I'm not one to necessarily believe that every dream has to have some hidden meaning behind it but I do think our subconscious can sometimes affect what we think about while we are asleep. This dream in particular really bothered me and I was wondering if anyone might have some insight about dreams.

I woke up very angry this morning. When I woke up I looked over at my sleeping fiance' and I was enraged at the site of him. It was only when I fully woke up later and I remembered my dream did I realize why I was angry. In my dream my fiance' and I were in a darkened arena. We were in seats staring at a stage as if we were watching a play except that we were the only audience members and the people on stage had no idea they were being viewed. On stage was a scene of two young adults-- one boy and one girl who looked to be about the ages of 17. They were at the girl's job and appeared to be making small talk. I don't remember much about the boy but the girl was wearing a white tank top and a short denim skirt. The girl was washing the store front window facing us as she talked to the boy, and as she bent to wipe the window we could see her cleavage. I looked over at my fiancé and he was watching the girl with his mouth wide open practically drooling. When I said his name, he looked down at his pants and I followed his eyes to see that his groin was bulging in his jeans. When I reached my hand over I angrily asked "Are you aroused by this girl?" and grasped his crotch to find to my dismay that he was in fact aroused. I started arguing with him-- yelling at him and calling him a pervert-- pointing out that the girl was still in high school and calling him sick. I was disturbed that the girl that was so irresistible to him was at least 14 years his junior and someone I would consider to be a child, not to mention the fact that he was attracted to someone other than me.

Then the weird thing was that while we were fighting, in my head I heard a stranger's voice telling me not to be mad and to use the opportunity to my advantage. The voice told me to lead my fiancé away from the scene and to a quiet corner and take advantage of his aroused state by making love to him. But I felt to hurt and betrayed. So I pushed those words out of my mind and continued to fight with him until I woke up from the dream. I remained very angry at my fiance' all morning although I knew it was silly to be angry at him while he was sleeping and had done nothing wrong. What could this dream mean?

It sounds like insecurity to me, and in your dream state you needed to create a reason for it, so you did.

You may suspect or doubt your fiance's fidelity, or commitment. Perhaps you are stressed with planning a wedding or getting married to him, or the two of you have been not communicating well.

I think the worst thing any woman can face is that her mate is visually attracted to another woman, sometimes in a major, drooling way as you described yours to be. It could be one woman, or it could be many women, but such a reaction is disturbing.

But as a person who has been married almost 34 years, I can tell you that they never stop looking. I have learned that even though he looks and it ticks me off, 10 seconds after its happened he's drooling over something else, like a new car in the car lot.

I understand the 'hangover' after such a dream. It is hard to shake the emotions attached to it, because it was a real manifestation of something, most likely your insecurity with him looking, or thinking about or interracting with, other women.

Try to just see it for what it is, and not give it another thought. Let him know what you had a dream about, and let that be the end of it.

The little voice in your head giving you advice as to how to handle him when he was arroused, was a good one. Jump his bones and he'll quickly forget the 'other' woman.

Lol at the drooling at a new car on the lot. You really put it into perspective for me. And I think I know now where that dream came from-- I remember a few weeks ago I caught him looking at a young girl's myspace pictures and the way he shut the page down and acted made him seem guilty. I let it go but I guess my mind didn't. I'll take your advice and try not to over think it. After all, it was a dream and thinking is what caused it in the first place :) Thanks again-- you have really great relationship advice. You should have your own column I think.