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link22
Mar 20, 2010, 04:35 PM
Hey.. I was dating a girl for 1 n half years but we liked each other since 3yrs.. we were in love like totally.dint care about anything in or lives expect each other after we graduated from school she went abroad to study.then suddenly after 8 months of her being there things changed.I still loved her totally but she kind off started falling out of love with meh. And then we broke up a month agao but we have been in touch with each other.. no matter what happens I can't even think of moving on because it was so so great between us but I don't blame her because the situation became bad for us.. because we were very happy always when we were together.. now she is in india and I want to go and see her.. she still calls me her best friend and we talk but she doesn't call that much because she thinks she is giving me hope that she will come back.. she told a friend of her that she doesn't want to hurt me again but sometimes it seems like she is alreasy over me.. im totally confused what to do but all I know is I love her more than my life.. its impossible to not think of her.. I miss her each day more.. I don't know whether is should go to meet her and if I go should I tell her that I'm coming.. I don't want her to avoid me but I am in a doubt will she even want to see my face or notn how she will react when I am in front of her..
There are just a million question's to be answered..
She has been the most amazin girl to love and none of the friends can understand the love for her... I am wondering how after she being so in love with me just left me alone..
I am sure there is no other guy in her life..
I just want to know should I go or not and if I go how should I tell her I am coming..?

Kitkat22
Mar 20, 2010, 04:46 PM
I think it's over. Don't make it harder for her or you! It's over

She was honest with you and she doesn't want anything more than your friendship.

It's hard to get over a person who has been paart of your life for so long.

I'm sorry the only thing I can say is time heals all wounds and you will feel better as time goes by. I'm awfully sorry for you!

pandead
Mar 20, 2010, 04:53 PM
Yes, she sounds pretty clear, it's over for her.
And it was a pain for my eyes to read this.

Check this out before you post again ;)
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/no-chat-speak-no-text-talk-303157.html

talaniman
Mar 20, 2010, 08:51 PM
She has a new life and you have been demoted to just friends.

Save your traveling money, and your dignity, and self respect by accepting its over, and move on as she has.

Kitkat22
Mar 20, 2010, 08:59 PM
I agree with Talaniman. Don't waste your time or money!

amicon
Mar 20, 2010, 11:39 PM
Feelings change,life changes,and its time for you to move on.

You're hurting but you will get over her.

Stay away from the friendzone,save your cash and treat yourself to something that's just for you instead.

the_original
Mar 20, 2010, 11:53 PM
Being friends is the most difficult thing to pull off in the world, especially after one of those "crazy in love" relationships such as you described. It sucks bro, believe me but everyone's right time does heal all wounds, but it will take a lot longer if you go see her and set yourself up for a potential rejection again.

myagony1234
Mar 21, 2010, 05:08 AM
she still calls me her best friend and we talk but she doesnt call that much because she thinks she is giving me hope that she will come back..she told a friend of her that she doesnt want to hurt me again but sometimes it seems like she is alreasy over me..im totally confused what to do but all i know is i love her more than my life..its impossible to not think of her..i miss her each day more..i dont know wether is should go to meet her n if i go should i tell her that im coming..i dont want her to avoid me but i am jus in a doubt will she even wanna see my face or notn how she will react when i am in front of her..

She has gone long time ago by her own term.
I know you want to see her face, and try to convince her to come back to you, but it will only create drama, and you will have more heartbroken. Her feeling is faded, you have long distance, she is very reserved, and tries not to give you false hope.
I think the best way is just let it go, do not meet her, do not have expectation, and move on.
We all miss ex on and off , but most of time, it has no use, does not mean anything as much as you wish.

Kitkat22
Mar 21, 2010, 11:41 AM
It is over and she wants to be
JUST FRIENDS. Move on! Good Luck!