me through this.

Ok so quick update. I quit my job. Yup I did it today. Well this is what happened. I went to my doctor on the 28th and he wrote me off for 8 weeks which would have taken me to the end of my term anyway.

I went into give it to one of my bosses and she said that she could make things easier on me and handed me a letter that said they were ending my term early. Seems that she already knew I was planning on leaving beforehand. She said she knew I was having a hard time with some of the staff, and they decided to pay me until the end of May, as well as continue my benefits. I wonder if this was to avoid another potential law suit for harassment.

It was something that I though about, but I wasn't planning on going through with it. This way works for me too, as I will still qualify for Employment Insurance.

So I did need to get some revenge of some sort, so I printed every nasty e mail that was sent to me by the girls, as well as a few nasy e mails that were sent to me by clients thinking they were sending them to one of the girls, just happens to be the one I had the most problems with. I left a copy on my bosses printer as well as forwarded a copy to the national office which happens to be the head of our H.R. department.

Oh well the deed is done. I will be going back to school full time in September.

I feel so relieved. It was my mental well being, and it was something that just needed to be done. I am happy and confident with my decision.

Let me be the first to congratulate you! And it sounds like you have all your ducks in a row with money and a new career. We will be here for you no matter what, don't forget!

Thanks Wondergirl. I am really lucky to have found you guys! :)

I'll keep you all posted, and you better know I'll be needing your help writing those papers for school.

Good for you bella, I hope those girls get what's coming to them, and in a big way that will knock them flat :)

Do you think you'll be contacted by your boss or the head office in regars to the email printoffs you gave them?

Bella... I just wanted to tell you I love you and I'm glad you're better. Thank you for being such a good friend. Good Luck with School. HUGS

I really couldn't even guess. If anyone I will be contacted by National. I think my boss would have just thrown them out.

I don't care either way, I just wanted to prove that I wasn't being paranoid about their actions.

Funny thing was, on Tuesday, I was going for lunch and those girls were already in the elevator, and they were holding the door until I was about 3 feet away, than they decided they would let the door close in my face, laughing the whole time.

I knew that was the final straw. That and I found those files in the wrong spot again.

Hey! Thanks Kit. Glad to see you back.

I'll be needing your help writing those papers for school.
I've got my purple pen all ready to go! Can't wait!

Well bella, its over now, they're the companies problem now and they can go and f**k themselves. They are the worst type of people.

I really hope the head office does something about this

Bella, I am so proud of you. I hope you do follow through with the home office aspect, if for no other reason than to try to keep what happened to you from happening to someone else.

That gives you the summer to check into alternative learning methods. Hands on training with your friend, maybe? :)

Oh hey this also frees you up to try and find a good therapist :) - I mean that in the best possible way :)

Hey! Thanks Kit. Glad to see you back.

I'm not really back... trying to wean myself a little at a time. It's like trying to quit smoking . But in a week or so maybe I'll be able to stay away. I'm glad you are happier. I only come back for a few minutes a day and sometimes two or three times a day to see my pm. I'm doing better! You go get them girl.

oh hey this also frees you up to try and find a good therapist :) - i mean that in the best possible way :)


Lol yes it does.

Thanks guys, I really do feel great about this decision.

Kitty, you got to do what's right for you.

Thanks guys! :)

I'm not really back...trying to wean myself a little at a time. It's like trying to quit smoking.
I've tried to stay away. I can't. How are you managing it? Maybe if I adopt four of hheath's kittens, I will have other things to occupy my mind...

Ha ha. Wg, you know you can't stay away. I know I sure can't. It's funny eh?

Thanks guys, I really do feel great about this decision.
I am feeling soooooo good about how things are working out for you!

Well I have you guys to thank.

Hey just stumbled on this... good for you Bella :)

Thanks M. It feels great. Plus I get to stay up late! :p

No need to thank us for something we should have done :)

You know I mean it.

You know I mean it.
I just reread your first post in this thread. That was only three days ago! Wow! How time flies when you're havin' fun! And what team spirit! Yay!!

I feel like we had a baby together!

Bella.. you'll do very well.. you are strong. WG you're wonderful.

I just reread your first post in this thread. That was only three days ago! Wow!! How time flies when you're havin' fun! And what team spirit! Yay!!!

I feel like we had a baby together!

It does have that feeling of 'WOW!', doesn't it? :)

Bella..you'll do very well..you are strong. WG you're wonderful.
I miss you, kity, but I understand (been there, done that). Get your book edited, and let me know if I can help with anything.

I just reread your first post in this thread. That was only three days ago! Wow!! How time flies when you're havin' fun! And what team spirit! Yay!!!

I feel like we had a baby together!

Does that mean we all have to kick in on child support now ?

I think it's been a great out come. You know it was a quick turn around, but I was at the end of my leash ( :p).

It's not my character to be depressed, I am normally happy go lucky. You guys should feel proud. It was one simple solution, and a bunch of great ears and big hearts.

Does that mean we all have to kick in on child support now ?

Yes. Just your AMHD paycheques will do.

Does that mean we all have to kick in on child support now ?
Your DNA test is scheduled for Saturday morning at 10. Be there.

NooOOooOooOoo not Saturday mornings.

NooOOooOooOoo not Saturday mornings.
Just one test, one morning. It will be quick. Have you seen excon and Fr_Chuck around?

Ok so quick update. I quit my job. Yup I did it today. Well this is what happened. I went to my doctor on the 28th and he wrote me off for 8 weeks which would have taken me to the end of my term anyways.

I went into give it to one of my bosses and she said that she could make things easier on me and handed me a letter that said they were ending my term early. Seems that she already knew I was planning on leaving beforehand. She said she knew I was having a hard time with some of the staff, and they decided to pay me until the end of May, as well as continue my benefits. I wonder if this was to avoid another potential law suit for harassment.

It was something that I though about, but I wasn't planning on going through with it. This way works for me too, as I will still qualify for Employment Insurance.

So I did need to get some revenge of some sort, so I printed every nasty e mail that was sent to me by the girls, as well as a few nasy e mails that were sent to me by clients thinking they were sending them to one of the girls, just happens to be the one I had the most problems with. I left a copy on my bosses printer as well as forwarded a copy to the national office which happens to be the head of our H.R. department.

Oh well the deed is done. I will be going back to school full time in September.

I feel so relieved. It was my mental well being, and it was something that just needed to be done. I am happy and confident with my decision.

The deed is done! Long live the deed! :p

Bella I just came across this and took the time to read every post. I am so proud of you. I could see in each post your spirits lifting a little more. Good for you. Good luck with your new adventures. Never under estimate the powers of AMHD.

Now about this baby and child support?

(It's alive)

A post I had been responding to prompted me to come back here and re read this thread. Wow. I can't believe the turn around. Already have been back at school for a full year, getting ready to go back this September, my work environment is 100 times better than I could have ever imagined. I get to do hands on work with the beings I love. The animal behavior classes didn't work out due to funding, but now I am on an 8 year plan. I have another year to finish up the vet tech course, and then work experience for 2 years and then it is off to PEI for my DVM (doctorate of veterinarian medicine).

This thread REALLY helped me out. You guys should be so proud of yourselves.

(It's alive)

A post I had been responding to prompted me to come back here and re read this thread. Wow. I can't believe the turn around. Already have been back at school for a full year, getting ready to go back this September, my work environment is 100 times better than I could have ever imagined. I get to do hands on work with the beings I love. The animal behavior classes didn't work out due to funding, but now I am on an 8 year plan. I have another year to finish up the vet tech course, and then work experience for 2 years and then it is off to PEI for my DVM (doctorate of veterinarian medicine).

This thread REALLY helped me out. You guys should be so proud of your selves.

I take this means you still have a job (but that's another thread). :)

The person who should be proud of him/herself is you. Bella, you have done the hard work to get yourself moving forward and I am very proud of you.

Yea, so far so good with this job. It's kind of a catch 22, I don't want to bring it up in case it prompts them to re open the idea of employing an aboriginal over me. For the time being I just come to work, do my job and collect my pay :) After all, all I need is this year of employment and then I will be in school full time.

Whatever happens, I am glad you are enjoying this job after what you went through in the past.

You really have come a long way.

Thanks Cat :)

The person who should be proud of him/herself is you. Bella, you have done the hard work to get yourself moving forward and I am very proud of you.

Well said, I couldn't have put it better myself.

Proud of you Bella, it makes me smile to see how much you changed since this thread :)

Thank you Bear. You guys truly are my friends.