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wild smile
Feb 16, 2010, 12:52 PM
Dearest there
I've never seen a child in this age as stubborn as my child... he's destructive to the point that sometimes drives me crazy.I'm so irritated and my temer gets so high easily.He's clever if he's compared to those of his age... I'm afraid that he'll lose the apportunity of using his cleverness due to his stubbornness.please help.

Esra'a.. Jordan

neverme
Feb 16, 2010, 12:59 PM
I think that you need to control your temper first, not only because it is something that you can do, but also because you are the adult.

Is there anything that your son is rebelling against?

Does he play any sports? Have any outlet?

I know he is young but if you can get an interest instilled in him in sport or art or some other activity he may be easier to deal with. He may just feel a bit bored, a lot of time this can be the reason for kids to act out. Also when there is a concentration on something else there is less time to act up.

All the best.

Eileen G
Feb 19, 2010, 04:21 PM
Sometimes it helps to take a step back and forget about the adult/child struggle. Is the thing that he is being stubborn about reasonable? If an adult wanted the same thing, would you try to prevent him having it?

Sometimes you have to be firm, but sometimes it's all right to let him make his own decisions - and deal with the consequences of his decisions.