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wishes
Apr 20, 2010, 09:15 AM
It's the same story of every teenage girl... im falling.. nono I've fallen for my best friend who's a guy. The only turn back is he's in a relationship. I know that I shouldn't get involved. I know all this. She already hates me because she finds me as a challenge... she knows that he likes me and he liked me before she came along. I had my chance but I didn't go for it. But now its getting harder every day... we spend about 3 hours every single day talking and its never an effort. I feel real comfortable with him and so does he... I just don't know what to do. I can have so many other guys but its like I'm waiting for him. Help

Aurora_Bell
Apr 20, 2010, 09:26 AM
Well you either wait patiently and QUIETLY, with no meddling, and give this girl her fair chance to be happy with the boy you once passed up, and remain friends. OR If you cannot do this without leading him on or hurting her feelings than you need to go no-contact. Ever hear that saying 'You don't know what you had 'till it's gone'? Well that's what you are going through. You didn't want him when you could have him fair and square, but now that he is in a relationship, he looks much better.

Put yourself in her shoes, how would feel if another girl was interested in your boyfriend? I know how I would feel.

Aurora_Bell
Apr 20, 2010, 09:36 AM
Well, if you are waiting for a very long time, then it's because he is happy in his relationship with this other girl.

Everything happens for a reason. And this may not be the right time. Each break up, failed relationship or even friendship is a learning point. Take what you have learned and move forward with it. SO, if he is happy with her, than you need to find someone (ELSE) that makes you happy.

Aneles2012
Apr 20, 2010, 09:39 AM
If he likes you a lot, then he wouldn't be going out with this other girl. I don't think he has the same feelings about you as you do for him, or else he would've broken up with this girl. You shouldn't have to wait around forever for this guy, he's not available right now and you shouldn't hurt yourself waiting for something that may never come.

EddieW3
May 19, 2010, 09:44 AM
Is he happy with this girl ? If he is, and you really do care about him then you have to let him go. I know it gets hard being friends with someone you are in love with, but one facet to love is making that hard choice for the sake of their happiness. If he is unhappy with her, and you don't want to be the reason they broke up, then you will have to wait. Patiently and quietly, this in itself is probably one of the hardest things to do. (at least quietly) If he is unhappy then they will eventually break up and you can make your move and tell him how you truly feel. There is one other thing you should also consider, a true friend can tell when you are unhappy or hurting. He will eventually figure out that there is something bothering you while you wait for him. So if he truly loves you as well then you might not have a choice of him breaking up with this girl because of you or not. You might just have to come to terms with that.

CrazyKid112
May 23, 2010, 12:39 PM
This happened to me. I liked my best friend but he was going out with my friend but I had a boyfriend. All you do is don't try and break these two up... if your comfortable with each other just keep it that way, be best friends as normal and maybe if that day comes you could have a chance with him, if you doo and it doesn't work out Remember to keep him as your friend and don't lose what you had with him becos' having him as a friend is better than not having him at all :) xxxxxxxxxxxx

plzzzzzzzz
Jun 25, 2010, 12:05 PM
Listen up I'm a guy going through the same thing you are she asked why I never asked her out before she got a boyfriend, she said she would have gone out with me but know she has boyfriend and feels bad that she didn't wait for me and she doesn't want to dump her boyfriend because they have been friends for years before this. I know how you feel you can't just forget about it and go on with your life, but you don't want to mess with the relationship because it would make him sad. I know how you fell and if you come up with an answer let me know

positiveparent
Jun 25, 2010, 02:05 PM
To OP, you know what you should really do is stop spending 3 hours a day talking to this boy, its not fair to his g/f who probably has no idea of what's going on, or if she does she's probably very upset and confused.


One day soon Ive no doubt you'll have a boyfriend,and I am sure if he was spending
3 hours at a time talking to another girl you wouldn't be happy either.

Leave him alone, next time you're due to talk to him cut him short tell him you have something you need to do so cannot spend any time talking to him.

Remember this too what goes around comes around, you're encouraging this boy to dump or cheat on his girlfriend, remember that when you're in the same boat, and you will be.

Also if he dumps her for you who will he dump you for.

You're also going to be making yourself look easy..