Hello, I have recently been dating this asian girl for 4 months now. She is, 22, foreign student so her english isn't all that great. On the other hand I am half asian, half hispanic, 28 (not that any of this matters). At first when we started dating she was non-stop calling me up to 20 times a day, checking my phone, always wondering where I'm at, and even started referring me to her "hubby". We even talked about getting married but at the same time it was more like "she" was talking about getting married. I on the other hand was just going with the flow but in all honesty she was the one rushing me. I know she needed a green card so I told her I would help her, regardless. In addition to being a student, she works 30+ hrs a week and I, on the other hand, have a degree and full-time job so the available schedule we have to see each other is razor thin. In other words, she is always getting into trouble with her parents (which whom she lives with right now). She is also always mentioning other guys and always trying to make me jealous and "testing" me. After all, she is a hottie and a lot of guys approach her. Me, I'm not the jealous type so I always have a "do whatever makes you happy" attitude with her and don't ask too many questions, if any at all. Also, she was a virgin at first. And because I took that away from her she seems to always want sex now, even more than me sometimes. However, the last time we had sex the condom COMPLETELY broke and we both agreed to get the Plan-B 72 hour pill. Meanwhile while all this was happening, she is still mentioning other guys (still doesn't bug me) and atop of this she is starting to get into A lot of trouble with her parents.

The last night I saw her - I went and got the Plan-B pill for her, tried meeting so I can give it to her but my phone died so I bailed home. She, instead, meet up in front of my apartment, said just to come down and give it to her as she didn't want to come up and then as I'm meeting with her she seems very upset and just mentions very bluntly that she needs space. She's asking me WHY I DIN'T EVEN CALL FROM A PAY PHONE if my phone died. I told her I didn't know her number by heart. So I want to know,. did I just lose her?

All in all, it was going great! And then this last incident seemed to of damper things a lot and her attitude has changed into a 360. No trying to make me jealous, no explaining why and atop of that I didn't even bother asking what was wrong because I have a hunch she's losing interest in me and didn't want to make a big deal about it.

So again,. did I just lose her?

I doubt it. This sounds like the kind of relationship that will always continue to be hot/cold = dramatic... so she'll probably reach out to you again.

You don't know her # by heart? That speaks volumes to me.

Once you got home, did you charge your phone and call her ASAP?

She's young and emotional, so I see a lot of cat and mouse games... if you are looking for something serious, you're going to have to move on. Trust me it will save you a lot of heartache in the long run.

Doesn't sound like a very healthy relationship. You seem to be faithful to her, but she's constantly feeling insecure about you. That's definitely something you two need to work on.

I hate to play devil's advocate here, but there's a chance that she's pushing marriage with you so that she can get her green card ASAP. Make sure that you know what you're getting into before jumping the gun with her. I would proceed with caution.

I think its more than a green card involved here, but she wants out of her parents house, and while you are going with the flow, you have enough facts to decide whether to continue with this young, confused, highly emotional, and insecure hottie. She has an agenda, and a bunch of personal issues. No wonder she is always in trouble with her parents.

You had to see how fast she latched on to you, and how she started very soon to check up on you and go through your phone. Worse, trying to make you jealous with talk of other guys. All red flags you better pay attention to.

Honestly your lack of setting standards, and boundaries, has made it okay for all these things to happen, and worse, all you worry about is losing her? You better look deeper into this female before the drama, and mood swings overshadow how hot she is. She knows she is hot, and how to use it, and she has let you know she has options.

She is only letting you miss her, so you can do things her way, or finding someone else who will. Either way, she has issues, and her own agenda, and you have a lot of red flags waving right in your face.