Hi, I am curious and would like some input from the public when your love one breaks up with you by removing their relationship status with you in facebook.com without a word. No closure, no explanation, there were no heavy dramas before the incident. (Note: You have not done anything sorry to provoke the other party to execute this act.)

1. Would you call to confront or just walk away?
2. Would you try to get that person back even if you have strong feelings?
3. What is your perception towards this act and that person?
4. If you think that breaking this way is the same as a normal breakup, explain your support.

Additional info:
I've came across an article where a woman remove her relationship status via Facebook, she got killed by her man later on.

Thanks in advance for any of your input.

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Call her/him up and ask "what's up" and go on from there.

You really don't know unless you ask the person.
I think breaking up that way is pretty tacky and immature and I would not have anything else to do with said person.

I agree with Homegirl.. Find out!

Ask him what's up?

First of all.. If he broke up with you by simply removing the "relationship" status from his profile.. then what a jerk off he is!

Confront him. It could have been a mistake. It could have been a prank by a friend who hacked his acct. It could be serious... Who knows? The only way you will know, is if you ask him. If he refuses to talk to you, avoids you at all cost... then it's the inevitable.


I wish you luck! I really do only hope it was a lame prank. :(

It's been already 2 months plus. That person has not said a word about anything despite a letter sent and an email sent.


Oh, and I forgot to add. This person also removed the relationship status 3 days before my final exam in uni.

You don't have a love, that loves you. Haven't had one for a few months. Can't believe you haven't said something to him about it.

It's not a he but a she.
I haven't really talked to anybody about it, but my father knew about it and reckon I did the right thing by not calling to find out. One close friend came to know about it, he got shock, he got so mad how I was treated. I've asked this question from one of the mens forum. Some claimed she might be a narcissist. Is narcissist that cruel? Been in a relationship with this woman for a good 2 years. Everything was involved. From dining, to sex, to meeting both sides of the family. Even talked about marriage.

So what happened?

So you emailed and snailmailed and got no replies to either?

Im sorry but unless you actually talk to her,one can only speculate about why she did this.

So you emailed and snailmailed and got no replies to either?

Im sorry but unless you actually talk to her,one can only speculate about why she did this.

Do you think she's met another man? Write her off.:(

It's not a he but a she.

How horrible.. Everyone is assuming this is a dude! :o

I still think if the person won't even give you an explination, then this has been planned for awhile.

If I were you, I'd just keep moving forward in life. Someone who doesn't even have the decency to tell you why or if something was wrong has no need to be with you in the first place.

I'm sorry your relationship ended this way.

How horrible.. Everyone is assuming this is a dude! :o

I still think if the person wont even give you an explination, then this has been planned for awhile.

If I were you, I'd just keep moving forward in life. Someone who doesnt even have the decency to tell you why or if something was wrong has no need to be with you in the first place.

I'm sorry your relationship ended this way.

Do you think the op is a girl? Sorry I just ssumed:confused:

It's quite complicated to write it down in words. Well, here is the scenario we had 1 week before the incident, I've made it into a video.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MhX9epOwi2c


A week later, she seemed distant. One night I called her but couldn't get her. Wanted to catch up with her because she had a short trip to another state and she just got back. She then returned my call saying she's driving and she's going out with her group of political friends. She said she'll call when she get back by midnight. I waited and didn't receive her call. So, I called, and she didn't pick up. I didn't call the second time. I thought I'd just call the next day to find out.

Next day called, asked her why she didn't call or pick up. She said she only got home by 2am. Said she didn't want to bother me sleeping when she knows I usually sleep late.

I asked her "where" she went exactly and calmly, she flared, shouted "I told you i went out with my political group of friends. I'm am not going to deal with your rubbish."

Hours later, I realize she removed her relationship status with me in face book 3 days before my final exam in Uni.

I didn't want to confront her anymore because I felt I'm always walking on egg shells.

Wrote a letter, wrote an email to make peace.

Haven't heard from her since then, its been 2 months+

So what are you guys input on this?

... She cheated on you.

It's quite complicated to write it down in words. Well, here is the scenario we had 1 week before the incident, i've made it into a video.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MhX9epOwi2c


A week later, she seemed distant. One night i called her but couldn't get her. Wanted to catch up with her because she had a short trip to another state and she just got back. She then returned my call saying she's driving and she's going out with her group of political friends. She said she'll call when she get back by midnight. I waited and didn't receive her call. So, i called, and she didn't pick up. I didn't call the second time. I thought i'd just call the next day to find out.

Next day called, asked her why she didn't call or pick up. She said she only got home by 2am. Said she didn't want to bother me sleeping when she knows i usually sleep late.

I asked her "where" she went exactly and calmly, she flared, shouted "I told you i went out with my political group of friends. I'm am not going to deal with your rubbish."

Hours later, i realize she removed her relationship status with me in face book 3 days before my final exam in Uni.

I didn't want to confront her anymore because i felt i'm always walking on egg shells.

Wrote a letter, wrote an email to make peace.

Haven't heard from her since then, its been 2 months+

So what are you guys input on this?

Get on with your life... she's rude and insensitive and I think you are way too good for her.:)

It seems that,for some reason,her feelings changed and she was too much of a coward to breakup with you in a decent adult manner.

I would ignore her,heal from the breakup and start moving on.

How horrible.. Everyone is assuming this is a dude! :o

I still think if the person wont even give you an explination, then this has been planned for awhile.

If I were you, I'd just keep moving forward in life. Someone who doesnt even have the decency to tell you why or if something was wrong has no need to be with you in the first place.

I'm sorry your relationship ended this way.

Thanks for the response guys. I really appreciate it and felt heard. I sometimes feel confident with myself though at times, I do feel like I'm the crazy one. Other people told me not to bother getting closure from this girl because she's harmful. But I've read a lot of good articles out there that advice people who have just broke up should get closure because it is only healthy and helps with the healing properly.
Anyone agrees with it or as oppose to it? Need some support on this.

It seems that,for some reason,her feelings changed and she was too much of a coward to breakup with you in a decent adult manner.

I would ignore her,heal from the breakup and start moving on.

That's exactly right!

I think in most cases, yes. But most cases show a lot of problems prior to the break up. Even if they're not plain and day obvious, once you sit down and think about it, the problems pop up.

I think the way this girl dumped you was very rude. I think it would just open a can of worms that you might not want to open.

Its really up to you though. Do you feel as if you need to know why she broke up with you? Or do you think you'd do OK not knowing?

Its all in how you can cope with things. If its going to eat you alive, then try and contact her. But since you've already attempted to twice with no response I think you're just going to waste your time dwelling on the selfish, immature act she did.

Your choice... Drag this out.. or let it die.

I think in most cases, yes. But most cases show a lot of problems prior to the break up. Even if they're not plain and day obvious, once you sit down and think about it, the problems pop up.

I think the way this girl dumped you was very rude. I think it would just open a can of worms that you might not want to open.

Its really up to you though. Do you feel as if you need to know why she broke up with you? Or do you think you'd do ok not knowing?

Its all in how you can cope with things. If its going to eat you alive, then try and contact her. But since you've already attempted to twice with no response I think you're just going to waste your time dwelling on the selfish, immature act she did.

Your choice... Drag this out.. or let it die.


Don't worry about the reason. You're well rid of her.:)

I know you're thinking about closure at this point, but I don't think you can get it from her. So I honestly wouldn't bother. I would focus more on the fact that she completely screwed you over without rhyme or reason, and use that as your fuel to move on. Consider this a done deal and start healing. Why bother trying to get closure from someone who breaks up with you via Facebook? That's even worse than a text message!

If you want then write her a letter or email and DON'T SEND IT. I don't think anything you can say to her at this point will make her open up and allow you to get the closure you seek.

Acceptance is closure, and understanding will come with healing.

Acceptance is closure, and understanding will come with healing.





It's over... accept it! Move on. Who needs a sneaky, narcissistic , ingrate in their life? You're well rid of this one!

I've gone through every single post you all have posted and I truly appreciate and value your inputs which were very comforting, wise and insightful.

You see, when I shared my family how my ex removed me, they tell me it’s no different from a normal break up, a break up is a break up, 3 days before the finals is no big deal, that I should deal with it like a man and I’m making a big deal out of it. I knew they were trying to be protective with my heart. It really silently pierced my heart and I could no longer talk about my problems to them or anyone.

That was why sometimes I felt like I’m the crazy one. I couldn’t tell what was right or wrong. What was at least, ethical whereby I would be able to judge properly and say, it's all right.

I guess I'm still in a state of denial, all the advice you've all given me has already been replaying in my head like a broken record. What frustrates me the most is, it doesn't take a genius to figure out how simple and clear one should put this matter to a rest and chuck her out of my thoughts. I consciously know logically, I am lucky to have rid of her but I ultimately hate this emotion I have for this disrespectful, self centered person. It really disgusts me. Sometimes I wish I’m a robot, and block out this thing call emotion, life would have been so much easier. I guess my only challenge now is time = heal.

I've actually copied the advice you all gave me and put it up on my wall to remind myself everyday that I don't deserve this painful treatment and confusion and all those subtle stealths put downs, criticism, verbal abuse and emotional assault she has inflicted which I only came to realize after the breakup. Am picking up the broken pieces and building up myself esteem once more.

Got mid terms in a week time, I really can't give up there's too much to do.

I really thank you all Homegirl 50, Kitkat22, talaniman, Lucky098, amicon, jmooney527 for your support, understanding and encouragement. It meant a lot.

We all wish you well!