After 2 and a half years, my girlfriend told me she doesn't think she loves me anymore (in a night full of tears). This was because she said I had been moaning the past few weeks as she's been going out so much, and that I think she chooses her friends over me. I rarely go out (even though I'm quite popular) because I choose to stay home due to the fact if I went out as well we'd never see each other. This is pretty much the only thing getting her down.
After our chat she didn't seem to enjoy being with me anymore, because she had upset me so much. I completely forgave her for everything as I just wanted to get on with our relationship, but she can't stop using it as an excuse to go out. I mean, how unfair is that? I'll give you an example.. "I'm going out with my friends again tonight" "I thought we were having a night together? It's been ages" "Well if i stay here i'll just make you upset again, and you don't deserve that". I have always been the one to do everything in the relationship, and she sits back while I do it all. Since starting university last year it seems like all she's wanted is the single life, and she even admitted that she hasn't been as attracted to me as she used to be, and feels weird when we're together, and she's been forcing herself to fall back in love with me but it isn't working. She's the type of girl who bottles her emotions, instead of talking about things and sorting them out before it gets worse. Now she doesn't think those feelings will come back, and said she wants to make things work, but had made no effort this past week to do anything about it. Also, she makes me feel like I'm to blame, because I don't give her enough space. Bare in mind that except for most sundays, I see her for an hour on Tuesday, 2 on Wednesday, Thursday evening and that's it, and I live a few minutes away.
I feel like she's in the wrong, and of course so does she, so give me your opinions on that or what I could possibly do.

Not sure if that all made sense so if you need clarification let me know.
And by the way, I'm 22 and she's 18.

Thanks in advance.

It sounds like she wants to get out of the relationship. You should break up with her if things have been bad for a while and the outlook is bleak. If she's not willing to work things out with you, then there is no point in trying to force her to get together with you. It doesn't sound like you're forcing her to do anything, but would like her to be with you. However, this is the case in most people's situations.

Maybe she is just afraid of settlement. I am 21 and have been tied down since I was 18... I love my life and would not change it for the world.
But in the first two years I had second thoughts about committing myself to just one person for the rest of my life considering my age. She may come around but SHE NEEDS TO KNOW YOU SUPPORT HER AND LOVE HER. And SHE should try staying home more often and making time for you and her. I understand that being young has a million and one advantages but if she expects to get any where in life she is going to have to mature a little more and get used to the casual life of love. This does not mean that she has to put her friends on the shelf, but she should cut down the time she is out with them by just 40%. The more time you two can spend together enjoying each others presence the more you all will know each others true feelings. If she is unwilling to give you a little more of her time for what ever reason than she is just ready to go run around and be a young adult. She may just be looking for some freedom as young as she is. I would talk to her about spending just a LITTLE MORE time with you.

Geez guy its not hard to figure she is having her fun and if you have to see her every night then she is not the one for you.

Ever think that this thing has run its course and that you have grown apart?

That's what it looks like from here.

I think everyone needs a life independent of their significant other, but when someone only manages to see you 5 hours a week, then there's some serious problems. It's actually like a slap in the face.

When a relationship is as young as yours, you should love spending time together.

I think she wants her single life back and is afraid to tell you straight out. By playing the blame game, she's hoping you get the hint that it's over.

I think it's time for you to move on and find someone who actually cares about you and enjoys your company.

I am in the same situation as you . But my girlfriend and I have just broken up . She has found a new man already which seems fishy to me but she swears it's the way it has worked out and I believe her. I want to be at least friends with her because we live in a really small town. It sounds stupid but the only person to help me through it ,is her . I am probably going to cut contact for a while and hope something like a best friend relationship or she realises what she has lost. That the best I can think of I want her to be happy. I love her like a friend and as more and she now only loves me as a friend . It's the most difficult thing I have ever done and I don't know what I'm going to do, but ill have to cope somehow with or with out her there's no point in dwindling on the past look to the future what's right for you won't go by you.