I rented a DVD around April 2009.It seems the title was a phrase from a wedding ceremony. I now pronounce you man & wife, to have & to hold, I take this woman, or something along that line. It involves a successful black couple. The wife may be a real estate agent. Her mother is terribly controlling and interfering in the marriage. Eventually, the wife stands up to her mother and the marriage is good again.

Not Easily Broken (http://uk.imdb.com/title/tt0795438/)?

YES, thank you so very much.
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Based on the novel
Not Easily Broken
From New York Times best selling author T. D. Jakes
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Excellent relationship movie.