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cyprus2010
Apr 19, 2010, 10:37 AM
So here it is. I have been dating the love of my life for going on six months. We have definitely been through our ups and downs. We're both very stubborn and live our lives for ourselves. WE have independent lifestyles because we're both career oriented. We spend all weekend together and I would NOT change anything about the way we are.

Two weeks ago, we had an amazing Friday night, the next morning we went home and I was suppose to see a girlfriend, however, I didn't make it because she annoyed me very much. She said something about my relationship that offended me and intern I called my significant other and caused a huge fight. We didn't talk for about a week after. WE are fine and better than ever.

But I went out with the Girls and we didn't get super trashed... I was completely aware of what was going on until someone I have known for a longtime came over to me and gave me a peck on the lips (no tounge) about three times. He also tried to fondle my breasts. I feel bad about this, and I have never been in a situation such as this before. Is this considered cheating? The guy I am sure doesn't remember anything because he passed out in my friends bed and doesn't even remember how he got there.

I don't ever want anyone to find out, what should I do?

talaniman
Apr 19, 2010, 11:45 AM
Its not cheating, but you have never handled drunks who get too friendly, while you're out?

My dear if things are as you say, then you wouldn't give it a second thought. You should have slapped the drunk fool, and walked away, but in my mind, this is not a cause for concern, because if he trusts you, he would understand that you probably handled your business well. So you shouldn't be ashamed to tell him the truth.

Don't let fear of his reaction stop you, as the way he handles this knowledge, will show you things you need to know, about him.

Better it come from you than another, then he WILL be suspicious, and not so understanding. So do you trust HIM!?

As I said, you have done nothing wrong, and if he doesn't understand that, then what's the point of being with him?

JK191
Apr 19, 2010, 12:04 PM
Best to tell him yourself as talaniman said.

While it may hurt him initially, he'll realise after some time (not a lot hopefully) that hearing it from you was prefferable.

If he goes completely ballistic, at least you learn something about your significant other that you didn't know before and it's best to know early than late.