So, I have known this guy for a little over a year now. We met at my old university and were pretty close friends, always hung out, talked online, and on the phone etc. but I had a boyfriend at the time so nothing ever happened between us. I transferred schools to the opposite coast at the beginning of this year and obviously haven't seen him in a long time, but we still manage to talk a LOT. He texts me just about every day, we talk about everything, and every week or so we have really long phone conversations, but I'm just not sure if he's just talking to me as a friend or something more.

I feel like he likes me as more than a friend because he flirts like crazy with me occasionally and also he wouldn't be putting in so much effort to talk to me all the time if he didn't like me, but at the same time I'm not so sure. We joke around a lot and I'm never the kind of girl that will gush over a guy. Occasionally he calls me "dude" and "broski" and I don't know if that is just something he calls everyone because he's from Southern California or if he is just calling me that to make sure I know that I'm just a friend. I haven't really made it explicit that I like him either though, and I don't know if it's just a defense mechanism.

I also just found out that something happened with this girl and him (it sounds like they were kindof involved and she dumped him or something of that nature) and he's really upset about it. He had never mentioned this girl to me before, but he's really upset about it so he finally told me what was going on.

This definitely makes me think that I'm just a friend, but how do I know if he has any feelings for me as more than a friend?

Just wait and see if he makes the move.. Or you can just ask. What's the worse thing he can do if you ask? Say noo.. so go for it! Ask him!

A lot of people probably don't agree with me on this one. But I personally think, when a straight guy, and a straight girl are close friends, like really close, there is always feelings there that are more than friend feelings. To me a guy and a girl that are straight, when they become close, its because they like that person more than just a friend. I am not saying they always act on those feelings. But there is always more feelings present by one or the other.

Also on that note, his feelings could have changed over time, with your move, and him having a girlfriend.

I can understand you wondering, but hope you don't get carried away by the thought, and curiosity. You had a boyfriend that kept you distracted, and he was a friend, now he is getting dumped, and becoming available, so I think its natural to wonder about having more with your friend.

Keep it friends for now though, and avoid assuming how he feels about you, and getting carried away by how you feel about him.

Friends of the opposite sex often have strong feelings of curiosity concerning each other, that's natural when neither is distracted by other romantic interests to fill their time.

Before I got married I often had those thoughts with my female friends at the time, but it was always between love interests. Never acted on them though, and they are still friends, just family friends now.