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HappyDays97
Mar 3, 2010, 12:32 PM
I've Liked Him For A While And We Hang Out A lot But He Recently Broke Up With My Best Friend.. Do I Ask Him Out Or Not?

AmericanGirl01
Mar 3, 2010, 12:58 PM
In the dating world, there are several rules that aren't discussed openly. Whether you can date your best friend's ex falls into this category of tricky dating questions.
If there were a black and white answer, it would be no. However, there are unique circumstances where it may be okay to date your best friend's ex. If Your best friend has said clearly, "I don't care if you date my ex," and you truly believe they meant it. You mentioned that they recently broke up. Give him time to heal from the relationship or else you’re just going to be the rebound girl.

If you are truly best friends like you say you are, you would firstly discuss your feelings with your friend before pursuing this any further. This is not worth destroying your friendship.

I wish
Mar 3, 2010, 02:13 PM
One word: Boundaries

Have you been waiting on the sidelines for them to break up so that you can make a move?

How do you think your best friend would feel?

How old are you?

AmericanGirl01
Mar 3, 2010, 02:58 PM
I agree. Boundaries!

However, I have seen people make this work before but with that being said, it's extremely rare.

It is much too soon to the breakup for you to even be considering this! If I were your best friend I would assume that you were just waiting the whole time to make your move. If you care about your friend, you would allow her time to heal first before you even consider any of this!

In those special circumstances that people make this work, it takes a lot of maturity from all parties involved and I get the feeling you're much too young. This will probably end very, very messy.

Is this guy even worth it?

ThatGirrl!
Mar 3, 2010, 04:17 PM
Woah, I did that. Let me tell you that it doesn't work out. How long were they together? Did they go through a lot? Were they happy?

amicon
Mar 3, 2010, 11:06 PM
Not a good idea-let your friend heal from the breakup and leave her ex alone.

talaniman
Mar 5, 2010, 12:33 PM
NO, absolutely not! Get your own b/f, not your friends throw away.

AlwysConfezzled
Mar 6, 2010, 07:38 PM
If your friend broke up with him, it is probably OK. If he broke it off, NOT A GOOD IDEA!

jmjoseph
Mar 6, 2010, 07:45 PM
You have to ask yourself what is more important. Your friend? Or the hot guy that just stopped dating your friend?

What would your friend say if you asked her first?