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This is kind of long, but I really need help!

I've seen her a couple of times before. I saw her again at a soccer game this past Wednesday when mexico (team) came to play in san francisco. She went up to me and asked for my ticket to see if she sat around us (she was with her friend, I was with my friend and brother). She had the same row as us, and on that moment I thought that it was a sign, saying that I should get to know her. So we stayed together till we found our seats. They (her and her friend) ended up sitting on the same row, but like 8 seats away from where we were sitting. They were alone, and it took me like 5 minutes to decide (im a really shy person) but I got up from my seat and went up to them and asked them if they wanted to sit close to us so we can keep them company, and she said no. she said no because she was expecting family members to come (sit next to them). At first I felt rejected, but then she was actually telling the truth.

I was a bit mad (didnt show it) inside because that was my perfect opportunity to get to know her. I don't even know her name. I was hoping that after talking for over 90 minutes I could get her number in the end, but it just didn't happen.

This happened Wednesday and I still feel really bad, I can't stop thinking how that was my perfect chance.

But like I said, I've seen her a couple of times before, and I know where she works. I'm NOT a stalker, she works in a soccer place where they sell soccer stuff and I go there often to buy stuff, so don't get the wrong idea.

I want to go see her, I feel like I have to, I know that was a sign. But I know I will die of shyness once I see her. I can't help myself, I'm a really shy guy. And when I shy I forget everything I want to say. I can't control myself.

Now, I'm not like those kinds of guys where they just want to get some and then leave, I really fell for that girl and I want to get to know her... I want to see her tomorrow but I need help.

Thanks.

Hopefully I can help. The trick is relaxation. Easier said than done when you're scared stiff I know. I had the same problem. But one thing you can not do is bring a wing man that knows women better than you, they are lady killers and chances are the girl will not be looking at you but at him instead. You want her attention on you and you alone. Another thing, Women like men to approach them but stay a mystory. You can not be shy if you do not tell her a lot about yourself. Leave yourself in the dark and she will want to know more. Ask only about her and what she likes and do not seem too eager to get her number or anything like that. Find some way to give her your name and tell her to Facebook you, then on face book you can engager her in a non- person 2 person conversation and you can say just about anything you want to with a lot less fear of being judged. Remember this isn't some bimbo you met on the net though, you want to win her heart and you want to be sweet but at the same time stay distant. And you really want her to fawn over you (this is underhanded and dirty but I'd do it) try staging an accident that you end up helping someone up from. Like have a friend (probably someone that can play an old woman) and have them act like they are in some sort of trouble, you come to the rescue right in front of the fare maiden and boom instant studd. So long as she either never finds out you set it up or you find a way to jokingly tell her the truth. If she finds out on her own it could really really be trouble down the road. (i.e. "our entire relationship was based on a lie?!") Try to find a way to tell her that will make her laugh. Laughing is the perfect way to open a girls spirit too. Women love a good sense of humor. Well good luk bro, happy hunting

Or you could go to her soccer store that she works at, and go ask her "where do I find some balls?"
Then she will look at you oddly, and you say "I have been wanting to ask you out, ever since i first saw you, but i dont have the balls!"

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i met her at the soccer game, she and her friend approached us, saying they didnt know exactly which way to go to find their seats, so they stayed with us. out of all the seats they would sit in, they sat in the same row as us, but like 5-8 seats away from us. i went up to them and asked them nicely if they wanted to sit next to us, since they were by themselves, and the seats next to me were empty, and they said they couldnt because they was waiting on more people. at first i felt rejected, but then later on she did say the truth and family members did end up sitting next to them. i wanted to get to know one of them, and i thought to myself that would be the perfect chance, but i guess i was wrong.

then, over the weekend, i went to a soccer store where they sell jerseys, and i saw the exact girl i wanted to get to know. at first i acted like nothing ever happend, but then i was like 'hey you was the girl i saw at the game huh..' and it went from there. it was a really short talk, because i was too nervous. i dont remember if she was nervous as well, i guess so.

then on monday in the school, i talked to my friends about her, and they said she goes to this school (school i go to), and she was a senior (high school) student like me. i was pretty shocked, as i never seen her in school before.

then the next day, in my teacher assistant class, i was sent to pick something up from some other class, and i saw her right there. i usually look around to see if i know anybody in class, but when i saw her, i looked at her the most out of everybody. i tried to say hi, but she was doing her work, but her friends were looking at me and giggling or something. im not sure.


anyways, i feel like all of this has been a sign, saying that i have to get to know her. im a really shy guy so yeah.

i dont know her friends, i dont have any classes with her, and i even barely see her around in school. i found out what classes she has (not stalking) so i can walk near her classes to see her and at least say hi, but i still dont even see her.

what is the best thing to do? something that isnt too obvious! i want to be her friend first, and see what goes from there.