Ok so I'm with my first girlfriend that I've sex with and she has had sex with 2 other guys before me and she was raped. In our first few days of going out she started telling me about all her stories and going into great detail about how she had sex with those other guys, one being a one night stand (daytime in a public park on a picnic table... ) and the other she had sex with over 100 times in the 3 months they went out. She's also had oral sex with around 15 guys too. So I figured oh great I'm going out with a whore since she was only 16 at the time, like seriously this many guys in that short of a time. I tell her every time that she brings up one of these stories that I don't want to hear them, since they really bother me and stress me out to the point were I get no sleep.

I wasn't doing anything with my life at the time so I figured I might as well carry this on and low and behold she's a really great girl who just has that need to always be going out with a guy (no cheating at least.)

I really feel like an since let these stories bother me so much and I keep telling her I don't want to hear them. I love her so much and try to not let the stories bother me, since it's a thing of a past but I wish it would stay a thing of the past. It's at the point were it's just driving me crazy, I really want to make things work out which I know they will. But it's just so hard to let these thoughts off my mind when I'm constantly being reminded of them, especially since I've told her I don't want to hear them.

She also talks to her ex's and random guys all the time too over her phone / msn / and various social networking sites. I made her take her ex's off everything since I asked her why she still talks to them and she told me they are still friends and she goes to them with her problems. She's always so worried about me leaving her since she doesn't feel that she is good enough for me. So she wanted to still have 'friends' (in her words) just in case something happened. Well I put an end to that since some of them would really stress her out and I don't plan on going anywhere. Since I did that she's been a lot happier and told me that she's never had a guy care so much about her before. So that was a good move in my opinion, made us both a lot happier and took a ton off my mind. She still does talk with random guys/girls over the internet (she's bi), but I'm fine with that since I know she would never cheat on me. Even if she did I have contacts and she would never hear from them again or me, so I'm not worried about that.

Anyway I just don't know what to do, I'm defiantly not going to leave her since I love her so ing much. I wouldn't even consider that, but am I just letting these things bother me too much? I try my hardest to not let them but I just feel like a huge even though she's constantly bringing up the stories. I seriously don't even know why I'm even posting this, I guess it just might feel good to get it off my chest. Oh well back to fun filled life (it's all good when I'm with her for the most part when I don't hear any stories and the sex is great) and my deprived of sleep nights...

I don't know what I'm asking but it would be nice if people threw there 2 cents in. Oh and I know I'm complaining a lot, but seriously it feels good to let it out.

Oops forgot to change the thread title.

Even if she did I have contacts and she would never hear from them again or me, so I'm not worried about that.

That statement worries me. It sounds like you are implying that you have "connections." And that you'd make her "disappear."

No offense meant when I say this, but it sounds like you are afraid she is going to cheat on you. You say you are not worried about that, and that you aren't worried about her cheating on you. But you have forced her to stop communicating with her ex's and you seem to bring up that she talks to other people a lot.

It sounds to me like you're a little insecure also. Granted, someone should not of had that many sexual partners by 16, but she did. I think she has left those things in the past. It's okay to talk about the past. And she probably regrets some of her decisions. It sounds like she wants to talk about them with someone who cares and will listen. She probably sees you as that person. And yet you are having problems hearing it.

You said it yourself. It's the past. She's with you now. What happened in the past does not change who she is now. What really bothers you about hearing the things in her past? Do you feel like you have some expectations to meet? Am I right to believe that you do believe she is going to cheat on you or leave? Do you feel possessive (as you seem to act like it) and dislike the idea that you have to share her with her past (a time before which you were in)?