Hi
Am engaged for 3 months now, and the wedding should be after 2 months from now.
He is tender and loving, caring and responsible, most of the good qualities are in him.
But the problem is that he is 0 romantic .
We used to be a Bf Gf one and a half year ago, but since we got back together, I just can't feel that he's happy with me like he used to, he was not even excited when we talked about the engagement, and when I asked him for the reason he said that he is Preoccupied about things like our future home and kids and he's happy ( but I don't believe him ).
He tells me that he can't live a moment away from me and when we are on the phone he plays online poker, when we watch a movie he is always busy doing something and pretending like he is watching it with me.
My heart does not beat when he calls and when he tries to kiss me I pray for some one to interrupt so I don't have to kiss him back.
Am confused.
He never let me sleep a night while am mad at him, but for the last week, we fought twice and Three night passed and we are still not talking to each others.
Even if I made up my mind and decided to break up the engagement I don't know how to tell my family, they all love him and consider him as their own son especially that we are 4 female daughters with no male sons.
My both eldest sister's marriage are really bad, and my parents are hoping that mine will make up for my sisters faliers in picking their husbands.
So I don't know if calling off the engagement will be the right thing to do...
Please advice me
Thank you

Ignore what your family will do, say, or think. If you won't be happy, then you shouldn't marry him. It's clear you don't want to be in that relationship anymore. Forcing yourself to marry him, just to somehow make up for your sisters being unhappy in their marriages, will only make you miserable, bitter, angry, and you'll end up resenting him, yourself, and your family.

Save yourself the time, money, and heartache and end it now, while you still can. It'll only get harder if you wait until after you're married.

You have a choice to make. You can end it now before you spend a fortune on a wedding/honeymoon, and people attend with gifts, and he's welcomed officially into the family. Or, you can end it after you get married, and suffer the consequences and added stress, expense, and disappointment.

The only thing that matters is that you do not love him. Don't be duped into a marriage without love, it will never last, nor will you be happy. It is not a fault that you don't love him, but your reasons to carry on with this and go through with a wedding are not in your best interests.

He too deserves to find someone that is more compatible with him, and not tied down in a marriage to someone who does not love him. Let him go to find someone else before this goes too far.

You aren't a bad person for having a conscience about this, not at all. But, please think realistically here about what you have, and what you want. You will know in your heart that at least postponing is a better option than marrying right now.

I think you better end it now, or everyone including your own family will be a lot more miserable later.

PLEASE don't marry this man if you have any doubts at all. YOU (not your family) are the one that will have to live with him and it will be a nightmare. I know you're worried about what your family will think, but I'm sure your family loves you and just wants you to be happy!

Don’t marry him "for the sake of the your family", or to "preserve the status quo". No one will benefit if you act compliant in this, but secretly feel differently. You must tell your fiancé and family. DO NOT MARRY THIS MAN! It's way too hard to get out of later and you will definitely regret it if you don’t break it off.

It does not matter what your family thinks or do.

This will be the hardest decision to do, but are you truly unhappy with him. Or is there other things going on?

The way I see it is that you have been together for a while and the so called honey moon stage is over. It sounds like he treats you well.

You said he is loving and kind. My thinking if you do not work through it there is a possibility you will find somebody that excites you but then in the end treats you horribly then you will end up going down the same road as your sisters marriages.

So my advice is before making any final decisions. Get some counseling. Communication is not in this relationship and if he does not know that there is anything wrong. How the heck is he going to have any idea how to work on it more on his part. Relationships takes work on both sides. Not just the one. If there is no communication then nothing will change.

Tell him how you feel, be honest. Let him know the things you would like, give it some more time. There should be no rush to get married anyway.

Get some counseling for yourself and get your thoughts straight and give it a bit more time with each other after things are brought out in the open. If they change for the better.

If they do not then you know what you need to do. Do not base any of your decisions on families opinions in the matter of love and marriage none of their business..

You want to and will be happy by making your own decisions and what is best for you in your life. Just saying it would not hurt to be more open and communicate your true feelings to him and see where that takes both of you.