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TheCopperBlade
Mar 28, 2010, 06:30 AM
Okay, it all happened late a couple of days ago. We were talking in a loving mood, but then suddenly she just changed the conversation topic. I then said "I hate it when you talk all loving and stuff, then suddenly change the topic." even though I'm actually fine with it a lot of the time.

And then she said that doing that is actually her biggest personality trait, which I had no idea about.

I then told her I didn't actually hate it, and I'm fine with it most of the time. But she just keeps calling me a liar, and wants me to leave her alone?

PLEASE help me, I don't know what to do. I love this girl with all my heart, what can I do to get her to love me (Even though she already might do, but isn't showing any signs.) and talk to me properly again?

Showme_urmove
Mar 28, 2010, 06:43 AM
The best advice I can give you is to never start any immature fights! What do you gain of starting this kind of argument. So what if she suddenly change the conversation topic. Is it worth losing her over. Fight on things that's important, that's worth fighting for, not the childish things, childish games.


"I hate it when you talk all loving and stuff, then suddenly change the topic." even though I'm actually fine with it a lot of the time.
you see how dumb that sound, you told her you hate it when she suddenly change topic but really you are fine with it. Huh what were you thinking? Stop your childish thoughts and treat this like an actual relationship, cause if you keep doing what your doing she will eventually get sick of it then leave you. And if your picking on her on small things you will get into the habit of picking on everything she does.

then told her I didn't actually hate it, and I'm fine with it most of the time. But she just keeps calling me a liar if you want her to stop calling you a lier, then stop saying what you have been saying, and just listen to her and never insult her. Good luck man, sorry if it sound rude I'm grumpy today.

Fr_Chuck
Mar 28, 2010, 06:44 AM
Can't take back words, but OK be honest, it bothers you, some, and you have the right to give her your opinion and be honest with her,

It is not saying you are sorry, it is being honest that perhaps it does bother you, so she knows it also.

Communication, if she is not willing to talk about it, you move on to another girlfriend

TheCopperBlade
Mar 28, 2010, 06:48 AM
Thanks, guys. I've left her alone for a couple of days, so I may try explain/being honest with her today.

But, how do I get her to believe that I don't mind that trait?

Apparently, I covered it with 'nasty lies', because I
Panicked in that situation.

I have her MSN also, so how should I approach her (as in, what should I say to trigger a conversation?)

She may still be pissed off with me, I don't know.

talaniman
Mar 28, 2010, 09:26 AM
Leave her alone dude, until she contacts you. Then you will know she is ready to talk, and not bite your head off.

How long have you been together?

TheCopperBlade
Mar 28, 2010, 10:14 AM
We've been together about 7 months. It's not too long, I know...

TheCopperBlade
Mar 29, 2010, 11:48 AM
Any help?

I wish
Mar 29, 2010, 12:51 PM
Why don't you leave her alone for a few days and let things cool off? While you're waiting, you should work on yourself. You sound really needy.

TheCopperBlade
Mar 31, 2010, 11:48 AM
While spending time away from her, I've pretty much become less needy.

Now... my plan is to; leave her alone a few more days, then I'll just send her a message on MSN.

Any ideas on what to actually SAY though?

I wish
Mar 31, 2010, 12:30 PM
She will contact you when she's ready to talk. Why not leave her alone until then?

When she contacts you, you will know for sure that she wants to talk.

You can't force her to respond to you.

TheCopperBlade
Mar 31, 2010, 01:11 PM
Well, you do have a point there.

But I'm probably just worried/concerned about her immediately 'moving on'.

spitvenom
Mar 31, 2010, 01:13 PM
Well, you do have a point there.

But I'm probably just worried/concerned about her immediately 'moving on'.

If she is going to move on she is going to move on no matter what you try to say to her. You can't control that.