This is a LONG story here, I need help with this breakup…It’s killing me…

Ok, well it all started about a month about 19 of January when me and this girl started dating. She messaged me on Facebook and asked me why I was single. I said I don’t really know, then things went from there. We started talking and the relationship took off, pretty fast too. She is 15 and I am 18 and we both live one county apart. I do not fully drive yet and she can't anyway. Basically my first REAL love.

We started calling and texting a lot and some conversations got all lovey dovey and stuff. We would stay on the phone for HOURS (1-2) at a time and some conversations got serious like “you’re the only one I ever want” and we started talking about raising a family in the future. Things progressed and Valentines Day soon approached. We met for the first time the week before Valentines Day on the 7th at the nearest Walmart in her town. I bought her a teddy bear and we kissed and stuff. She left and it seems she had a good night seeing me for the first time.

Well, after that day it seems that slowly our texts and talks on the phone would shorten. She would say things like, g2g mom is taking phone and stuff which I believed. But things progressed and from the lack of seeing each other a lot I started to worry and became paranoid and thought I began to smother her and bug her. So I asked her over the phone, several times in fact and she would always say no. I began to call her and text her A LOT and ask questions on suspicious things…

Things went on and we had little tiny fights about me worrying and stupid stuff like that and I told her that I think the reason for me being that way is because we never see each other a lot. So, we planned a date which took place last Saturday February 20th with my mom, cousin, me and her. We went to the movies and me and her watched a separate movie from what my family watched. We had talked before about getting lovey dovey and how we couldn’t wait to “do stuff” (like kiss and stuff) at the movies. Well, we started watching the movie and we tried kissing, then we didn’t do much after our first kiss. She laid her head on my shoulder, I laid my head on her head, held hands, etc… Things went on that day and it seemed that the lovey dovey stuff we talked about over the phone wasn’t true and she dident want that.

I asked her why and she said she’s not that affectionate in public. I said, well, OK. Come Monday, she broke up with me…I asked her why and she said She needs a break, she's feeling smothered and just wants to be friends for now. She said things are getting crazy with everything that’s going on in her life and she feels that we rushed into the relationship and wants to be friends and start over slowly.

Later on, I did some investigating while heartbroken and found out from a girl that goes to her school that my girlfriend had apparently danced on February 13th with HER boyfriend and my girlfriend told him that she wasn’t dating me so it was OK. I asked the girl was my girlfriend the kind of person that goes from one guy to the next? And she said yeah.

I don’t know if it's that she's mad at my ex and its all rumor or what but I really don’t know. I also don’t know if she is dating this guy or trying to date this guy or what's going on. I want to believe that she does need a break because I did kind of smother her because I loved her… I need help with this, I loved her and I want her back. Thanks for taking the time to read this. I need help from the experts. Please help me find closure!
What should I do?

After you met up,it just didn't happen,and she's only fifteen.
She is too young to be dating anyone seriously.

You move on by going no contact and start living your own life again.

Read the stickies as the top of the relationship page for more advice.

Should I be friends with her still or what? She still wants to be friends and stuff.

No,friendship at this point is not a good option-you had guite a few emotions invested in her and you need to heal from the situation.

That's why I suggested no contact.

Time to move on defiantly. She is not as invested in this relationship as you are.

Should you still be friends?

Well in my opinion, and this isn't said to offend, but this wasn't a real relationship. You both ran much too fast into a loving relationship and attempted to fabricate a foundation for a relationship that wasn't actually there.

What do you have in common?

If you feel a friendship with this girl would benefit you and wouldn't affect your healing process then go for it. But really I think going NC will be the best for you. It's hard to get burned and if this girl has acted so recklessly with your feelings to have seen two boys at once then really I think leaving her to herself is the best option.

Best of Luck.

Well, thing is, when we went on this date last Saturday, she became real good friends with my cousion (which is a girl) and related to her a lot. She likes my family apparently when she met them. She did say she still likes me and stuff but, I don't really know.

For the past two days, I haven't been texting her, she's been texting me instead.

Your friends and family are your greatest resources. They are the people that will pick you back up off the floor when you need it most.

So you are going to share these very important people with a girl that hasn't shown you the respect you deserve?

Your choice, but I wouldn't.

Leave the young thing alone, as you would only think you still have a shot at romance, and she doesn't feel that way. Typical of young girl behavior. Focus on girls your own age that you can actually date, as this on line flirtation, and text buddies stuff, was entertaining, and thrilling while it lasted, but had no substance to hold it together. (not on her side any way).

Do some real dating, with real females, and have REAL fun, and don't be part of another growing pains situation.

It's not that I'm sharing my family with her, she choose to be friends with her, I didn't force it upon her.

My ex added her in her phone and my cousin added my ex in hers. To whether they talk anymore is unknown but it's only been 2 days since the break up...

I would advise taking Tal's advice and moving on.

"Never make a person a priority in your life, while allowing them to make you an option in theirs."

This is a VERY good quote and I'm glad I came here. You guys have been a big help.

I'll report back tomorrow on how day 3 goes. It's going to take awhile to get out of this blue funk that I'm in.

It's hard but you will get through it. Keep us updated and you in the driving seat.

Best of Luck.

Ok guys, I think I've reaced the anger stage. I'm slowly getting better and I'm going to use this anger for a good cause to better myself in the long run.

I talked to her today and I finally realized, she's young and doesn't know what real love is yet. If she's stupid enough to dump me when she needed someone to take away her past and make her a future, then she don't deserve to have a future... We decided to stay friends but I'm not going to contact her very often at all. If she has any interest in me, she would contact me.

I'm going to use this anger and make myself better for the next relationship by working out, seeing what I did wrong in this relationship, and by just plain moving on...