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sfergison
Mar 29, 2010, 02:13 PM
Hello,

My name is Steve. I am currently in a fairly new (about 2 weeks) relationship, and I'm having some issues that I think are related to my past relationship.

I got out of a 3 year relationship about 6-8 months ago (she dumped me). That particular breakup came out of nowhere for me, and it was a long and painful recovery process. I'm happy to say that I'm completely over her now.

However, I am now having some issues with the new relationship. I'm quite fond of her, but I find myself constantly worrying that she'll suddenly change her mind and break up with me. Further, I'm worried that this mentality shows through and may actually cause it to happen.

Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated.

slapshot_oi
Mar 29, 2010, 02:18 PM
Keep your distance. See and talk her only when you feel comfortable even if she's contacts you, make it known that you want to stay casual without a commitment, get to know her, and see how you feel down the road.

Devorameira
Mar 29, 2010, 04:46 PM
Your relationship is so new that I'm not sure if you could even class it as a relationship yet. With only 2 weeks under your belt, there should be no expectations on either side at all, let alone the jealousy you're exhibiting.

You've really got to relax and just get to know her. As you get to know her I think you'll figure out whether she's dependable.

Just remember that she's not your ex, and quit being the whiny, jealous sort - girls hate that.

Ithappenstoall
Mar 30, 2010, 01:16 AM
You need to clear your mind and not bring your past relationship issues in this one, she is not your ex, she will not behave like your ex. This is a new beginning and you need to take easy and enjoy.
Now if you cannot get rid of these thoughts, than your past still haunts you and you are still not ready to be in a relationship.
It is important to learn from your past but never bring that into your present situation

duece22022
Mar 30, 2010, 05:46 AM
Again don't make the same mistakes you made last time. This is a new relationship. Try to just relax and have fun with her. You have the chance to make yourself have a whole new mindset about relationships. Show her that you're a good person and you like to have fun and don't worry about losing her.