I(41) drove by in the wee morning hours to confirm my feeling my bf(38) was cheating Monday.. caught him... he has gotten caught before but we worked past it... probably without much repercussion... I decided this time to do something different than usual and get some space.. (not answer text messages he was sending).Wednesday night he was cheating again different woman... now he is acting as if I am the wrong party... maybe I shouldn't have drove by but my suspicion was right both times... he excused himself with the text message "sorry 4 not being ready i will grow up soon"... we had a business deal together so I had to talk to him for the first time yesterday since Wednesday night.. he is acting victimized... :confused:... so confused... my logic says don't talk to him unless it's about business... but I miss him... I think he doesn't care.. both times caught he left the women in the house got in car with me for more than an hour trying to talk... :confused::mad::(... I am at a loss... he says it's a flaw in him he coyuldn't ask for a better blessing than God gave him with me... insight please...

Caught cheating twice? No more chances, no more excuses, no more contact!! I have read your other posts, you can do better. When you accept bad behavior, you invite even more.

Thank you Talaniman... I needed that!! I must remember my worth... smiling

Why in the world would you put with this man? I just cannot

Fathom how you could even consider giving him a third or fourth

Chance? Your self esteem must be completely gone. He is a loser!

Leave him alone. He won't stop fooling around and if you think

He will, you are sorely wrong. Tell him where to get off. :rolleyes:

Time to dump the cheater.

Go no contact and end the business relationship asap.

Sorry but the guy is 38 and he's saying he needs time to grow I think he's grown now don't you?
I don't see how you can miss a guy like this.
Maybe next time he will bring the girl in your bed and say "don't you want to join us" then you will understand the guy will never respect you.

If he hasn't gotten his act together by 38, what makes you think that another 38 years will do any good.

Rid yourself of this cheater, it will be less frustrating for you.

I hate it when men try to blame everyone but themselves for their infidelity. :mad:

Why would you even consider staying with a man that constantly cheats? :confused: Are you going to keep forgiving him until he gives you an STD or until he gets one of his sex partners pregnant?

Seriously - get rid of him now. I can only see more and more heartache to come if you keep him around.

Look at it this way. If he REALLY wanted to change, would he have been sleeping with a different woman on Wednesday after just being caught on Monday? Even if he was going to PRETEND to care enough to change, you'd think he have waited at least a week to be a slimeball again, not two days. He doesn't care enough to PRETEND to change, so what makes you think he'll ACTUALLY change?

You teach people how to treat you. You keep going back so it's taught him that he can always have another chance.

No more chances. He's not a victim, he's a cheater and he doesn't deserve you.

Find a way to get out of the business with him, either you buy him out or he buys you out, then no contact. He has plenty of other women to keep him company, go find yourself a man that deserves you and treats you right.

You teach people how to treat you. You keep going back so it's taught him that he can always have another chance.

No more chances. He's not a victim, he's a cheater and he doesn't deserve you.

Find a way to get out of the business with him, either you buy him out or he buys you out, then no contact. He has plenty of other women to keep him company, go find yourself a man that deserves you and treats you right.

Let go the idea that there is a future for you! Would you really want a relationship with someone who cheats? If he does it once or twice he'll do it again! Sorry:(

I will give a different approach.
If he cheated on you Wednesday again, even though you caught him Monday, you actually did not have relationship with him as you thought to be. It is dead already, and not existing.
Please do not look back and move on.


both times caught he left the women in the house got in car with me for more than an hour trying to talk…he says it's a flaw in him he coyuldn't ask for a better blessing than God gave him with me.

He is not only a cheater, but a mentaly disorinted cheap actor. Are you really buying this BS? I am so amazed he played his retarded & foolish game with you, and you actually sat down with him in a car and listened to his BS both Monday and Wednesday, while he had women in his house.
How foolish is this!
Please regain yourself esteem ASAP! Run fast! You do not have hope with this retarded man. You can much better than this. Cheers!

I will give a different approach.
If he cheated on you Wednesday again, even though you caught him Monday, you actually did not have relationship with him as you thought to be. It is dead already, and not existing.
Please do not look back and move on.



He is not only a cheater, but a mentaly disorinted cheap actor. Are you really buying this BS? I am so amazed he played his retarded & foolish game with you, and you actually sat down with him in a car and listened to his BS both Monday and Wednesday, while he had women in his house.
How foolish is this!
Please regain your self esteem ASAP! Run fast! You do not have hope with this retarded man. You can much better than this. Cheers!








Forget him! Move on. Be glad you didn't marry the louse. Be more grateful you didn't have children with this man. Be strong and don't go back to him.. EVER!! :rolleyes: