Let's cut to the chase, my best friend and I used to talk all the time and now we don't. I can't remember the last time she called to chat, I mean she's called me 3 times in the last 2 1/2 months, however it's only been because she needed something. She only texts me, which pisses me off to no end because I only put my cell on when I'm gone out, which I have explained to her a million times. She says she hates talking on the phone because that's what she does at work all day, I just think she's full of it, she used to call me all the time and now she doesn't and when I call her she's always busy. I also work using phones all the time and yet I still make the time to talk to the people that matter.

To top it all off, she has cancelled plans to get together with me 2 times now, I haven't seen her since I babysat her kids 3 months ago. We were supposed to get together tomorrow and she cancels via text, if I hadn't put my phone on today I wouldn't have known. I send her a message telling her that and she's like oops I forgot to call you, no big deal.

I just feel like she's so inconsiderate and I'm at the point where I want to tell her to go and F herself. Then there's a part of me that's like oh she's busy and I'm making excuses for her. I feel like she only calls when she wants something from me (babysitting, advice etc) or to gossip (she's married to my ex bro-in-law).

She never used to be like this. So what should I do?

Your friend may actually be really busy, but to me she sounds a little self-centered. Friendships are a two way street that takes effort from both sides. That goes for any relationship of any kind. Real friendship has to be worked and managed.

Just ponder your situation. Is she really a true friend? Does she ever make any effort for anything? If not, maybe you need to find a new friend.

Confront her - what do you have to lose?

This situation is obviously winding you up, so if I were you I would give her a wide berth for a while.

You get on with your own life... stress free... let her do her own thing.

Don't contact her in any way. Eventually she will wonder why she hasn't heard from you.

Lets see how long it takes.

I've tried to confront her but like I said she's always busy. I was going to talk to her tomorrow when we got together and just get everything out on the table, but of course she cancels. I gave her crap for not calling to cancel and for not calling me more often, I said I was sick of her excuses and that no one can be that busy. She just keeps saying how she's so busy and she's sooooo sorry that she forgot to call and I'm over reacting. I told her to call me when she felt like being a real friend.

Like I don't expect daily contact, I'm just saying a call once in awhile to touch base would be nice. I'm the friend that would drop everything to help her, I know that when the situation is reversed it's not the same. I have always been there for her, she picks and chooses. I know that friendship is a 2 way street and maybe it's better to part ways for the time being.

So should I maybe send her an email or something? Or just ignore her all together? I'd hate to leave things like the way they are but at the same time, I thik rehashing everything could make it messier. Any thoughts?