My boyfriend and I were together for about a year and then he slept with my best friend. He was/is my first love. He ended up cheating on her with me by my call... the thing is; I can't get over what he did. If anyone could help me out with this; or at least talk to me about it and give me their opinion I'd greatly appreciate it. Thank you!

It's hard to let go of first loves, but you have to do what's best for your well being. Trust is essential in a relationship and he's already betrayed that trust and so did your friend. There's nothing wrong with giving someone a second chance but sometimes it's not the best thing to do for yourself. It can be scary to let go of people we are familier and comfortable with but if you feel that you can never get past that betrayal then that may be the course you need to take. If he cheated on you once who's to say he won't do it again? Your first priority is yourself. Do what is going to make you happy in the long run. If it were me I would end both relationships, some people aren't worth keeping around and a true friend would never have slept with your boyfriend. Wouldn't you rather spend your time and energy on people who treat you right.

Was he her boyfriend first?

Does it really matter?
He scR**'ed someone else!

I don't think you'll ever be able to trust him again. The issue here is this.. You loved him and he said he loved you. He has broken that trust.

I suppose moving on and getting him out of your life is going to sound trite, but it's what you need to do.

There are three lives that have been changed.. yours.. your former best friend and the guy.


He'll move on to someone else and leave you and your friend wondering why you ever fell for him in the first place. Bless You and you can keep posting. There are some great folks here who will give you some great advice.

How can any relationship last without trust. Trust and respect are the core , isn't it?
Do you want to be looking over your shoulder - or his/hers , always? Don't sound like fun, ey!

It's not the end of the world sweetie... some guys cheat. Some girls cheat. Don't waste any more time on him. Need to ask you. Who cheated first? Was he with her when you two cheated?

Please.. more facts?

You could say he was with her.
MMmmmm you! Complicated.

Jenny , when you say "he cheated on her with you, by your call"... it leads me to believe you were the one who broke up a relationship between your friend and him.

If this is true.. then apparently he still has feelings for her. Enlighten me.

Who are you?
How do I speak to someone?