Me and my girlfriend are doing well, our love is growing constantly everyday and I try by all means to make us happy and I don't want to loose her, trust me. Now the problem is, I enjoy sleeping with my ex when I am bored, Im dating my ex when my girlfriend is not around and she's (ex) got a boyfriend as well but we just making sure that we keep it a secret. My ex has got a friend who's got a nice body and so I'm kind of interested in her as well and even tried to make a move on her. I admit this is totally not acceptable and its unfair to my girlfriend, but I can't seem to let go of my ex and stop thinking about her friend. I do not know what caused this problem I've got and how can I make it stop because people or someone is going to get hurt here and that's not what I want. Any advice, anyone who experienced the same problem

If you are still involved with your ex, you shouldn't have ever considered dating someone else.

Don't you DARE, think that you love someone you are cheating on. Not only is love FAR FAR out of the equation in your relationship, you are going to end up hurting your current girlfriend, breaking her heart, leaving, and walking all over her emotions on the way out the door, leaving this poor girl to feel alone, violated, and god knows what else.

Not only are you cheating on your girlfriend with your ex, you are making moves on other women.

You need to get your head on straight. DO NOT consider getting into the dating game until you mature.

Think about your future. You will have to sit down with your future wife and tell her that you cheated on one of your past girlfriends with your ex, and then decided to put the moves on other women. What kind of self-respecting woman would want a man like that?

Plead guilty to this girl, and leave her IMMEDIATELY, do not toy with her emotions anymore. I feel awful for this poor girl.

Jaytdk agrees : I can'tplead with her guilty, its going to hurt her, I can't deal with it now, I don't want to see her hurt its going to kill me

If you are going to whore yourself out at least be a man about it and tell your girlfriend.

"YOU can't deal with it" is NOT an excuse!

If you are going to whore yourself out at least be a man about it and tell your girlfriend.

"YOU can't deal with it" is NOT an excuse!

Im not whoreing myself out, I can't just stop this sex feelings I have for my ex, I do not love my ex but I want more of her in terms of sex. I cannot tell my girlfriend about this, I do not have guads to do that and I can't bear the thought of hurting her... Oh my word , wher did I put myself into, eish

[QUOTE=Jaytdk;2238697] I can't just stop this sex feelings I have/QUOTE]

You can stop ACTING on them today. You say you don't want to hurt at least one of these women. How much is it going to hurt her when she does find out? How much is it gong to hurt her when you start passing diseases around?

One offs can be a lot of fun and with proper precautions safe. But NOT while in a relationship. Or do you define relationship without using the term "commitment"?

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You can stop ACTING on them today. You say you don't want to hurt at least one of these women. How much is it going to hurt her when she does find out? How much is it gong to hurt her when you start passing diseases around?

One offs can be a lot of fun and with proper precautions safe. But NOT while in a relationship. Or do you define relationship without using the term "commitment"?


I am always using protection with the ex,and I cannot stop, its so hard very hard. The minutes I see her and touch her, it starts there , what else can I do

Don't see her (the ex)...

-> problem solved

what else can I do

You can stop lying to everybody. You're lying to the girlfriend, you're lying to the ex, and worst of all, you're lying to yourself. Freeing your girlfriend from her commitment to you(break up) is the least you can do.

Or you could be a politician. Liars do well in that field.

I'm sorry if I sound blunt but I just cannot understand cheaters.

It's simple... if your girlfriend is not satisfying you enough that you have to look to other places for sex then the relationship is over.

If you want to make it work with your girlfriend then you stop talking to your ex!
Delete her number from your phone, block her on Facebook, don't go to her work... just Don't SEE HER.

I'm sorry if I sound blunt but I just cannot understand cheaters.

It's simple... if your girlfriend is not satisfying you enough that you have to look to other places for sex then the relationship is over.

If you want to make it work with your girlfriend then you stop talking to your ex!
Delete her number from your phone, block her on facebook, don't go to her work... just DONT SEE HER.


She comes to me more often, she phones and sends me messages, how can I stop that?

I'm sorry if I sound blunt but I just cannot understand cheaters.

It's simple... if your girlfriend is not satisfying you enough that you have to look to other places for sex then the relationship is over.

If you want to make it work with your girlfriend then you stop talking to your ex!
Delete her number from your phone, block her on facebook, don't go to her work... just DONT SEE HER.


My girlfriend is satisfying me

She satisfies you?
I think you need to learn what love is ?
How can you say you love your girl if you don't respect her? When she will find out how will she feel?
Today you want your ex , then you want your ex's friend and tomorrow who will it be?Your girl's girlfriend?
Please!
Normally when you make love with someone you really love(like you say you love her) , You should share something strong and special this is usually enough to keep you away from cheating!

Dont see her (the ex)...

-> problem solved

No its not solved asif, its not that just simple. I see her everyday, everywhere I go, she stays close to me. I want to stop but I just can't figure out how because sleeping with her is so extraordinary and I like it. Help me come up with solutions

Man up.

You're just a pathetic sad excuse for a boyfriend. How can you even say you love this girl if you constantly cheat on her? She has absolutely no reason to trust you let alone love you.

If you actually did love your girlfriend, you'd find the willpower and capability to look past other women and even more importantly keep your out of them.

You know what? Go and break up with your girlfriend, she deserves better and once you do, your ex won't want you anymore since you won't be cheating on someone and it'll lose the thrill.

Hopefully when you go cold turkey on women, there's a slim chance you might actually learn to see them as more than something to stick your into.

Man up.

You're just a pathetic sad excuse for a boyfriend. How can you even say you love this girl if you constantly cheat on her? She has absolutely no reason to trust you let alone love you.

If you actually did love your girlfriend, you'd find the willpower and capability to look past other women and even more importantly keep your out of them.

You know what? Go and break up with your girlfriend, she deserves better and once you do, your ex won't want you anymore since you won't be cheating on someone and it'll lose the thrill.

Hopefully when you go cold turkey on women, there's a slim chance you might actually learn to see them as more than something to stick your into.


Do you think I enjoy doing this to my girlfriend?? Ofcos NO NO, I don't enjoy and I do not like it. My ex is coming too hard on me and she gets me when I am on my weakest point, when I need someone to be with

she satisfies you?
I think you need to learn what love is ?
How can you say you love your girl if you don't respect her? When she will find out how will she feel?
Today you want your ex , then you want your ex's friend and tomorrow who will it be?Your girl's girlfriend?
Please!
Normally when you make love with someone you really love(like you say you love her) , You should share something strong and special this is usually enough to keep you away from cheating!



I share a bond with my gal that no one else in this plane will never will. I feel her so strong that I can't even imagine myself with another girl, Im committed to her utterly and no one will ever break us apart even my ex. I realise that what I am doing is wrong that is why I initiated this query because I need help on how to leave my ex and her friend and others

I share a bond with my gal that no one else in this plane will never will. I feel her so strong that I can't even imagine myself with another girl, Im commited to her utterly and no one will ever break us apart even my ex. I realise that what I am doing is wrong that is why I initiated this query because I need help on how to leave my ex and her friend and others

Ok!so maybe you need to pray the Lord or see a psychiatrist:cool: so you will get this out of you cause if you act like that you really turn yourself into an animal because we, human beings, are supposed to be able to manage our drives.

Mistyjane, you really do not understand. I've got a problem and I want to fix it

No, all you really need to do is learn to keep it in your pants.

It's not hard either.

Im commited to her utterly and no one will ever break us apart even my ex.

This is what I meant by lying to yourself.

You will not get out of this situation until you stop thinking with the little head. If you cannot control it, you really need to start charging for it.

Mistyjane, you really do not understand. I've got a problem and I want to fix it
For sure you really have a problem!
And that's why I'm saying go and see a psychiatrist;)
This is how to fix it.

So, you want EVERYTHING on the dessert cart and want help deciding want to do? You've been given good answers here, but they are not what you want to hear.

This is a fine mess YOU have gotten YOURSELF into. Don't blame the ex, for coming on to you when you are "weak". That's just a very pathetic excuse. Does she force herself on you? No.

In your original post, you said that you are "doing everything you can to make it work", and " love is developing"... It's all based on lies, and you are sabotaging it yourself.

So you want to keep your cake and eat it too, AND with ice cream( ex's friend) on the side. Grow a spine, be a man, and decide on what it is that you want the most.

Tell your current victim the truth, and let HER decide what SHE wants to do.

Do you have a sister? Would you want someone like.. well... YOU coming along and crushing her feelings?

At some point in your life, you will need to think with the head on your SHOULDERS.

And as Shaz said, you are acting like a manwhore. If that's what you want to be, then do it without hurting girls' feelings.

And if the ex has "magical booty", then why did you leave her in the first place? Was it because the grass was greener on the other side of the fence?

Remember that grass is always greenest over the septic tank.

What answer was it that were expecting here? Did you want someone to tell you to "enjoy yourself", and not "get caught"? Not going to happen.

You came here because you know this is wrong. Now do something about it. ON YOUR OWN.

This is the third thread you have started here your 'problem'-one under a different user id.

Both previous threads were closed.

Guys my ex chose her present boyfriend over me, now the boyfriend is not treating her nicely so she wants to come back to me. I think she wants to break me up with my girlfriend and see me suffer, that's why she is doing this. For the record, she didn't dump me, I dumped her because I didn't want to share her with another guy

Guys my ex chose her present boyfriend over me, now the bf is not treating her nicely so she wants to come back to me. I think she wants to break me up with my girlfriend and see me suffer, thats why she is doing this. For the record, she didnt dump me, I dumped her because I didnt want to share her with another guy

Isn't it ironic? YOU didn't want to share, but you expect everyone else to.

Have some respect for the girl that you are dating now. Tell her what is going on, so she can decide if SHE wants to share you with someone else. What if she finds out on her own? What if the ex gives her a call?

People in love don't treat each other this way.

And if she(the ex) chose another guy over you, then isn't that dumping you?

You are in quite a situation. And you are the only one that can fix it.

I share a bond with my gal that no one else in this plane will never will. I feel her so strong that I can't even imagine myself with another girl, Im commited to her utterly and no one will ever break us apart even my ex. I realise that what I am doing is wrong that is why I initiated this query because I need help on how to leave my ex and her friend and others

This is going to get harsh:

I am going to take it that you are serious about wanting help. However, reading your responses so far, I think you are closer to bragging about having a problem just to get attention from strangers.

The above quote is one huge lie. Every word has been shown a lie by your earlier posts. IF you had as strong a bond with your GF2 (the ex-GF1-isn't an ex as long as you are still seeing and having sex with her), then it wouldn't matter if the entire Dallas Cheer leading Squad were standing in front of you naked begging for sex. You wouldn't do anything to damage the trust.

Lesson one: Read what you have written. Pay attention to your wording. Pay attention to the meanings of the words like commitment and relationship as well as the meaning of the suffix ex-.

Lesson Two: You have two feet. You can walk away from GF1 at any time. Unless you are having sex with her in the middle of Sears or a parking lot, YOU made a conscious decision to go to a private place for sex. You have a mouth to use to say 'get lost' instead of 'let's go to my place.' You can close the door in her face, hang up the phone, hit yourself in the testicles for even contemplating cheating on the wonderful person that GF2 is...

Lesson Three: GF2 will find out. GF1 will tell her at some point in time if the friends don't. She deserves to hear it from you.

Lesson Four: GF2 may have another BF besides you because obviously you aren't being satisfying in your relationship with her. I surmise that because sex with GF1 is so much better you can't control yourself. Of course since GF1 has a second BF then I guess it wouldn't be a surprise to you.

Lesson Five: When you think about cheating, think about sticking your penis in a cactus. Poor ice cubes down your pants. Practice self control.

You dude to pretty much sum it up... you're a freaking dirt bag. There's people on here all the time that have lost their loved ones and really had true sincere love, but were still hurt and betrayed and are here for genuine help. Here you come along like its all some thrill game to you. Your pretty messed up, and to tell the truth if you were standing in front of me right now I would knock your front teeth out. Your not a man, you're a coward, and you deserve to be alone for the rest of your life and rot in He** for the abominations you are committing. So you you're a flippin idiot. Peace.

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I share a bond with my gal that no one else in this plane will never will. I feel her so strong that I can't even imagine myself with another girl, I'm committed to her utterly and no one will ever break us apart even my ex.

This is the biggest lie I ever heard. I mean when the new girl finds out, your yesterdays toast!

I realize that what I am doing is wrong that is why I initiated this query because I need help on how to leave my ex and her friend and others
You may be one of those guys who can only think with his little head, and needs professional help (like Tiger Woods) to learn how to ignore the little head because it nothing but trouble.

Tell the new girl so she can either support you by hitting you in the nuts, or leave your lying butt for someone better. That will solve your cheating, and lying, one way or another.

The rest requires professional help, and no matter what excuses you give for not doing it that way, you still will need professional help.

Your only other option is to leave your g/f to give her a chance at someone better, and just be a hound dog the rest of your life.

Your other post of half truths, and lies, were deleted, and honestly, this one is headed that way.

You have a lot of excuses. It's everyone's fault but yours. Poor you can't control yourself, you are so weak minded and morally corrupt that you just have to stick your penis into any willing girl that comes along. Ya, right!

You have choices, none of which you're willing to make. You don't want help, you want to brag. Well, I hate to tell you this, but a decent woman wouldn't go anywhere near you. If your girlfriend found out about this she'd leave you in a heartbeat and she deserves to find out so she can find a decent man and stop wasting her time on you.

I feel no sympathy for you, only disgust.

Get help, tell your girlfriend what you've been doing. If you love her so much then let her go, let her find someone that deserves her, you don't.

After she's left you can go sleep with as many loose women as you want. If that's the life you want then do it single.

I'm only 19 and I can figure this out, I don't see how you can't:

It's great that you don't want to hurt your girlfriend, but the point is, you don't have enough respect for her to stop your selfishness. Or to not even consider cheating. That's what it is, selfishness to the highest degree. You say seeing her hurt would kill you, umm, it's too late guy, your decisions have already done enough damage. Sooner or later, she's going to know because this relationship won't last, and it SHOULDN'T last.

You get horny and she's not around so you forget her and just sex your ex. You are a dirty, lying, cheating, man whore... to put things bluntly.

F you didn't want to hurt your girlfriend like this, you should NEVER have even begun a relationship with her. I'm not sure your head was on straight when you began a relationship. She does not deserve a lousy boyfriend- and that's what you are, a lousy boyfriend, not only that, you're a cheater- and that goes on your permanent record.

You don't want to "plead guilty" to your girlfriend because you don't want to hurt her... okay, so lying to her is going to be any better? The truth will find you out, and she needs to know NOW. If you do not tell her, I will hunt her down and tell her myself because nobody deserves a boyfriend like you.

If your ex is bothering you like you say she is, and she is initiating the sex, why can't you man up and tell her no? Or don't answer her messages. Walk away when you see her. Why in the world would you ever let it go as far as touching? You have no respect for women. Plain and simple. You need to break off EVERY relationship you currently have, and... For crying out loud, PLEASE, STOP DATING. Sorry to say it, but at this point in time, no woman deserves a douche like you.

No its not solved asif, its not that just simple. I see her everyday, everywhere I go, she stays close to me. I want to stop but I just can't figure out how because sleeping with her is so extraordinary and I like it. Help me come up with solutions

Actually it IS that simple. You want solutions on how to stop cheating on your girlfriend? You stop. It's that simple.

You claim to love your girlfriend. You claim that you would never want to do anything to hurt her. Your actions are showing that to be anything but the truth. You are constantly lying to her and cheating on her. That's not how you treat someone you love.

How would you like it if she cheated on you? I'm guessing you wouldn't accept any of the lies you've spouted in here as valid excuses.

If you really are so weak that you're incapable of NOT having sex with other women, then you need to end the relationship.

Those are your options. The solutions you came here asking for. Stop cheating. Or get single.

Oh, and your girlfriend WILL find out. My guess is that she already suspects, she just lacks proof at this point. Either she will find the evidence she needs, or someone will tell her. Someone who cares about her, or just wants to ruin your life, will see you out with your ex and tell your girlfriend about it.

What will you do when she confronts you? Keep lying to her? Try to convince her that it was innocent? Finally grow a pair and tell the truth? Somehow I doubt the last one.

Isn't it ironic? YOU didn't want to share, but you expect everyone else to.

Have some respect for the girl that you are dating now. Tell her what is going on, so she can decide if SHE wants to share you with someone else. What if she finds out on her own? What if the ex gives her a call?

People in love don't treat each other this way.

And if she(the ex) chose another guy over you, then isn't that dumping you?

You are in quite a situation. And you are the only one that can fix it.



Put yourself in my shoes. Would you tell your girlfriend something you know will tear her heart apart and hurt her?? NO I don't think so. So why you expect me to tell her. I will never tell her because I do not want to hurt her, she means a lot to me more than the world itself. And nope she chose another guy over me while our relationship was on hold, I put it on hold because I didn't like the way she was behaving

This is the third thread you have started here your 'problem'-one under a different user id.

Both previous threads were closed.

Talinama, I don't think it's a good notion to delee my threat again. There are people out there who are not heartless, who wants to help out of their loving heart. If you don't want to help me, then leave it, its fine, but allow other people to help. The problem that I am experiencing, you might find someone is having the same problem so reading all this will assist that person. Do not prevent us to get help, you were once at this stage and no one prevented you from getting assistance from other people. Be generous for once please

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Jaytdk disagrees : Ending the relationship is not a good idea. When you inlove its hard to let go of people you love. You'll feel that one day. So I wont end it

First, you ONLY disagree if the post is FACTUALLY incorrect of dangerous. My post was neither. It is against the rules to give someone a reddie, i.e.. Disagree, just because you don't agree with their opinion.

Second, I HAVE felt that. I have, unfortunately, had to hurt people in the past.

I broke up with one ex because I was developing feelings for someone else and didn't find it fair to either of us to continue the relationship. Nothing ended up happening with the other person, but I didn't want to end up cheating if something did. Not to mention, it wasn't fair that I wasn't fully invested in the relationship.

I ended an engagement when it became clear I wouldn't be able to give my all to the relationship, and that they weren't willing to give their's. I was DEEPLY in love. It literally tore me apart to end it, but it needed to be done. That was more than a year and a half ago, and I'm STILL not completely healed.

Do NOT tell me that I have no idea what it feels like to hurt someone, or be hurt, or be in love. I have known all three, and survived them.

Notice, I broke things off BEFORE cheating even became a real option. There is NEVER a good excuse for cheating. The only thing it shows is that you don't have enough respect for her, or yourself, to be honest and faithful.

I hope she ends up stumbling across the posts you've made here. That'll save you the trouble of having to end things. She'll do it for you.

You have a lot of excuses. It's everyone's fault but yours. Poor you can't control yourself, you are so weak minded and morally corrupt that you just have to stick your penis into any willing girl that comes along. Ya, right!

You have choices, none of which you're willing to make. You don't want help, you want to brag. Well, I hate to tell you this, but a decent woman wouldn't go anywhere near you. If your girlfriend found out about this she'd leave you in a heartbeat and she deserves to find out so she can find a decent man and stop wasting her time on you.

I feel no sympathy for you, only disgust.

Get help, tell your girlfriend what you've been doing. If you love her so much then let her go, let her find someone that deserves her, you don't.

After she's left you can go sleep with as many loose women as you want. If that's the life you want then do it single.

I am not here to brag, I do not have to waste. And I can't tell her what I have been doing or what I did. Its not easy to tell someone you love that you've been unfaithful to them. Its not easy as you make it sounds. For your info I deserve my GF, I am having a problem just like anyone in a relationship. No one is perfect, even yourself you not perfect, there's a part where you lacking as well. I am content that I'll be well soon, I'll try to fix it before my girlfriend finds out and me and her can have a proper relationship without the ex. I just cannot resist my ex, and I believe it happens to most men, there's someone you cannot resist.

<<put yourself in my shoes, would you tell your girlfriend something you know would tear her heart apart?>>

Too late. Are you going to lie to her for the rest of your relationship? How is that any less hurtfull? Lying to her is far more hurtfull than just being honest and telling the truth. Not only is your current relationship with her very unhealthy, you are a very unhealthy person.

<<if you don't want to help me then leave it>>
It seems you disagree with most of the people who have given you advice- probably because it's not exactly what you want to hear. But you have to realize that what you are doing to this girl is cruel, and most people do not appreciate, or condone the behavior of a dipsh*t. And let's be honest, guys who cheat are just that. As I said earlier, not only do you have to deal with the fact that you are a cheater, but so will your current girlfriend, so does your ex girlfriend, so does the girl you're putting the moves on, and your future wife (if any) will marry into this disaster... You are ruining your future. Think of your girlfriend, your future spouse, and not yourself for once.

Once again, I dare you to say that you love this girl. If you loved her, you wouldn't have cheated. Cheaters know how to lust, they don't know how to love. You DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT, love this poor girl that you are lying to, and cheating on. Sparing her the dirty dirty details IS NOT, IS NOT, IS NOT, love... Do you get it?

And no, it does not happen to most men. Most men and women who see someone they desire, LOVE their partner enough not to act on it. Why don't you learn how to treat a woman? I feel terrible for your poor girlfriend, trying to hide things on her. It's torture for me to read about what a disrespectful, demeaning, pathetic, ignorant jerk you are to women.

Jaytdk disagrees : My girlfriend is not a victim and I will never make her a victim, she is my queen

If she is your "queen" then why are you cheating on her? Henry the Eighth killed most of his wives. Is that your plan, to kill this girl with shame and heartbreak?

You put the "boy" in boyfriend.

On your avatar, your location is "the centre of the planet". Well, your planet must be small, and EVERYTHING in it small also. Heart, brain, and especially balls.

For her to be your queen, you have to be a king.

More like the court jester I say.

So to sum up the advice given here...

You:
A) Break up with your girlfriend to SAVE her feeling from being entirely crushed when she CATCHES you.
You telling her will feel 100x times better then her finding out (trust me I have been there!)

B) You talk to the ex and tell her you can't have sex anymore.
You keep it in your pants and learn some self control

C) There is no C, it's a pretty freakin' easy thing to do!!

Jaytdk disagrees : My girlfriend is not a victim and I will never make her a victim, she is my queen

If she is your "queen" then why are you cheating on her? Henry the Eighth killed most of his wives. Is that your plan, to kill this girl with shame and heartbreak?

You put the "boy" in boyfriend.

On your avatar, your location is "the centre of the planet". Well, your planet must be small, and EVERYTHING in it small also. Heart, brain, and especially balls.

For her to be your queen, you have to be a king.

More like the court jester I say.

I didn't cheat on her on purpose or intentionally, its just happen OK, do not make it as if Im cheating willingly. I do not know what's wrong with me but Its difficult to let go of my ex because she is always around

I want you to read the comments on this post here, that came from YOURSELF, less than a week ago:https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/love-2-what-do-446795.html

Put yourself in my shoes. Would you tell your gf something you know will tear her heart apart and hurt her???NO I dont think so. So why you expect me to tell her. I will never tell her because I do not want to hurt her, she means a lot to me more than the world itself. And nope she chose another guy over me while our relationship was on hold, I put it on hold because I didn't like the way she was behaving


jmjoseph, you think you respect women but you don't. You also have your weak points, you not perfect and excellent as you think you are. So before you judge me negatively look at yourself first and think again, I am far better than you when it comes to treating woman. My ex wants me back because of the love that I gave her, unfortunately she cannot have me now cause Im taken

actually it IS that simple. you want solutions on how to stop cheating on your girlfriend? you stop. it's that simple.

you claim to love your girlfriend. you claim that you would never want to do anything to hurt her. your actions are showing that to be anything but the truth. you are constantly lying to her and cheating on her. that's not how you treat someone you love.

how would you like it if she cheated on you? i'm guessing you wouldn't accept any of the lies you've spouted in here as valid excuses.

if you really are so weak that you're incapable of NOT having sex with other women, then you need to end the relationship.

those are your options. the solutions you came here asking for. stop cheating. or get single.

oh, and your girlfriend WILL find out. my guess is that she already suspects, she just lacks proof at this point. either she will find the evidence she needs, or someone will tell her. someone who cares about her, or just wants to ruin your life, will see you out with your ex and tell your girlfriend about it.

what will you do when she confronts you? keep lying to her? try to convince her that it was innocent? finally grow a pair and tell the truth? somehow i doubt the last one.


What's balancer mean?? And I am not lying to her, I am trying my best to heal, that's why I am here

I didn't cheat on her on purpose or intentionally, its just happen OK, do not make it as if Im cheating willingly. I do not know whats wrong with me but Its difficult to let go of my ex because she is always around

OH, it was an accident? See if your "queen" believes that.

You are cheating "willingly". Accept responsibility for your own actions. That will be obvious when you become a man.

People have come on here to try and help you, and you insult, and throw around "reddies". Why? Because you know that you are in the wrong, and you don't want to hear it.

I want you to read the comments on this post here, that came from YOURSELF, less than a week ago:https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/love-2-what-do-446795.html


Ok will read them now

jmjoseph, you think you respect women but you don't. You also have your weak points, you not perfect and excellent as you think you are. So before you judge me negatively look at yourself first and think again, I am far better than you when it comes to treating woman. My ex wants me back because of the love that I gave her, unfortunately she cannot have me now cause Im taken

You know nothing about me, boy.

Go grow up, and learn respect, before you learn it the hard way.

You need therapy.

I'll save you the trouble.


BACKWARD NEVER, FORWARD EVER!!!!!Always think of this words and bear them in mind. Cheating with your ex will be waste of time, he is trying to use you for his own sexual satisfaction, he is player. Concentrate on your relationship and stop fooling yourself with your ex. If you go back to your ex you will get hurt and loose your boyfriend and be miserably single, is that what you want??????????????? So think with your head not your eyes


Good then put what we telling you into action

I want you to read the comments on this post here, that came from YOURSELF, less than a week ago:https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/love-2-what-do-446795.html

Ok JM Joseph I said those words, I was helping someone and I believe he followed my advice. What's your point?

jmjoseph, you think you respect women but you don't. You also have your weak points, you not perfect and excellent as you think you are. So before you judge me negatively look at yourself first and think again, I am far better than you when it comes to treating woman. My ex wants me back because of the love that I gave her, unfortunately she cannot have me now cause Im taken

Exactly what sources are you getting your informations from that you think you have the right to judge jm and how he treats women? I have been on this site a LOT longer than you, and have NEVER seen any reason to suspect that he shows women anything BUT respect. If you have proof, or even vague evidence, to the contrary, please provide links.


Whats balancer mean????? And I am not lying to her, I am trying my best to heal, thats why I am here

A balancer is when users try to counteract a wrongly given negative comment.

You ARE lying to her. Every time you neglect to tell her that you've been with your ex. Every time you tell her, or let her believe, that you're somewhere else. Every time you look at her and tell her you'd never hurt her.

This needs to be in the humor and comedy forum:

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Ok JM Joseph I said those words, I was helping someone and I believe he followed my advice. Whats your point?

The point is that you obviously see no reason to follow your own advice. That makes you a hypocrite.

This needs to be in the humor and comedy forum:

About Me
About Jaytdk
Location
Centre of the planet
Experience
I advice in relationships and became the best expert in relationships column in yahooask website. Assisted and advised many almost broken marriages and relationships and succeeded to save them. If you have any question on anything regarding relationships please do not hesitate to ask me.
Occupation
CEO

Wow? Really? Just... wow.

Yet again, Jaytdk, after so many warnings, and chances you have again broken all the rules of decency. You insult those trying to help, and continue to make excuses, when your given some excellent paths to healing. You have proven you can tell others how to do the right thing, but unable to do it yourself.

You're maybe looking for a magic cure for your bad behavior, and instant fix for your problem. Come on, you know better, there is no easy way to go about this healing your looking for, even though the solution is simple. Stop cheating, and be honest with your g/f. Its you making it hard because your unwilling to to what it takes to do the right thing.

Whether its abject fear of consequences, or just plain lazy, its you who must put actions behind your words, and desires to make things right.

All the excuses of why you can't do what it takes, only shows your not interested in healing, but getting attention so you can blast the character, and motives of others, for your own very selfish reasons.

This thread is yet another example of your true nature, and your unacceptable, continued bad behavior.

Unless you make changes, you will drown in your own SH1T!!

That's why this thread, like all those you have started so far, is closed. But this one will not be deleted as were the others. So you can go back, re read the advice, and make a better plan than the one you have now, which clearly, doesn't work!

Sorry to all people I have insulted and offended. It wasn't intentionally, I was angry and had anger in me, I thanks you for all help and its not my space to judge you. Please keep your advices coming

Thanks for all your help guys. As you all read this post, I am totally hurt.My relationship is not the same anymore, I regret cheating my girlfriend and been unfaihful to her. I have learned my lesson and I am sure other readers will learn from my misakes. I am about to loose my girlfriend because I was cheating on her, the truth is about to come out and she diging and digging to find the truth. I hope she doesn't find the truth because my relationship will be history.

Sorry but you don't deserve a relationship with that girl. You are hurt? YOU ARE THE ONE who CHEATED!!

You clearly have not learned your lesson if you are unwilling to tell her the truth!

Tell her the truth now and leave her alone. Seek help (be it counseling, or books) to figure out what made you cheat.

Your relationship ending is a very justly deserved consequence. If you're not willing to face that, and tell her the truth, then you haven't learned a thing.

To feel bad because you got caught is NOT the same as feeling bad because you DID something bad.