When truck gets warm the headlights start blinking on and off what could cause this?also where is the headlight relay located for my 1990 dodgr w-150?

Check your charging system:

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There may be a problem with the alternator (worn brushes) or voltage regulator. I suspect that the alternator needs rebuilding or replacing. Disconnect the negative battery cable, prior to working on the charging system.