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lexibunny
Apr 10, 2010, 03:22 PM
I'm sick of my parents treating me like
I'm done here how do I get out ?
Ontario canada
ChihuahuaMomma
Apr 10, 2010, 03:29 PM
Most kids are tired of their parents every once in a while. Why is your environment so bad? What is the adult age in Ontario? Here it's 18. I got emancipated at 15, that could be an option if you are within the requirements and you have a good reason. It's not an easy process by any means.
justcurious55
Apr 10, 2010, 03:30 PM
So, where do you plan to live? How are you going to support yourself and finish school? I don't know canada's laws, but I'd bet they're not that different from laws in the u.s. and no judge would emancipate a 15 year old with no place to go, and no way to support them self, and no way to stay in school. So how do you plan to do these things and how will you prove to a judge that taking care of yourself will be better for you than being with your parents?
ChihuahuaMomma
Apr 10, 2010, 03:35 PM
Exactly. Not only that but you have to prove that you are capable of obtaining your driver's license early. Already have steady employment. Most states require a certain bank account balance. And a place that will take an emancipated minor. Again, this isn't a simple task. It's worth it if you are already doing these things. It's not going to be possible if you are just mad at your parents, no judge will grant you emancipation under those circumstances. We really need more information from you to best answer your question.
lexibunny
Apr 10, 2010, 03:38 PM
They treat me like I'm nothing , I babysit their little brats all the time and they never let me out. My mother is doing nothing but making my life missrable. I'm not ready to live on my own I want to find a way to get a foster home
Fr_Chuck
Apr 10, 2010, 03:40 PM
Yes, your what type of job do you have that pays enough to live on your ow.
Do you have enough money saved to pay rent and deposit. Enough money to pay attorneys
ChihuahuaMomma
Apr 10, 2010, 03:43 PM
You can't just opt into a foster home. The state has to prove that your guardian/parent(s) aren't fit. At what age in your area are you considered a legal adult?
justcurious55
Apr 10, 2010, 03:43 PM
I realize that there are some really wonderful foster parents out there. But I think its important for you to realize that not every foster parent or foster family is good. If you did figure out some way to end up in a foster home, there's a very real possibility you'll end up in a home much worse than with your own parents. It doesn't sound like they're actually do anything wrong from what little you've told us. Having to babysit and not being allowed to go out isn't abuse. Unless there's a lot more to your story, it sounds like you've got a pretty normal life and just need to learn to deal with it.
Is there a family member, maybe grandparents or aunt and uncle, that might be willing to let you stay with them for a while? With your parents consent of course.
ChihuahuaMomma
Apr 10, 2010, 03:46 PM
It sounds like you are upset that you are getting older and therefore gaining more responsibility (babysitting). These things might not always be the most fun, but your parents need your help sometimes. I really think we are missing some of the story. I think EVERY kid has said "I hate my parents" at least once.
lexibunny
Apr 10, 2010, 03:49 PM
Babysitting is one thing but having your friends ask you who's baby it really is because you're the one watching it all the time is another thing
ChihuahuaMomma
Apr 10, 2010, 03:50 PM
When are you watching the baby? When your parents are at work?
lexibunny
Apr 10, 2010, 03:51 PM
I'm the one watching him even when they are home and when I say something they say that I do nothing for them and I never have the baby. My dad works my mom stays home
Wondergirl
Apr 10, 2010, 04:03 PM
Do you attend school?
lexibunny
Apr 10, 2010, 04:04 PM
Yes I am in grade nine
Fr_Chuck
Apr 10, 2010, 04:06 PM
Cultures differ, at 15 it is not ucommon for parents to expect you to watch another child a lot of the time you are not in school
justcurious55
Apr 10, 2010, 04:20 PM
I know its not fun always having to be responsible for your little siblings. But unless your parents are actually being neglectful (like my mother was, for example. She would leave me at home with my four younger siblings not only while she worked, but then for all hours of the night while she was out drinking and partying), I don't see any reason why a judge or anyone else would think it was in your best interests to be removed from their care. You haven't told us about anything they are actually doing wrong, like any that is putting you are your siblings in any sort of danger or anything. You just have a lot of responsibilities that, while they may not be fair, aren't illegal. At least from what you've told us
ScottGem
Apr 10, 2010, 04:22 PM
You sound like every teenager who is expected to help out at home and balks at the task.
But the bottom line here is that you have two choices; a) qualify and apply for emancipation or b) prove your parents unfit so you get put into the foster care system. Neither of which is very likely to happen.
But there is a third option. Talk to the guidance counselor at school, your clergyperson or a relative your parents will listen to. Get that person to intercede with your parents. Maybe some compromise can be reached.
lexibunny
Apr 10, 2010, 04:27 PM
I'm 15 I can't apply for emancipation till I'm 16
Wondergirl
Apr 10, 2010, 04:28 PM
im 15 i can't apply for emancipation till im 16
You will be ready then and have everything in place?
lexibunny
Apr 10, 2010, 04:30 PM
I would like to be moved out of here by the end of the sumester
Wondergirl
Apr 10, 2010, 04:33 PM
i would like to be moved out of here by the end of the sumester
Who is going to move you?
lexibunny
Apr 10, 2010, 04:34 PM
I don't know ?
Wondergirl
Apr 10, 2010, 04:35 PM
i dont know ?
You stay home from school all day to care for younger children?
lexibunny
Apr 10, 2010, 04:37 PM
No I go to school
Wondergirl
Apr 10, 2010, 04:39 PM
no i go to school
How old are the children you must take care of after you get home from school and all weekend?
lexibunny
Apr 10, 2010, 04:42 PM
A 5 month old and a 4 year old
Wondergirl
Apr 10, 2010, 04:45 PM
a 5 month old and a 4 year old
So, once you get home from school, you have no free time? You are in charge of the two children. What about during the night?
lexibunny
Apr 10, 2010, 04:47 PM
It depends on the night if I have to watch them or not
Wondergirl
Apr 10, 2010, 04:49 PM
it depends on the night if i have to watch them or not
All night? Which nights and why?
ScottGem
Apr 10, 2010, 05:32 PM
Did you read what I said?
ChihuahuaMomma
Apr 10, 2010, 06:26 PM
It sounds like your parents rely on you a lot. I know now it seems that they just make you do everything all by yourself. In the long run you will be thankful. You'll likely not want kids until you are much older and you'll know how to take care of yourself once you are actually able to be on your own. Your expectations are unrealistic. Your parents aren't being abusive or neglectful from what you are saying. I do agree that you should have more time to be a teen. Has any of this been brought into conversation with your parents? What is it that your mother is doing while you are babysitting?