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ColdKiller23
Feb 11, 2010, 10:44 PM
Ok, so my ex and I didn't date too long. We are both 18 years old, and seniors in high school. I knew she was going off to college and I'd be stuck here, but I wanted to see how things would go. After all me and her really connected so quickly, it felt like it was suppose to happen. We basically build up this potential serious relationship. She said she use to have trust issues, and I was wondering if that would affect our relationship. I wasn't sure how she would react, so I asked her via Facebook. She never responded, I didn't see her the next day at school because I had a doctor's appointment, and she never texted. I knew something was wrong, the next day I slept in because work. She never texted me asking where I was, even though she never really did to begin with. Anyway, we were planning on going to Disney (she planned this out when we first hung out), she said she forgot because she was busy... it's understandable because she is busy but to forget it like that... I knew the message did something. I called her out and she said "no it didn't". Lie. So we plan on hanging out Wednesday, but I get nothing from her, I finally text her saying "What's going on?". Basically was getting pissed that she was acting like this, but she says "I'm still at school waiting on my brother", okay I believed her, no reason not to. She then says "I'm home. My mom wants me to do school work but w/e." I say well that is more important than me. She replies with =\. I say I don't want to get in the way of your school work. She replies with "I'd rather chill with you, but I need to get my work done". I said "well, I want to come over but don't want to bug you, you won't like me for that, and it already seems like you are". She then responds with "O snap I never replied."

She now texts this out. She says she doesn't want a serious relationship, she is going off to college. She doesn't want it to hurt me, when she has to leave. She said she really likes me but doesn't want to get serious. I went over to her house to talk it out, we basically end it. It is a valid reason.

But for her to say yes to me, knowing she is going to college. Why did she? Did she just want to mess around? We did make out in her bed to the point where we were getting really into it, but I said I don't want to rush anything.


At the same time, she has been talking to this guy in my class, I'm not sure if she likes him or what. I'm not really insecure, but it does bug me.

I really need some reassurance, there's no way to no contact a girl in my class, and what if she did want to mess around, I would be up for it, but how can I let her know?

amicon
Feb 11, 2010, 11:03 PM
As you can't go no contact,be polite but busy around the ex.
I'd advice you against any messing around-why set yourself up for more heartache and confusion?

talaniman
Feb 12, 2010, 11:07 AM
You're broken up, act like it, and leave her alone. Forget Disneyland.