I know its dum but when I try to talk to people I don't know I get scared and can't bring myself to do it + every year it gets harder I'm 15 and haven't ever gone out with any one

It's seems too simple, but just keep being social and trying. Practice makes perfect! I know everything seems so scary right now but it will get better. You are only 15, slow down! You will find someone :)

15 is young and there is no need to put undue pressure on yourself to be dating. The key is to have fun and treat it like it is fun, not like it is a chore or work. It takes practice and repetition to be able to handle rejection, and trust me, we have ALL been rejected. While it is usually not something we like, it does get easier the more you just casually have fun and be social.

You should just set a goal for yourself. While you are extremely young, it is never too early to at least start. Ask every girl you talk to for her phone number, email, for lunch or some other casual advance. EVERY girl. This will help you. The goal here is to be more comfortable with yourself, not to become some womanizing player.

:) I only smile because you sound just like me when I was your age, granted I'm only 22 now. But it was hard for me too and I'm just now figuring things out. Don't be worried about the dating part it'll happen when the time is right, I didn't have a boyfriend till I was 17 and I made a lot of mistakes because I wasn't patient. Like Murphey said, practice does make perfect. When you feel like you want to run and hide force yourself to stay with the group. Don't allow social situations to scare you. My best advice that has worked for me so well is to take pride in your appearance (not that I'm saying you don't already) But dress yourself in a way that you feel good and you think you look good. If you think you look good you'll have more confidence in yourself. If you have to, plan things to say in advance. Don't be afraid or intimidated, just relax and have fun.

Hmm, I take it from your other post that you are a male. I understand how you feel believe me. I dated nearly no one through out my first few years in high school. Every year my friends and I would say this will be the year we finally hook up with someone bla bla bla.

We kept saying it but it never happened. Girls had it much easier than us, guys want to be with girls (almost any girl at that point in your life) so for the girls it was just a matter of pointing and saying I want that one. Supposedly women out number men but I know it sure doesn't feel like that. Seems like all the good ones are taken and that you got to get one right now so they don't all get taken.

This is so not the attitude you should have right now. I can say this because I was just like you too, I tried everything to fit in and be attractive for the ladies. Nothing worked. I'll tell you what does work. It's a giant secret (or at least right now to you it will seems like I am letting you in on one). The goal is not to care. Not to be a jerk but not to let your hopes and dreams ride on whether she says yes. Honestly who cares if she says yes? There are several other girls in your school and each one has a chance to make you happy in some way. So who cares if she wants to miss an opurtunity to be with someone as special as you. It really doesn't matter.

You ask the girl out, she says not right now or some other soft excuse you say all right and just walk away. Nothing more to it. (that'll drive her crazy by the way.) When a girl thinks that you really weren't that interested in the first place and that you do not need her for emotional support she becomes attracted and interested to get to know you. If they see that you are uneffected by their rejection then they think you are strong enough to handle yourself.

Being alouf is a great trick that you won't learn until much later in life left on your own. It'll give you a big head start on the other guys in the class too :D

If it is social things in general that scare you, do exactly what the other posters said. Put yourself in the situation and try talking to people. At first people may be a little cold to you as they do not expect you to be talking to them, but I promise you will find your socail click and you will fit in somewhere. Best to go for what you are into though, if you like football, then play football. If you like chess then play chess. If you like reading then spend time at the library. Your best chance to get a girl or guy that you really match with is to do the things you like to do and look in the places where you like to be. But most of all in this I have to say, get out there and be who you are. Don't ever let any man or woman define you or confine you. You are unique in your own ways and you love what you love. No one has the right to make you feel like less of a person and if they do then that just tells you that they are not much of a person themselves and that eventually everyone else will come to realise this too. You need to not care if someone doesn't want to talk to you or hang with you. Just get over it immediately and move on. (I know you may think it is hard but once you have been doing it for a while it'll come natural.)

Good luck with everything

i know its dum but when i try to talk to people i dont know i get scared and can't bring my self to do it + every year it gets harder im 15 and havent ever gone out with any one

What exactly are you afraid of? If your talking to them the first time then there is no investment going on so you have nothing to lose. Life can be filled with fears if you let it. Why limit yourself? If you talk with friends then you can talk with strangers too. The best thing you have going for yourself right now is that your not only recognise that there may be something wrong ( which isn't true) but your smart enough to seek help in a form your comfortable with. So that alone proves you have some brains. So use them wisely and when you reach a point in a conversation that you don't know something about.. that's a good time to just listen. Its not as hard as you think it is and soon you will laugh at yourself for even being "afraid" in the first place.

That's basically me. However, only you know what sets you off and what doesn't. So what I had to learn to do was make myself more vulnerable to getting hurt. I would try-out for things, such as cheerleading, that I didn't want to do to get the hang of being rejected. I'm not saying get out of your most comfortable element and I'm not saying try-out for things just to be rejected. All I'm saying is fear is in the way from you exploring and someone at my school once said,"Fear is a four letter word."

OK. If you are scared of rejection, well, that's hard to over come. But I believe that there is more to it then that. Are you social?are you good at speaking to people?do people talk to you?if these are things you have trouble with, then you just need to get used to the idea of it and talking. If those aren't a problem, then you might just be more sensitive, like I am, and not want to be rejected. I am very sensitive and have a boyfriend. I asked him out.and, well, if you don't think you can make the first move, then wait. If you want to but are scared, you can try email, phone, poems, songs, letters. Anything that takes the social out of it will make you more comfortable. And if that's the case, it not rejection that your scared of. It would be you reaction to it. Io hope this helped and good luck!