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ohsohappy
Apr 2, 2010, 10:16 PM
Hello all,

It's been just over a month and a half since my grandmother Josephine passed away (her Birthday was March 31st)

Today, April 2nd, around 8:00, my Grandfather passed away. Back in 2007 he was diagnosed with Multiple Meyloma (not sure if that's exactly correct, but it's a form of bone cancer from what I understand) and he was given 3-6 months to live. As you can tell, he lived way passed that. He knew most of the nurses in his ward by name, and they knew him. One of the nurses took a break from his rounds tonight to come and say goodbye to my grandfather. He had been working with him personally off and on since My grandfather was diagnosed, and when my grandfather would come in, there were a number of nurses that would either request my grandfather, or he would request them. It means a lot to me that he was treated so well and was cared for by so many people.
My Grandfather was very special to me, just as my grandmother was (my mother's father, my father's mother) and I am going to miss him very much.

I was at Target when I found out. My mom called me from the hospital. He was about to celebrate his 67th birthday this coming May.

I want to thank those of you who were there for me when my grandmother died, and I want to let you know that it means a lot to me how much support all of you show.

Life has been giving me the bumpy stuff this year, but just like every other cloud, this one will have a silver lining.

We have always been very close, we had an unspoken understanding. We just knew each other.
I know the he will be with me in spirit from now on.

I love you Grandpa, and I know that you know that, and will always be looking out for me.

Clough
Apr 2, 2010, 10:23 PM
Hi, ohsohappy!

Yes, you've been having some bumpy stuff this year! It's all a part of life, though.

My condolences to you and others that are near and dear to you!

I do have some stories for you about relatives that have passed, if you would like to read them.

Thanks!

JudyKayTee
Apr 3, 2010, 06:28 AM
I was not aware that your Grandmother passed. I'm so sorry about this loss, too. What a shock!

Stay strong and remember to take care of yourself.

ohsohappy
Apr 3, 2010, 09:03 AM
The road just has some hurdles, that's all.

We've been having problems paying bills too. My mom had to sell almost all of her books and some more jewlrey to pay the rent and lights. And my father is going to be stopping the child support soon. I don't really have a lot of money and I'm worried that we might be kicked out soon because I'm the only person in the house right now that has a job.


It's just what life is deciding to throw at me and my family for now.

I'm just trying to get through it, and losing my grandparents makes it all the more difficult, because they were two people that I could always go to. My grandfather especially.

I am ready for the hurdles to subside for a while, but apparently the hurdles aren't ready to quit coming at me just yet.

ohsohappy
Apr 3, 2010, 10:55 AM
Thank you Judy and Clough. :)
And Clough, I would love to read/ hear a couple stories you have. :)

Enigma1999
Apr 3, 2010, 11:11 AM
Hello Ohso,

I am very sorry to hear that! Really sorry! My Grandmother (84) passed away the night before last. I know how you feel.

I know that both your Grandparents and my Grandmother are in a better place, and yes looking out for us!

My heart goes out to you. God bless!

Clough
Apr 3, 2010, 01:19 PM
So, how are you doing now, ohsohappy?

I'll return later this evening to share the stories.

Thanks!

ohsohappy
Apr 3, 2010, 08:37 PM
I'm doing okay. I mean, he's battled this cancer for 3and a half years. Although it was quick it wasn't entirely unexpected.

Right now I just feel like there's something missing, and there is. I'm always going to miss my grandparents from time to time and that's okay.

It's just a hard time, and I only really know one of my two remaining (biological)grandparents, that's my mom's mother Jolene.She lives in Missouri. I never really knew my grandfather Jerry.

Ruthie (my grandpa's wife) is having the toughest time with this I think. Since he was diagnosed, she was the one taking care of my grandfather. She's been the caregiver and she has been absolutely extraordinary. She's gone above and beyond for my grandfather, and loved him so much. They were together for 14 or more years, and married for 3 (just after he was diagnosed). She's probably my closest "grandparent" remaining.

She made a promise to my grandfather before he passed that she would always be here for me and my family and she said she was going to keep that promise. I'm glad for that because I really love her too.

Kitkat22
Apr 3, 2010, 08:58 PM
Ohso.. I am so very sorry for your loss. There are no words I can say that will stop the pain in your heart. Grandparents are a blessing! I want you to know you are in my prayers as is the rest of your family. Grief is something we all deal with in our on way.

I believe God gives us strength we don't even know we have and then when we need it we draw on that strength. You have lost so much in the last weeks and you are strong. God Bless You and Keep His arms around you. I will be thinking of you and your family.. Hugs

ohsohappy
Apr 3, 2010, 09:04 PM
Ohso..I am so very soryy for your loss.

Thank you Kitty. I've been having a tough time this year for one reason or another. I'm just grateful that I have people surrounding me and supporting me. Work has been particularly understanding. I'm so glad people care so much. :)

jmjoseph
Apr 3, 2010, 09:58 PM
OhSo, I am so sorry for your loss(both). Have peace in knowing that he was well taken care of, and had people with good hearts giving him love.

You should write down some of your fondest memories, and compile photos of him for your children one day. I'm sure that they will love to "know" him too.

Memories have a tendency to fade somewhat with years. Honor your loved ones by trying not to let that happen.

God bless you and the rest of the family.

ohsohappy
Apr 4, 2010, 04:29 PM
OhSo, I am so sorry for your loss(both). Have peace in knowing that he was well taken care of, and had people with good hearts giving him love.

You should write down some of your fondest memories, and compile photos of him for your children one day. I'm sure that they will love to "know" him too.

Memories have a tendency to fade somewhat with years. Honor your loved ones by trying not to let that happen.

God bless you and the rest of the family.

It's funny that you say that because the paln was to lay out papers and people could write their own memories of him, and so could we, and we were going to compile those in to a "book" for family and friends. :)

Kitkat22
Apr 4, 2010, 04:43 PM
It's funny that you say that because the paln was to lay out papers and people could write their own memories of him, and so could we, and we were going to compile those in to a "book" for family and friends. :)

Good memories and sharing them will help you through these dark days.. Blessings:)

Clough
Apr 6, 2010, 12:42 AM
Oops! I forgot to return! Will wait until you're back on here!

ohsohappy
Apr 6, 2010, 08:30 AM
I am back on here!

Clough
Apr 6, 2010, 11:57 AM
I'm glad that you're back! I'm in the process of moving out from where I've been house and dog sitting for a number of weeks, so time is limited for me on here right now.

I want to be able to take my time for what I would like to write for you.

Later...

EmoPrincess
Apr 6, 2010, 11:59 AM
Ohso, I'm so sorry. I know you can pull through this though

ohsohappy
Apr 6, 2010, 07:24 PM
Ohso, I'm so sorry. I know you can pull through this though

You are definitely right, I most certainly will be okay. :)

Clough
Apr 11, 2010, 03:05 PM
Have moved back into my home.

Need to go to rehearsal.

Stories will appear later tonight...

ohsohappy
Apr 11, 2010, 07:54 PM
Have moved back into my home.

Need to go to rehearsal.

Stories will appear later tonight...

I can't wait. :)

Clough
Apr 11, 2010, 08:44 PM
Story number one...

It was the day that I registered at school for the fourth grade.

When my mom and I retured home from the school, my brother told my mom that something had happened to her mom. He didn't say what it was though. He wanted our mother to be able to drive over there...

He also forbade me to call my grandparents home. Of course I did, and found out that grandma had died. She had died laughing. What a way to go!

Some days after that, I complained to my mother that the light was too bright in my room at niight. My mother then put heavy curtains on the windows. But, my room was still too bright at night!

I have no doubt that it was my grandmother watching over me! She was definitely a person who was very much in the "light".

That's story number one...

Thanks!

ohsohappy
Apr 11, 2010, 08:52 PM
Story number one...

It was the day that I registered at school for the fourth grade.

When my mom and I retured home from the school, my brother told my mom that something had happened to her mom. He didn't say what it was though. He wanted our mother to be able to drive over there...

He also forbade me to call my grandparents home. Of course I did, and found out that grandma had died. She had died laughing. What a way to go!

Some days after that, I complained to my mother that the light was too bright in my room at niight. My mother then put heavy curtains on the windows. But, my room was still too bright at night!

I have no doubt that it was my grandmother watching over me! She was definitely a person who was very much in the "light".

Thats story number one...

Thanks!

Wow, died laughing, that's pretty awesome. :) I believe she was there too. I'm sure she was a radiant and wonderful person. :)

Clough
Apr 11, 2010, 08:59 PM
She was incredible! One of the first women to lead a union in movement for causes! I have pictures...

That was concerning story number one...

I have at least several more...

You want to read them?

ohsohappy
Apr 11, 2010, 09:10 PM
She was incredible! One of the first women to lead a union in movement for causes! I have pictures...

That was concerning story number one...

I have at least several more...

You wanna read them?

I absolutely do, the first one was quite uplifting. :)

Clough
Apr 11, 2010, 10:28 PM
Here's the second one...

It was when I was in the fifth grade.

My mother's sister had worked on some atomic project during World War II. I don't exactly know what it concerned, but I do know that it affected her breathing.

When I was in the fifth grade, I noticed that her breathing was odd. I thought that she really should be examined by a doctor.

She wound up going to the hospital.

When my mother was visiting her, they could both feel the presence of their mother in the room. Their mother had passed on a year before that.

I have no doubt that my grandmother was truly present with them in the hospital room. My aunt died shortly after that. I remember my mother picking up the phone in the middle of the night, to take the call that her sister had died.