My boyfriend has been taking care of his mother with ms and is ristricting him to not being able to get a job because he is her main care taker. They filled a form and got denied because his father "makes to much'' when really because of this government screwing him over he really doesn't. She can't walk, can't even lift her arms past her head, she can't wipe her own butt or shower by herself. I don't get how she doesn't qualify for anything. This family needs Help!!

What forms did your boyfriend and his mother fill out, for what agency or company?

I don't understand why he really doesn't make too much money to qualify - is there an error in the paperwork?

I have a neighbor with MS and she receives assistance through the local MS Association which helped her with paperwork, medical forms, personal interviews, which made the assistance possible.

Where else has his family looked for help?

If you are asking if your boyfriend can be paid for taking care of his mother, no, he can't under any program I am aware of. It's the same with a husband/wife - it's part of what you do when a loved one is sick.

Does your boyfriend never get a break? What about schooling?

EDIT: I've decided to be perfectly blunt. His mother has a progressive, incurable disease and cannot care for herself. Yes, he has to care for her 24 hours a day, apparently 7 days a week. (I have no idea where his father is.)

Does he realize how much his mother gave up for HIM when he was an infant, a baby, growing up? Maybe she got sick of wiping his butt, too.

You should both grow up.

He may get a paid care giver to come in though an agency if the parents insurance covers it.

Check with your county's Social Services. In some states, as here in North Dakota, there is a care program called, "Family Care Program/Plan." The family member who provides the full time care needs to go through the process of being certified by the state as a Qualified Service Provider, have a home inspection, provide menus, etc. It is not an easy process but done to weed out imposters or freeloading family members.

My boyfriend has been taking care of his mother with ms and is ristricting him to not being able to get a job because he is her main care taker. They filled a form and got denied because his father "makes to much'' when really because of this government screwing him over he really dosent. She can't walk, can't even lift her arms past her head, she can't wipe her own butt or shower by herself. I dont get how she dosent qualify for anything. This family needs Help!!!

Hello, Hope these help.

South Dakota 211
2-1-1 is a simple way to connect people with human services. 2-1-1 is the three-digit telephone number assigned by the Federal Communications Commission for the purpose of providing quick and easy access to information about health and human services. Professional Information and Referral specialists work with callers to assess their needs, determine their options and a best course of action, then direct them to appropriate programs/services, provide support, intervene in crisis situations and advocate for the caller as needed.


Home Care Services: MedlinePlus (http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/homecareservices.html)

Health and Nutrition: USA.gov (http://www.usa.gov/Citizen/Topics/Health.shtml)

Care-giver Live In in South Dakota - Find Local Elder Care Services at ElderCareLink.com (http://www.eldercarelink.com/Provider/Listing/Care-giver_Live_In/South_Dakota/1)

Take care,

Hope12

Am I missing something? Where does it say North Dakota/South Dakota?

There is no such program in NY, for example so I find the N/S Dakota sites to be very informative and worth posting.

Good research.

Why is this burden solely on the shoulders of the son and not shared equally by the husband? Makes no sense to me.

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