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colie298
Apr 20, 2010, 10:50 AM
OK. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 4 years now. And our relationship remains at that just boyfriend/ girlfriend. Two years ago he asked permission to take my hand in marriage and him proposing was supposed to be a surprise. He doesn't know that I know but it still hasent happened. I really love him but I don't want to sit around and wait. So what I'm asking is should I wait for him or should I move on?

I wish
Apr 20, 2010, 11:08 AM
Ask him directly. No need to play mind games, especially after 4 years. You should feel comfortable enough to ask him where he stands AND get a straight answer out of him.

If you don't feel comfortable asking, then you have way more problems than a simple proposal.

Kitkat22
Apr 20, 2010, 11:13 AM
Ask him directly. No need to play mind games, especially after 4 years. You should feel comfortable enough to ask him where he stands AND get a straight answer out of him.

If you don't feel comfortable asking, then you have way more problems than a simple proposal.



Four years is enough time to feel comfortable enough to ask.:)

If you love him would you be happy moving on?

colie298
Apr 20, 2010, 08:53 PM
Four years is enough time to feel comfortable enough to ask.:)

If you love him would you be happy moving on?

I would not be happy it would take time. I've asked him when am I getting my surprise numerous times and he kept saying I don't know or he would just ignore the question. I just don't know if I should wait for him or break it off and attempt to move on when I'm ready

Kitkat22
Apr 20, 2010, 09:12 PM
i would not be happy it would take time. ive asked him when am i getting my suprise numerous times and he kept saying i dont know or he would just ignore the question. i just dont know if i should wait for him or break it off and attempt to move on when im ready

Please look at the advice... Good Luck Sweetie... Hugs and Blessings:)

Devorameira
Apr 22, 2010, 06:07 AM
You really need to quit beating around the bush asking him about the "surprise" and simply ask him where the relationship stands, is heading, and when the engagement/marriage is going to happen.

After being with him for 4 years, if he can't give you a clear response, then I'd say you should move on and find someone who's on the same page as you.

Kitkat22
Apr 22, 2010, 11:02 AM
You really need to quit beating around the bush asking him about the "surprise" and simply ask him where the relationship stands, is heading, and when the engagement/marriage is going to happen.

After being with him for 4 years, if he can't give you a clear response, then I'd say you should move on and find someone who's on the same page as you.




Ask him... Say " Okay is marriage in the near future or not". If it is I want to know now! If it's not I'm finished. I 'm moving on and don't expect me to wait till you're ready. I've waited four years and that's enough". You have to mean it when you say it. Good Luck!:)