LadyBeckstah4
Feb 16, 2010, 03:22 PM
I'm 20 this year and my boyfriend is 23 this year. We got together when I was 16 and he was 20 and had a roller coaster of a relationship, we were in love, but immature and we had a dramatic horrible breakup that involved him cheating on me with his ex girlfriend and going back to her.
This was over a year and a half a go and since then we've had ups and downs, fallen out, made friends and back again and I was still madly in love with him throughout all this.
About four months ago, I finally was back to myself and got over him, accepting that though I'd endlessly tried to win him back he'd just never want me again.
Since then our relationship approved and I stopped scaring him off by acting like a love sick puppy. We started seeing each other and got on better than we ever did as we've both grown up and decided to give it another shot.
My worry is that once upon a time I would have been absolutely unbelievably ecstatic to be back with him and I'm not now. I still have feelings for him, I get on with him better than any other man, whenever anything happens I go to tell him first, I smile when I think of him, I miss him when he's not here, I always hope he's going to text me but deep down... the drive is gone, I feel a kind of numbness. It's not mistrust because I completely forgive him. I'm not sure whether it's because I moved on and have completely stopped loving him or whether it's because it's new to me being with him... I've been single for a long time and it will take effort on both parts.
I guess what I'm asking is...
Is it possible for me to fall back in love with him?
I really hope a lot of you will shed some light on this situation, I'd appreciate a wide range of opinions.
This was over a year and a half a go and since then we've had ups and downs, fallen out, made friends and back again and I was still madly in love with him throughout all this.
About four months ago, I finally was back to myself and got over him, accepting that though I'd endlessly tried to win him back he'd just never want me again.
Since then our relationship approved and I stopped scaring him off by acting like a love sick puppy. We started seeing each other and got on better than we ever did as we've both grown up and decided to give it another shot.
My worry is that once upon a time I would have been absolutely unbelievably ecstatic to be back with him and I'm not now. I still have feelings for him, I get on with him better than any other man, whenever anything happens I go to tell him first, I smile when I think of him, I miss him when he's not here, I always hope he's going to text me but deep down... the drive is gone, I feel a kind of numbness. It's not mistrust because I completely forgive him. I'm not sure whether it's because I moved on and have completely stopped loving him or whether it's because it's new to me being with him... I've been single for a long time and it will take effort on both parts.
I guess what I'm asking is...
Is it possible for me to fall back in love with him?
I really hope a lot of you will shed some light on this situation, I'd appreciate a wide range of opinions.