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How can I talk to a church girl that I just met at Facebook?

Find something in common and go from there :)

Depends on age then I can help you out. How old are you?

Am 18 yrs. She is 20

OK so your around my age. You the best thing to do is find common interests. Don't contact her all the time. If she responds with very short sentences like sure, or you then she doesn't have your interest yet. If she is a very attractive person then she may be use to the typical guy hitting on her and may think your just another. You will have to gain her trust. Talk to her as if you want to be friends. Don't GO TOO FAST or you will scare her away. Just talk about random things in your interests and ask her about hers. Be positive but show her that have a sensitive side. Chicks like sensitive guys but still know what their doing. Joke with her but don't make fun of her. You could accidentally hurt her feelings. Just have fun. You have to gain her trust.

But do you think I should talk to her on Facebook a lot?

Maybe a little in the beginning but before you get too comfortable with each other you should talk in person. Have any fiends that you can easily talk to on Facebook and when you see each other in public its as if you have never met? You don't want that to happen

no.. Your right, how I can make a church girl fell in love with me?

Focus strictly on becoming friends first. This quote means everything: the moment you stop searching for love, love will find you. And its completely true. Love isn't something that can just be done while playing your cards right. Sure it helps a tun but she can only fall in love with you as easy as it is to love a pet. It just happens when she's becomes really comfortable with you you. Just have fun for now. In a while start talking about personal stuff. Give her a reason to be interested in you. But stay humble. Don't brag about yourself

Do you think that church girls like meeting guys on chats/facebook?

What kind of church is it and is she very religious? Are you very religious?

Well she goes to an pentecostal church. Well a little..

She's a little religious or you are? Or both of you

Well I don't know... but she is a church girl, I know that for sure..

You can't lump all the girls who go to church into one category. It doesn't work that way.

Get to know HER! Learn to see beyond the fact that she goes to church. If you focus just on her religion, then you'll never get anywhere.

Can you tell me tips of how to date girls? Lol

What exactly are you looking for? When you say "date" what do you mean?

The first step to any date is to talk to the person. Ask her about herself, talk to her, maybe suggest going to a movie, or for dinner.

I wouldn't recommend getting to know someone via Facebook or any other internet site. Whatever happened to face to face contact, or even contact over the phone?

Just talk to her, find out if you have common interests and go from there.

What do girls like about guys?

what do girls like about guys?

Seriously? If a girl is straight then what's not to like about guys? They're guys! ;)

Confidence, morals, intelligence, caring, manners, ad nauseam.

The most important thing is to be who you are. The rest will fall in to place.

What is ad nauseam.

what is ad nauseam.?

It basically means, going on and on and on.

Like what, give me an example?

What do girls hate about guys?

like what, give me an example?

Like what? It's basically a fancy way of saying etc.

Have you ever been on a date before? Have you ever even talked to a girl? Do you know how to communicate verbally?

Talking isn't hard, just open your mouth and express yourself with words. For example, try "Hi, my name is _____, what's your name? I find you interesting, would you like to go to a movie one night, get to know eachother better? "

Do you understand communication? Are you willing to try it?

what do girls hate about guys?

It depends. You're asking a very vague question. There are too many things that are possible but aren't necessarily traits that every guy on earth has. The same goes for women.

You're also forgetting that what I may hate about guys, another woman may love. It depends on the individual.

Do you think that girls like when on the first date, kiss?

what do girls hate about guys?

Repeatedly asking questions that either have no real answers, or show that you haven't even bothered to figure out an answer on your own.

do you think that girls like when on the first date, kiss?

It's IMPOSSIBLE to lump all girls into one category, so stop expecting us to do so. The ONLY thing we know about this girl is that she goes to church, which seems to be the only thing YOU know about her.

Before you even THINK about asking her out on a date, you need to TALK to her. Get to know her a bit. Learn what she likes and doesn't like.



Some things to think about:

Many girls love it when someone gives them flowers. I would prefer not to be given them.

Many girls love getting chocolates. Other girls are allergic and would get seriously sick if they eat them. Some others simply don't like chocolate. Vegans don't eat chocolate because it's made with milk.

Some girls like being taken to fancy restaurants. Others feel awkward and out of place and find it impossible to relax and have fun.

Some girls enjoy a picnic in the park. Others would freak out at the mere idea of eating outside.


Do you, and every other GUY you know, like all of the same things? No? Well, then, what makes you think every GIRL likes the same things as every other girl?

do you think that girls like when on the first date, kiss?

I'm sure some girls do. I don't know if the girl your interested does. You'd have to ask her, not us.

Have you ever been on a date? Have you ever talked to a girl? It's time to try, that's the only way to figure out what she likes and doesn't like.

For just friends I would just keep the compliments casual. Good job, nice hair, you're funny, fun, awesome. Yada-yada

I will try to help from a guy perspective, a guy who isn't at all an expert at dating. But in my life I've been rejected plenty of times. So what? I just keep trying, I rather go for it and fail so I know that at least I tried.

You are still young, you are going to have plenty of fails too before you find the one. Just keep trying, don't over analyze it, just go for it.

If you would provide more details on this girl, the people here could give you more info on what to do but aparently you don't know nothing about this girl and I think this is the way to go, get to know her first. Be yourself, if she rejects you, that's OK, -1, some billions to go ;).

You compliment someone based on something special about their or their uniqueness. So get to know the person and you will know what to compliment them on.

Like I Wish said, try complimenting her on what you know about her. Is this a girl you want to compliment and make your girlfriend? Try telling her next time you see her she looks very pretty. Tell her you like the way she dresses, just not in a creepy way or anything. Tell her how much you like being around her and that she makes you smile.

Hello a:

You know what? I NEVER had trouble telling friends what I thought was cool about them. The times I started stumbling over my words or didn't know what to say was when I LIKED a girl more than just as a friend.

Now, if that's so, your compliments will take on a different tone - and they should.

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LOL... oK, So what should I do/bring on my first date?

Depends, how old are you?

18

18

Then you know what you should do? Talk to her like you always do, but throw in a sweet-yet-casual compliment in her direction such as the ones that the others suggested. Don't try too hard to flatter her, it will show, and too much flattery can get annoying and just sickening. So stick with the simple, and be yourself. :)

Friends..

Is this the church girl you like?

Is this girl really just a friend or are you hoping for more?

Just be yourself, stop over thinking things. If you want to compliment her, do it.

I really don't understand why some people have to think every little thing to death. Why not just be who you are and do what you do?

If a friend of mine is looking hot, I'll tell them. Because that person is my friend, they know who I am, they know my personality and I don't have to censor myself because they're my friend.

Doesn't sound like this girl is a friend if you're worried about what to say and not say.

While I agree with you alten I have to say that he is looking for a date. It says that in a slightly later post.

If you want to date this girl then be sweet. Not too sweet, cause that can come off as creepy. And don't do a 360 turn with your personality or she'll think you got problems. Don't push all of your attention on her either cause it will annoy her. Mostly be nice and respectful but make sure you notice when she does something or wears something cute. If she knows that you are paying attention in that maner it could really score you points.

Best advice though is something Alten said...



I really don't understand why some people have to think every little thing to death. Why not just be who you are and do what you do?

Showing her that you are self confident is the best way to make her like you. Confidence is your best weapon in the dating game. Be yourself and tell her what you think of her by your own thoughts. Mostly be confident and cool:cool: If you are not comfortable in your own skin it WILL show:eek:

Good luck man, and have fun with it.

What are the steps to have a relationship?

First, find a girl who is friendly to you, and get to know each other, by talking, and interacting, to see if you like each other enough, to spend time together, doing fun stuff.

Its usually pretty natural, and there are no fast hard rules to follow, other than be yourself, and be honest. After that you both flow together naturally, and both participate in the having fun part.

You are inexperienced, and the best way to learn about the ways of any female is through friendship without the romance.

Every female is different, so paying attention is what's needed, and not try to treat them all the same but see the individual.

Overcome your fear, and just talk to them, and be friendly is generally a good start. When they show little or no interest in you, don't try to force them to like you, have the common sense to leave them alone and get someone that is friendly to you.

Now friends doesn't always lead to romance, love, sex, or marriage, but over time those things will happen if you don't get so carried away by those butterflies, or intense feelings, and do something stupid, like fall in love with a stranger you don't know. Seldom is that kind of one way personal attraction, anything close to love, but just our own human feelings of attraction. Its VERY intense, but that's all it is, and means nothing, if she doesn't feel the same. That's why you don't force it.

You can't lose your head over this as there are many options and opportunities you will see if you stay in control of your feelings, thoughts and actions. There is much fun to be had just having friends and activities as you become comfortable with the opposite sex, and learn by experience.

Do it the right way, but when you make a mistake, or things don't work the way you want them too, simply back up, rethink, and regroup, and try it again, even if its with someone else.

Questions??