I once met a lady almost five years ago. Very pretty lady that I see walking on the road for years.One day it was raining and I stop to give her a ride. She accepted the ride and I ask her where she was going,she told me she was going to town so I took her there.We had a good conversation and I gave her my number and told her if she needed a ride back to work she can call me. I waited but she called me an hour later and told me she was at work and she got back safe. Anyway we became friends after that and started talking she then told me that she was married so I told her I will back off but she told me that it was OK we could be friends.

We started talking more and more each day till she eventually became open with me and starts telling me about her personal life. I became so sorry for her and I started caring so much for her. I always try to comfort her so she could forget about all the unhappy moments at home. Our friendship became stronger and stronger and reached to a point that we fell in love. She is 20 yrs older than me but age don't really matter when it comes to love. She use to have to walk almost two miles each day sometimes more,rain or sunshine just because her husband don't wants to be in the traffic to pick up there own daughter from school.I always put out myself to help her and her daughter one day he found out someone was giving her a ride he got upset. I had to stop but we always had our friendship going. She would come an talk to me when anything go wrong. She could not go out, she could not talk to people,she could not sing on the choir at chursh,she could not go to the gym etc. One day I said to her why don't you get a divorce and she told me she asked for one and he did not want to and also she wanted to make her daughter happy.(her daughter see them fighting all the time so I don't know how she would be happy) Anyway I never try to push her to leave but I try to make her happy.She promise me that after her daughter finish school she would eventually leave we have our up and down because remember no relationship is perfect I really would not finish if I am to say everything but let me get to the point.

I promise to myself also god that I will never leave her and I will take how ever long to give her the real love that I know she deserves. Having to let her go because her husband don't want to se her being loved really hurts knowing that I made a comitment to myself and to her also. I think she also let material things(the house they built together) get to her and not thinking about her happiness. It reach to a point that I feel like ending my life. I cannot live without her don't matter how I try I really don't know what to do, am scared of hurting her in a way of doing something bad to myself.Can anyone talk to her for me? Is there anyone I can talk to I cried an cried an cried I cannot take the pain I am in I need help can someone help me please am scared to death.

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Until she leaves her husband, you're just friends, and while it hurts to see a friend in misery, its her misery to deal with.

You have fallen in way over your head, and need to back out of this situation. Its really not your business. Nor should it be.

This is between husband and wife, and you cannot commit to a married woman.

God does not bless adultery. If she is being emotionally abused when she's had enough she'll get out. Look at it from this point of view, she is using you maybe trying to feel young again. I don't think she'll leave her husband because if she were being abused then she wouldn't want her daughter in that kind of atmosphere. Woman who are abused do not go right out of one relationship into another if they have any sense at all.

Think of her daughter and think of her husband. Have you ever heard him or seen him being physically or mentally abusive to her? If you haven't then it's only her word. You are a fling and I'm concerned if her husband finds out you may be putting yourself in harms way. Leave her alone!

God does not want you taking another mans wife, so a promise to him to do so, is in my opinion more of a curse.

You needed and should still back off and hope she can be happy in her marriage

I gave her all my love and she promise to give me back when her daughter gets older we talk to god and he understands why we doing it. She also told me that she knew god sent me for her,an with saying all that to me I knew we were going be together I know she beleaves in him just like I do. I think she wants to leave but she is scared because she not from this country and she don't have much family here.I have made up my mind to stay away but I just wish she could really come out and tell me what's in her heart I pray that someone could talk to her for me I think she really need to talk to someone

I realize that you feel sorry for her situation and would like to help her out, but you need to face the facts. This woman is married... she's not going to leave her husband for you.

Leave her alone and let the chips fall as they may. Maybe her and her husband will work things out, if not, maybe someday they'll divorce, but you need to stay far away from the situation now.

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Iam trying so hard and asking the lord to help me I never knew I could love so strong


God knows what's best for me and I know he will help me

I am so hurt I don't think I can be around anymore

God knows whats best for me and i know he will help me

I am soo hurt i dont think i can be around anymore

What are you going to do? Don't let one woman ruin your life .
When you get through this you'll see there are other women out there.
SINGLE WOMEN!

Do you think I can ever love again?
Do you think any other woman can say they love me and I trust them?

Do you think i can ever love again?
Do you think any other woman can say they love me and i trust them?

If you give yourself time, I sure do. Don't be a victim! Stand up and walk away and you will be amzed at how wonderful the world is. Try it!:)

I tried to walk away so many times even before now that I can't see her anymore everything I do I just think about this woman sometimes I wonder if I am real for how much I love this woman I do anything for her I will make myself hungry just to feed her I will get run over by a truck just to save her I love her more than myself why do I have to be hurt for loving someone why me why me I can't cry no more

I tried to walk away so many times even before now that i can't see her anymore everything i do i just think about this woman sometimes i wonder if iam real for how much i love this woman i do anything for her i will make myself hungry just to feed her i will get run over by a truck just to save her i love her more than myself why do i have to be hurt for loving someone why me why me i can't cry no more

YOU NEED TO STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF. This woman is married and there is no use praying you will have a life with her. If you keep on letting her string you along you are going to get the heck beat out of you by her husband. She is playing you and she is playing her husband! Leave it alone!

Her husband won't even try pass his place I really would get on the wrong side sorry to say this but I hate him so much

I don't imagine her husband would be too happy with you either.

You may not think so at the moment, but there is a perfect girl out there for you. Problem is that you'll never find her unless you break away from this married woman. Stop obsessing and move on.

Thanks all for help I need to try get up and go for a walk I did not leave the house for 2 days now my whole body shaking

Another thing if someone is willing to talk to her just to tell her how I feel and to get her side of the story that would do so much good to me. You can leave me your contact information and I will get in contact with you
Please
Thanks again

I love you all

Thanks all for help i need to try get up and go for a walk i did not leave the house for 2 days now my whole body shaking

You are a grown man! Shame on you for being so weak! What are you doing ? She doesn't care and if you do something stupid it's not going to matter to her. Get some help!

So why you think I am here is not to get help?
Iam so sorry I will stop god will help he knows what happening to me so I guess he is the only one can help no man.
Thanks anyway

I feel so stupid now

i feel so stupid now

You are not stupid! This woman has got you so torn up she is making you feel horriblr about yourself. Leave her alone! You are going to end up in jail for stalking or her husband is going to find out. Yo didn't answer my question? Have you ever seen her husband abuse her emotionally or physically?

Its human nature I guess, we tend to want something that we can't have, and the more we can't have it the more we want it. Get your mind thinking how you were before. B4 you met her you had your life, You lived, laugh, and enjoyed yourself. For some reason you didn't have any relations with this woman but you fell for her hard. Your falling in love in your own fantasy, the fantasy of you and her being together, and that's not healthy. She has her life and you need to get yours back. YOu did this to yourself. You know she was married, but you still went for it. She's not going to leave but she wants you hanging around cause you're her prize. And it makes her feel good bcause she has a young man fighting for her. Your only a prize and an object to her. Stop run and never turn your head back. Just think this way, think that she's dead, she got ran over while she was walking to work. If you keep thinking that maybe you can't obsessed over that person you know. It's a try so do it.

its human nature i guess, we tend to want something that we can't have, and the more we can't have it the more we want it. Get your mind thinking how you were b4. B4 you met her you had your life, You lived, laugh, and enjoyed yourself. for some reason you didnt have any relations with this woman but you fell for her hard. Your falling inlove in your own fantasy, the fantasy of you and her being together, and thats not healthy. she has her life and you need to get yours back. YOu did this to yourself. You know she was married, but you still went for it. Shes not going to leave but she wants you hanging around cause your her prize. And it makes her feel good bcause she has a young man fighting for her. Your only a prize and an object to her. Stop run and never turn your head back. Just think this way, think that shes dead, she got ran over while she was walking to work. If you keep thinking that maybe you can't obsessed over that person you know. Its a try so do it.

You are doing a great job show! Way to go!

Lovesph

I sense your pain and frustration. I’ve actually been in a very similar situation before. Unfortunately, it did not end well in my case.

I also sense a bit of depression and maybe more from your posts. Talk of ending your life and hurting yourself is well beyond the advice dispensed at this forum. I would urge you to seek out professional counseling for yourself.

Lovesph

I sense your pain and frustration. I’ve actually been in a very similar situation before. Unfortunately, it did not end well in my case.

I also sense a bit of depression and maybe more from your posts. Talk of ending your life and hurting yourself is well beyond the advice dispensed at this forum. I would urge you to seek out professional counseling for yourself.

Listen to this guy! Nobody is worth ending your life!