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Disney23
Feb 16, 2010, 01:47 PM
OK so me and my girlfriend have been going together for about 6 months. Ive never liked someone as muchas I like her so I guess that explains why I feel this way I do when I heard her tell me about her past. Before me she had slept with 2 guys. Im her first girl she has ever been with. I really don't care about the first guy. It's the second guy. They were together about a month before we started talking. She only did it with him once. But I just can't seem to stop thinking about it. I don't think it would bother me as much if her mom and sister and him wouldn't have told me about it. When were doing it or just laying in bed together I find myself thinking about it. And no I don't think he did it better then me its just the fact that they did it in a wish they didn't. She tells me all the time that I am the best she ever had but it still don't change the fact that it bothers me. PLEASE HELP.

dynocompe
Feb 16, 2010, 01:55 PM
Quoted by redhead35 "what i will say is, she is with you now,she loves you,she is not with any one else....she has a past,and done some things that you dont like,and maybe she feels bad about it too,i dont know...im sure you have done things that your not too proud of too...were all human and make mistakes..."

Devorameira
Feb 16, 2010, 02:42 PM
Everybody has a past, but as long as it stays in the past you shouldn’t be concerned about it!

Of course if this is something you don't think you can live with, that is up to you. Having respect and love for a partner is what’s important.

If she is a great girl and you are enjoying getting to know her, then you should keep seeing her. Don’t let her previous history ruin a potentially good relationship.

Romefalls19
Feb 16, 2010, 08:09 PM
Don't let her past dictate YOUR future. Don't worry so much about who came before you, you are the present and the present means much more than the past

talaniman
Feb 17, 2010, 12:35 PM
You sound like your afraid that she may go back to this guy. Maybe because it was fairly recent. Maybe because your insecure in the first place, or because it gets brought up too much, your fear has you tripping in your head.

Hard to say without more info, but get over it, and don't make it an issue between you, as this is something you can overcome with time, and some work on yourself to overcome your fear.

Watch what you say and don't act or speak impulsively, you just have to find out where your fear is really coming from.

Baggage from the past maybe?