Hello everyone

I need you help please, I'm so frustrated. I met this guy earlly last year and we started as friends and after a month we took the relationship to the next level. I was crazy about him as he was about me. He would phone the whole day telling me how much he loved me.I could feel and see that I meant the world to him. As time went by he started being distant and he suddenly broke up saying he needs time. I begged and begged for him to not end the relationship but he was held back at not proceeding with it. We didn't see each other for a month and then I began to be over him and accept the situation. We work closer to each other and this year when I saw him again I just greeted him and I never said much to him. He started being friendly again, being all lovey dovey, making moves on me and he even said he was worried that I did'nt care about him anymore. Whilst all this was happening I was beginning to fall for him again and now all those feelings are back again. What confuses me now is that he doesn't say I love you anymore and when I say it he just say he loves me too but he won't say it unless I say it first. He won't even say he misses me or any nice things lovers do. When I asked him why is that he said even if he doesn't say it but I should know that he does. He doesn't make an effort of anything. The only thing he seems keen on discussing is how he can't wait for us to be together( I mean sexually), when we discuss that subject you can hear that he gets all excited.

I really love this guy and I wish he would'nt do this to me but I doubt that he still loves like he used to.

He wants you as a friend with benefits.
Down buy into that plan of his.

Stay away from him,heal and move on.

I agree you need to heal. I would say that he is maybe looking for the connection that sex gives but I really don't think that is the case here. I believe that he is more looking at you as a sexual object and that his attempts (as few as they are) are being made only to get you into bed. (I really don't mean to be rude)
I also suggest healing, you weren't even close to over him the first time, it takes longer than that. And you want a fresh new relationship with all the lovey dovey stuff to boot, I suggest healing and finding another person to fawn over after you've healed.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/search.php?searchid=6219674

What did you expect coming from a failed marriage, and hooking up with a guy who you jumped to the next level in a month?

Did you really think you would get a solid healthy adult relationship, within a month of meeting some one who had potential? What happen with getting to know someone well before giving them your all?

Too much, too fast, crash and burn. Not only did you move to fast, skip a lot of important steps, you should have taken, but look how high your expectations were for a fellow you just met.

Stop it, and let the dust settle, so you can at least establish who you are without a guy, and reflect on what you have been through.

As others have said, take the time to heal properly, not just from your break up, but a marriage you JUST got out of. Are you desperate, or just trying to prove something to yourself? Slow down, and enjoy exploring your freedom.

Then you won't expect a stranger to make you happy, nor will you be in such a hurry just to have one.

Are you saying this isn't one of your posts??

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/marriage/not-love-hubby-anymore-lover-just-ended-affair-388404.html

That's why I put the link first!! Not only were you married, and divorced, but a cheater, with another cheater, as well. So is this guy married too, or what?

Please explain, or eat that reddie!!