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elliemarley
Feb 17, 2010, 11:01 PM
HI, I'm 25yr old & am 21 weeks pregnant with my first child.. my partner & I were only together 2mths when I found out I was pregnant. We were both happy about it but I have become an absolute monster. I'm so jealous all the time and causing arguments with him. Things will be fantastic between us & then I screw it up by being so insecure. I have never been a big girl but since being pregnant I feel fat & unattractive & feel like he looks at other skinnier girls wishing he could be with them instead of me. I'm very jealous of photos he has with other girls he has slept with/ & ex girlfriends as my mind tells me he wants to be with them & that I was a mistake. I'm really not coping well at all... I love our baby so much already but by the way I'm acting I fear I'm going to cause my baby's daddy to leave. I need help! Thank you x

Alty
Feb 17, 2010, 11:30 PM
Have you talked to him about this? Have you told him how you're feeling?

Pregnancy can be tough, especially in a very new relationship. You two are still getting to know each other and you have a baby on the way. It's stressful.

The person you should be talking to is him. He should be your support but he can't know what you need unless you tell him. It really is true that communication is the key to any relationship.

I got pregnant 3 years after my husband and I married and boy was I a b*tch. Nothing was right. I felt fat, unattractive, angry, you name it. I couldn't figure out why, it's not like me to be that way. I talked to my husband and he was wonderful about the whole thing, took it all in stride knowing that I would be my old self again soon, plus a baby.

Of course he did say he was moving out for 9 months when I told him I was pregnant with our second child, but I'm sure he was kidding. ;)

Really, talk to him, tell him how you feel. Obviously you care about him, he cares about you, so talk, otherwise your relationship doesn't stand a chance.

Let us know how it goes and good luck. :)