Hey, I'm 13 and so is my best friend... let's call her Lucy.
Let me get you caught up.
So Lucy & I have been friends since I was literally 2 and she was 3. She's in 8th grade now, & I'm in 7nth. We do something together every weekend, and our parents are like that. [crosses pointer and middle finger]

Now, the only child competition has been ridiculous. I buy and memorize a popular song on iTunes, and she buys the song, memorizes it, & knows the moves to the music video. I talk about something cute my dog did, she tells me two cute things both, TWO, of her dogs have done. I polish my nails pink, hers are pink with sparkles. I upgrade my cell phone to the Motorola Rival, she's going to upgrade this May to to the amazing EnV Touch. Real recently, my family was going to buy a new car / minivan. Okay, sounds normal for the American family. Well, no less then a week later, her mom [parents are divorced, and she uses them against each other for more stuff to buy$$$] bought the Subaru Forester. The same car our family was going to buy. Yeah, her mom isn't out for competition, she just wanted to match our new car. Well, then the bragging comes about how "fantabulous" [that's Lucy's word] her new car is. OKAY well after that she's copying my phrases that only I say, and is upstaging me left and right. We go for a walk in the park and she's working short-shorts [unlike her], just came back from a mani / pedi. And putting on lip-gloss. Um, HELLO? We're in a metro park with bugs, snakes, trees, nature![I love the outdoors... I'm a camper:)]


I want to upstage her REALLY badly. Not to get ahead of her and stuff, just so she knows I'm still up there.

Advice on where to get the next everything, & what to do about Lucy.

Yes, ignore her and get prepared for the real, adult world.

She's your best friend and your interest is getting one up on her?

[QUOTE=CSUfan4 disagrees : let's say it's a little game we play, we still love each other.
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Little girl, I would suggest that you read the rules of the site - you have disagreed with my advice and I honestly don't know why.

You are 13. If it's a "game you play" you shouldn't be posting it on an adult board, taking time from people with serious problems and questions.

You appear troubled, based on your other threads. Have you ever tried to get some sort of help?

Will Easter break end soon so you have something else to do with your spare time?

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This has gone beyond a simple children's game. Nail polish and dog tricks are one thing, phones and vehicles are another.

Do you do anything besides think of ways of topping what the other has or does? It sounds more like a competition instead of a friendship.

Your friend sounds like several children I have known from divorced families who think that material things and being 'better' than the next person are all that counts. It is how they measure their worth as a person. It's not a good way because they never feel like they have enough or have done enough. Someone always has more, better, newer, etc. things than they do.

If you really want to be the 'bigger' person, show her that you don't care what she has or what she can get. Show her that you like her just for herself.

The first thing that comes to mind is that her parents got a divorce. You really want to "upstage" your best friend while she going through seeing her parents get divorced? I honestly think she feels like she has to prove something (like she's happier or cooler) when inside she's probably feeling depressed and unloved. My advice, get over yourself and be a real best friend...