Hi guys,

just need to hear your advice on this...

1.5 years ago I met guy A. Guy A was interested in me. Guy A brought me and some of my girlfriends to meet his group of best buddies who were all guys. Guy B was one of the dudes. I like Guy B a lot but I will never make the first move on him.

Guy A liked me for over 1.5 yrs and made it very obvious to all his other friends. Even Guy B knew something might be going on between us.

Every time we go out in a group, Guy B will be sitting in front of me or just beside me and we will be talking to each other as we like the same stuff and we do have some kind of chemistry going on.

about 8 months ago Guy A left to another country to work, but we still kept in touch via overseas call or email.

I figured that maybe I should left go of Guy B and not think about him anymore since it seems unlikely he will pursue me since his best friend likes me and I also thought even if we get together it might be awkward for me to see Guy A if I am attached to Guy B.

1 month ago, I think Guy A found a new girl =) I am sincerely happy for him.
by the way Guy A is an awesome dude, its just that we are quite different in nature.

All of a sudden, Guy B called me one night at 11.30pm wanting to ask me about some very randomn stuff.

We started talking via phone text. He asked me out. I was overjoyed!!
We went on our first date. He was a good date, he made reservations for a nice restaurant, was very punctual, although his food came late he still waited for mine before we start.

It was one of the longest dinner I ever had, from 7.30pm all the way till 11pm.

The whole time he was laughing and I could tell he did enjoy himself. The took the bill although I suggested that we can split. BUt he said I can always treat him the next time.

So we arranged for the second date the following week.
guy B: this week is tight for me...
me:Hey no worries we can always catch up another time
guy B: I will try Friday?
me: oh I can't make it on Friday. Sat?
guy B: should be OK.
me: all right let me know

Sat came... he didn't text me at all to let me know of the arrangements...
I waited and then I texted him
me: just checking if we are meeting later
Guy B: ohhh so so so sorry I am still working. I can't it make. Next week OK?
me: oh next week I will be away
Guy B: where are you going when will you be back
me: oh I am going to #####
Guy B: following week?
me: Following week should be OK.


I was soooo loooking forward to this sat seeing him but I was quite disappointed =(

Now I don't know if he has the sincerity to date me...
I am at at age whereby I don't really want to play any games, I just want to look for a serious dude to have a serious relationship with.

what will you do? I got a feeling he may just play me out again...

See what happens next week. He may be under stress and it just slipped his mind. There are other legitimate excuses for missing a date. I would suggest seeing if he makes a habit of it, or if it is a fluke thing.

It would seem that he is interested,you both have busy lives (or should have)...

If you feel he is playing you,walk away,or keep doing your own thing,if he calls he calls,what's the hurry.

Your not in a relationship together,you had one date.

Try not to get caught up in 'does he like' take your time,date lots of guys,then ask yourself,'do I like him?'

Don't put all your eggs in one basket,take time to find out if that basket is a safe place.

I wouldn't stress over it too much, sounds like things just may not be working out schedule-wise at the moment. Be patient and hopefully things will work out. The Saturday thing may have been a game he was playing that backfired because you went out of town the following week. Or maybe he was telling the truth.

I agree with everyone else here... it seems like both of you are busy. When you are free, he isn't, and when he is free, you aren't. It happens, but it probably won't always be like this.

My suggestion is to give it time, take it slow, and see each other when you can. Eventually, your schedules may lighten so you can see each other more, but it seems like a pretty good start to a relationship to me.

Since he suggested to meet the following week and I said that it should be OK. Should I wait for him to contact me? I don't really want to act too desperate in this situation.

But Guys... I really like this dude... and I want to make things rite...

If you like him so much, then take a more direct approach. Try to nail down a day with him so that both of you can block it off on your schedule so that you don't have to keep waiting on each other.

Furthermore, if dinner is too tight, then why not meet after dinner for a quick drink or dessert? Are both of you really that busy? You don't have to block off another 4 hours of time to be together.

This is eerily similar to your other post, and you seem to be having a tough time with dating since the break up of your long term relationship.

I think you stop forcing things and worrying so much about the actions of others and enjoy being single as you certainly seem stuck on getting another guy, instead of being happy with yourself. Just curious if these are the same guys,

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/will-u-go-someone-you-like-someone-who-likes-u-lot-387350.html

Yes it's the same guy which I have had a liking for about 1.5 yrs ago. I never made it known to anyone except for my close friends.

We remained in contact through email and chats. But only recently he decided to ask me out...

I wanted to just move on but after the 1st date I still feel the prob the only guy I want to go out with.

Since my break up, I have been going out with some guys who has asked me to, but just never been too interested with a follow up or second date.

But really... I feel I can connect with this guy. Although its only our first date, but we have met on our group outings a couple of times, and each group outing its always two of us talking on our own quite a bit. I think he knows we do have a fairly bit of chemistry going on.

Its easier said than done when you mentioned to just take it easy and don't force things, seriously when it comes to the dude that matters to you, it's a little more difficult.