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dave bellamy
Feb 20, 2010, 03:46 PM
I met this lovely woman at a dance class in June 2009. She told me her husband had an affair then left her. He realised he had made a mistake so went back to his wife. He then realised he had got the other woman pregnant so left his wife again because he said he wanted to do the right thing. He then missed his family so he went back to his wife again in Aug 09. I met her in June when he had left her and we started dating. She took him back in Aug 09 but continued to see me. She doesn't wear her wedding rings. Last year she told me she had very strong feelings for me. The baby is now born and the husband wants to see the baby. The other woman won't allow the wife to have anything to do with the baby. The wife told me that she knows she's doing wrong but she can't let me go. I've fallen in love with the wife and can't let her go either. She has three children and her husband is a dentist so he has loads of money. She told me she likes being with me because I make her happy. Do you think her marriage will work again. I really love her and I can't let her go, it's so unfair.

cdad
Feb 20, 2010, 03:57 PM
What a mess.

Catsmine
Feb 20, 2010, 04:52 PM
IDo you think her marriage will work again.

Only on Days of Our Lives. Get out while you can.

jmjoseph
Feb 20, 2010, 05:35 PM
This guy not only had "loads of money". He is the father of her children. And that's huge. Find someone else. Sorry.

450donn
Feb 20, 2010, 09:50 PM
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!
This woman is an emotional wreck and is not ready to do anything for a really long time. All that can happen is that you will be hurt in the end. Move on, It is not worth getting involved with her.

Gemini54
Feb 21, 2010, 02:52 AM
Er, she's actually not available. She's married.

He's rich and keeps her financially happy, you're the poor sucker that met her on the rebound and keeps her sexually happy I guess.

She's got her cake, and she's eating it. There is no incentive for her to leave. I don't think she's going to let go of the financial security. Sure, it's unfair, but only because you continue to cling to hope.

Find someone that's free to love you, live with you and that makes YOU happy.

kaycstamper
Jun 2, 2010, 01:53 PM
Two wrongs don't make a right. Mistake number one was seeing a married woman. She needs to figure out what she wants to do with her marriage and then go from there. If she opts out of it, she needs time on her own before dragging another poor soul into it.

JudyKayTee
Jun 2, 2010, 02:02 PM
I don't know who is in the more pathetic position - you who "love" her while another man supports her OR the poor husband who supports her while you "love" her. I have no idea what the wearing or not wearing of wedding rings means. She's either married or she's not. In this case, she is.

No rings means she can date you while living with the husband and probably date someone else while dating you and living with her husband.

I'd be out of there so fast I'd leave skid marks.

thatsrightisaidit
Jun 17, 2010, 06:03 PM
This is a nightmare. And the poor kids. You all sound like a bunch of selfish liars and manipulators and you drag children and bring them into the mess. How disgusting and horrible. None of you know the value of loyalty, honesty, or stability. I don't feel sorry for any of you except the poor innocent children who were made and now forced to grow up in such immature emotional dynamics.