whichwaynow
Mar 8, 2010, 01:11 AM
Has anyone had experience with trying to divorce a Borderline Personality Disorder person.
We have been together for 17 years, married for 12.
No legal children together, but she had four kids. Three are out and have kids, one 17, is still at home.
It has been a rocky road,, she absolutely MUST control everything. Finances, where we live, decisions... how I must maintenance the car or even how to do a woodworking project. Insane, there is nothing that is US or even me... all her.
She claims that she will destroy me if I divorce, however, she tells me to leave every other day. I know this is just another form of control...
She does not have an income by choice. Or rather, she "claims" to be disabled, however does not receive ssdi. Her 4th appeal was just denied again after 13 years of attempts.
I am a disabled veteran. I receive 1400 a month. I do also receive unemployment, but it will soon end... my doctor does not want me to work anymore.
She insists that I am being lazy and that is why I am not working. Uhh, hello. Not many people are working right now.
Truth be told, I am tired of working just for her to spend as she wishes. I feel like a slave who has been castrated. I serve only one purpose,, to make her money.
It kills me to think that I would have to pay her my entire disablility check plus probably more if she gets her way. I would still have to try to work for the rest of my life just to make spousal support payments to her. Honestly, I would rather put a bullet in my head. Sad but true.
She has threatened me that she will draw up her own divorce papers and that if I don't agree to her terms, she will destroy me..
She is quite capable of making any story believable... a master manipulator. She could do it in her sleep. And her three grown girls would back anything she can come up with.
Really sucks. Here, I have put myself out there, supported them all these years when I did not have a legal obligation to do so, and they all turn on me with one word from their mother...
I am in Oregon, portland. Does anyone know of a good resource.
Questions...
Is there a chance that a judge will be fair so that I won't be left destitute and under her power for the rest of my life.
I don't have access to my money without making her homeless, which I don't think would look good in court, and that is not what I want to do to her and my son... do you think there is a way to get help and pay later?
I don't know which way is up anymore... thanks
We have been together for 17 years, married for 12.
No legal children together, but she had four kids. Three are out and have kids, one 17, is still at home.
It has been a rocky road,, she absolutely MUST control everything. Finances, where we live, decisions... how I must maintenance the car or even how to do a woodworking project. Insane, there is nothing that is US or even me... all her.
She claims that she will destroy me if I divorce, however, she tells me to leave every other day. I know this is just another form of control...
She does not have an income by choice. Or rather, she "claims" to be disabled, however does not receive ssdi. Her 4th appeal was just denied again after 13 years of attempts.
I am a disabled veteran. I receive 1400 a month. I do also receive unemployment, but it will soon end... my doctor does not want me to work anymore.
She insists that I am being lazy and that is why I am not working. Uhh, hello. Not many people are working right now.
Truth be told, I am tired of working just for her to spend as she wishes. I feel like a slave who has been castrated. I serve only one purpose,, to make her money.
It kills me to think that I would have to pay her my entire disablility check plus probably more if she gets her way. I would still have to try to work for the rest of my life just to make spousal support payments to her. Honestly, I would rather put a bullet in my head. Sad but true.
She has threatened me that she will draw up her own divorce papers and that if I don't agree to her terms, she will destroy me..
She is quite capable of making any story believable... a master manipulator. She could do it in her sleep. And her three grown girls would back anything she can come up with.
Really sucks. Here, I have put myself out there, supported them all these years when I did not have a legal obligation to do so, and they all turn on me with one word from their mother...
I am in Oregon, portland. Does anyone know of a good resource.
Questions...
Is there a chance that a judge will be fair so that I won't be left destitute and under her power for the rest of my life.
I don't have access to my money without making her homeless, which I don't think would look good in court, and that is not what I want to do to her and my son... do you think there is a way to get help and pay later?
I don't know which way is up anymore... thanks