nagen
Mar 16, 2010, 07:59 AM
I am in my late 30's. I have come from another country and therefore have never known dating etc. I am married with kids. After my last kids was born, I was seeing a doctor for medical purposes regularly. I fought with my husband every day after my kid was born. I was not implementing what the doctor advised and the doctor was getting annoyed at every visit. One day he was really mad at me and then gave some excuses. Some how after that he started being nice to me. Once his assistant she made me talk and I told some trivial things happening at home. He never behaved inappropriately but from that time onwards I have a feeling he was having fun at my expense. He would be doing childish gestures to catch my attention. At first I thought it was part of the procedure but I would find his assistant laughing so hard behind him. Normally he would be in the room for couple of minutes but after this, my appointments got lengthier. I avoided looking at him, he would sit there for a very long time. I don't know what he would do, I guess he was just whiling away the time. I would catch his assistants smiling but I never really understood the culture here to understand anything. Like an idiot I kept going and going to him. I did not inform my husband as I thought the doctor was treating me as though I was special. On the last day of my visit, his assistant gave me lot of assorted candies in a ziploc bag. After that he did the work but there was no assistant. There was no inappropriate behavior. The only thing, I was about to leave and he asked me to wait, he said he will check me out and he just sat there writing the chart for a few minutes. I got the candies home for my kids and my husband was surprised they gave me candies. I don't recollect anyone getting candies in his office. I stopped going back to his office.
After several months when the problems in the home became intolerable. I went back to his office one day and made a fool of myself. He called my husband and in polite terms told him that I needed attention. I have come back a long way from there. My relationship with my husband has improved. In my country any minor incident outside of marriage is taken very seriously. I was raised the same way. Therefore I cannot accept that I acted so wrong. It is also bothering me that my kids and my family suffered so much because for six months I was not concentrating on my family. I was so depressed. It also bothers me that the doctor and his family are doing wonderful. I am angry at the doctor because he knew I was having problems at home and that I was in depression. I know legally there is nothing he did wrong but he should not have impressed himself on me at that stage in life. I went to psychiatrist for couple of visits, she was from my country and she told me I was lucky that I did not get divorced. She said I had postpartum depression and that I was hallucinating about the whole thing.
After several months when the problems in the home became intolerable. I went back to his office one day and made a fool of myself. He called my husband and in polite terms told him that I needed attention. I have come back a long way from there. My relationship with my husband has improved. In my country any minor incident outside of marriage is taken very seriously. I was raised the same way. Therefore I cannot accept that I acted so wrong. It is also bothering me that my kids and my family suffered so much because for six months I was not concentrating on my family. I was so depressed. It also bothers me that the doctor and his family are doing wonderful. I am angry at the doctor because he knew I was having problems at home and that I was in depression. I know legally there is nothing he did wrong but he should not have impressed himself on me at that stage in life. I went to psychiatrist for couple of visits, she was from my country and she told me I was lucky that I did not get divorced. She said I had postpartum depression and that I was hallucinating about the whole thing.