View Full Version : Does ignoring the guy that likes you does that make them like you more
MadisonKnudsen
Feb 20, 2010, 09:11 PM
me and this guy like eachother but he wont ask me out and he says its cause im taller than him and he keeps not liking me anymore but he wont even tell me and now he kinda likes me again and my friend said i should flirt with other ppl in front of him and ignore him cause it would make him jealous and he will like me more is that true?
Wondergirl
Feb 20, 2010, 09:14 PM
No. He probably won't even notice. Plus, it will make you look desperate.
Instead, you ask HIM out.
MadisonKnudsen
Feb 20, 2010, 09:30 PM
How come it would make me look desperate
And I use to keep telling my friends to talk to him about us and I think he gets over whelmed by that
Wondergirl
Feb 20, 2010, 09:33 PM
how come it would make me look desperate
Actually, rather than desperate, I should have said mean. You'd be flirting with guys you aren't interested in. What if one started thinking you like him a lot because you are flirting with him?
MadisonKnudsen
Feb 20, 2010, 09:37 PM
Well he flirts with other people in front of me and he sometimes has a weird look on his face when this certain girl comes and flirts with him right in front of me and the look is like he doesn't want her touching him
Wondergirl
Feb 20, 2010, 09:40 PM
well he flirts with other ppl in front of me and he sometimes has a weird look on his face when this certain girl comes and flirts with him right in front of me adn the look is like he doesnt want her touching him
I think you'd do better just ignoring him, or at least treating him like anyone else.
MadisonKnudsen
Feb 20, 2010, 09:43 PM
What do you think that will do?
Cause I do want to date him
Wondergirl
Feb 20, 2010, 09:46 PM
what do you think that will do?
cause i do wanna date him
Then forget all the drama and ask him out! (How old are you?)
MadisonKnudsen
Feb 20, 2010, 09:51 PM
I'm afraid he'll say no, 14
Wondergirl
Feb 20, 2010, 09:52 PM
im afraid he'll say no, 14
What will happen if he says no?
Wondergirl
Feb 20, 2010, 10:02 PM
Where would the two of you go on a "date" at your age? Back then, I went to church-sponsored group youth activities like picnics at Niagara Falls, hikes at Letchworth State Park, square danced, played volleyball, bowled, sang Christmas carols to shut-ins, etc. Would there be school-sponsored things you could go to, like to a play or a choral performance?
MadisonKnudsen
Feb 20, 2010, 10:05 PM
It would be weird if he said no and yeah there is a lot of places to go on dates how old are you
Wondergirl
Feb 21, 2010, 12:13 AM
it would be weird if he said no and yeah there is alot of places to go on dates how old are you
You ask, "A bunch of us are going to the Nature Center on Saturday. Would you be interested in going with us?" If he says no, tell him he will miss a really good time, but that's okay. (Oh, and I'm 64.)
MadisonKnudsen
Mar 7, 2010, 02:18 PM
When a guy can't act himself around you what does that mean and what does it mean when he can ast himself around a girl
Me and this guy have had a thing for a while but he's not aloud to date but then his friend told me he was so I asked him about it and he got really mad at me and was like why can't you just trust me and then he read my texts and got mad about what me and this other guy talk about and he gets so mad at me all the time and he ignores me and doesn't want to talk to me and he makes me feel bad sometimes and he doesn't even want to talk about it and when he's done being mad he doesn't even tell me I have to find out through other people and like my friend said(the same friend that told me he is aloud to date) that he doesn't like me anymore and that he's still mad and on Friday he was like really depressed and I asked his friend(same guy that told me the other stuff) why and he was like saying its cause he knows you don't like him anymore and he's going to miss that and how like he's going to miss it cause if he was rejected by another girl he would have me to fall back on so I'm pretty much was he rebound girl and I'm pretty sure the guy that told me this isn't lying cause he wouldn't lie about that. But I still like this guy should I get over him?
Devorameira
Mar 7, 2010, 02:32 PM
Don't let this guy keep you hanging. It's obvious that he lies and talks disrespectful to you, so dump him fast. There's plenty of good guys out there that will treat you really good and be considerate of your feelings. :)
amicon
Mar 7, 2010, 03:15 PM
Give up on him.
You deserve better,he's a waste of time.
InfoJunkie4Life
Mar 7, 2010, 05:10 PM
It could mean several things. I used to be very nervous around girls. Even ones I had no feelings for. I would be quiet and couldn't make complete sentences. Then again, it could mean he like that girl. I have found when you don't know about something, just ask. The fear of rejection will only make you miss out on a lot of stuff.
The Dark09
Mar 8, 2010, 09:36 AM
InfoJunkie4Life that's good. But when a guy doesn't act himself it means that their not telling you something.
InfoJunkie4Life
Mar 8, 2010, 12:24 PM
Yes, that is true. But sitting around wondering will never get you anywhere.
talaniman
Mar 8, 2010, 01:52 PM
Unless you like being disrespected, and have someone mad at you all the time for dumb reasons, or be a rebound for a rejected guy, then you better leave him alone and move on.
MadisonKnudsen
Mar 12, 2010, 08:34 PM
Me and this guy have a thing and today we had a assembly and everything was going good I was leening back on him and we were flirting and he was texting this girl on my phone that hates me but I don't know what they were talking about and I don't know what she was telling him and then later on he kind of moved to make me get off but I don't know why and then he was going to ask me something, I think he was going to ask me out but he changed his mind, and when he doesn't like flirt with me or talk to me I always think he's mad at me any advice?
s_cianci
Mar 13, 2010, 09:05 AM
How about a little forthright and direct communication with him? Ask him directly the questions you've posed to us here. If he doesn't want to talk or gives you the runaround then you'll have all the answers you need.
jaime90
Mar 13, 2010, 09:57 AM
Wow. You need to stop analyzing these things. There is nothing to figure out really, when you take this at face value. He told this girl that he hates you. You were obviously annoying him by leaning on him (why would you lean on a guy that you aren't involved with? That's a little much.) And by the way your entire post sounds, I'm sure he wasn't 'flirting' as much as you thought he was. He then got up to get away from you. When he returned, what would make you think he wanted to ask you out? That would be my LAST thought. If anything I think he would ask you to get off his back. On top of that, you aren't ready for a relationship with anyone, just from the content of your last sentence... You think he's mad at you when he pays you no attention. What would this look like in a relationship? YOU stirring up drama when he decides to go hangout with a friend? You clinging to him every moment of the day? You demanding that he pay you more attention? Girl, you are not girlfriend material. You're already showing needieness, anxiety, and are portraying yourself as a naggy flirt, and you don't even have a boyfriend... these are deadly sins of dating.
I wish
Mar 13, 2010, 10:00 AM
How old are you?
Why all the mind games?
Why not be direct and upfront?
You shouldn't have to worry about his interactions with other people, just worry about your own interaction with him.
talaniman
Mar 13, 2010, 12:18 PM
She is 14. And her threads were merged.
jaime90
Mar 13, 2010, 03:01 PM
Thanks Tal.
You are too young to be in a relationship. Obviously, both of your posts screamed "immaturity." And for the love of God, you need to leave this young man alone, and forget about "making him" like you. Do you want to make a man like you, or do you want a man to like you by his own free-will? Forget about a relationship with him. FORGET IT. He is ignoring you for a reason. He clearly is not interested. That's my advice to you: Leave him be. Let it rest. Lay off.
Lanichu
Mar 17, 2010, 07:52 AM
Ignoring a guy or flirting with him is NOT the answer. He could take this as a sign that you are not interested in him. Some people like hard to get, but most people like to just be told.
If you like him, you should tell him... Even if it is scary! What's the worse thing that could happen? He'll say no. If he makes fun of you for it, then he's a jerk and you deserve better!
Take this for example, there was a guy I was crushing on in high school and I was so scared to tell him... But on graduation, I told him I liked him and he told me I got courage and even gave me a hug! :]
Now I regret not telling him sooner. If you don't tell someone you like them, then you'll be wondering 'What if' all the time!
Dobrev
Nov 20, 2010, 09:07 AM
If you like the guy, you should tell him, because if you don't then you're going to feel like you're carrying a burden on your shoulder. I told a guy recently that I like him, although he ignored and didn't respond to my text, I don't regret it because I know where I stand with him. His loss! At the end of the day guys will always come back, whether you did go out or they rejected you, they always come running back, so what have you got to lose? Be confident and upfront, guys love it.
If you want something you go out there and get it.