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willis00788
Apr 1, 2010, 11:27 PM
I've had a crush on this girl for about a year and a half. I wanted to tell her I liked her pretty much that whole time. I decided not to tell her though because first I'm not allowed to date (I'm aloud to start group dating in 14 days but can't date date until next year) and second she is two and a half years older than me. I thinl I waited to long to tell her I like her because now she has a boyfriend, and I think it would be rude towards him to tell her. Did I wait to long to tell her? Also my family is planing on going over seas for missions before next year, we will be gone for two years and the girl already knows this. I think at one point the girl liked me also but I can't tell. So should I tell her?
amicon
Apr 1, 2010, 11:57 PM
If she has a boyfriend I would say don't tell her as then she's off limits.
Larken85
Apr 2, 2010, 12:13 AM
I agree. It sucks that you are in that position. But also think about this, if she knows you like her and she feels the same way, two years away is going to kill her. So to protect her feelings alone I would keep it to myself. But also it is kind of rotten to do that to another guy.
We always want the most what we can't have. She is taken now and now its too late. (For now.) After you are back from your missionary work I suggest getting in touch with her and see where she is at in her life. Then you are free to date her. But who is to say that you won't find someone else before that point?
Point is don't wait around to get back to find happiness. If you find it you find it. Do not wait on her because she will not wait on you (most likely.) And waiting is far to hard for two years.
Hope things go better for you and I hope this is easy on you. Good luck
talaniman
Apr 2, 2010, 07:46 AM
You waited to long, and now she is with someone else, so leave her alone.
Sorry for your luck.
Devorameira
Apr 3, 2010, 04:32 PM
I would just keep your feelings to yourself. There's really no reason to tell her since she's already taken and you're going overseas.
Maybe when you get back she'll be available and you'll be allowed to date. :)
rockchick182
Apr 4, 2010, 03:09 PM
What you have just said, is kind of freaky in the sense that it is EXACTLY what happened to me. I found out this guy liked me for 2 years, but I was with someone when he told me he liked me, it didn't bother me of course because we were like best friends. However when me and my boyfriend broke up, I knew that this guy liked me and so I went running to him for comfort, and now we are going out. I would suggest that you should tell her you like her, but that you know she has a boyfriend, you just want her to know that you will always be there for her. That way you would get it off your chest and feel good about yourself, and you would also be reassuring her that she is not alone if things don't work out. If that is the case, then do be very careful if she comes running to you, because if you still like her and she 'seems' to like you, don't get too ahead of yourself or she may just be using you as a rebound, that's why I waited so long to go out with this guy, because I didn't want him to feel like a rebound. So do tell her, but be very careful you are not going to be used. Goo Luck xx