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luckydice07
Feb 11, 2010, 04:41 PM
I met my best guy friend through a mutual friend of ours, a girl. At first our friendship was adorable - simple, and fun; we were in the "getting to know each other more" phase. As time went on, roughly two months, our friendship turned solid, we were inseparable. Anyone and everyone thought/assumed we were a couple because we were together 24/7, we did almost everything/anything together (excluding any sort of sexual contact). That being said, after about two months of hanging out and having fun, our mutual friend told me that he "thought I was really cool" and that he likes me a lot. At the time, I was thinking that he thought I was a really cool friend and he likes me a lot as a friend. Until this day I am confused whether she was telling me that he liked me in a romantic way, or just thought I was a really good friend. This leads me to my first question, do you guys think he liked me in a more romantic way before? He never really told me himself. Now to get to the more important question... I went on vacation for a few months and didn't see him for a couple of months. When I came back he had developed a relationship with a girl, basically he had a girlfriend. From the minute I came back from vacation up until recently, we hung out all the time still, we talked about everything, we shared our emotions, we still had fun... except we have gotten closer. The time spand of my vacation until now has been approx. six months. After months of good and bad days with him, recently he has been avoiding me. He has also recently confessed that he has been having some serious difficulties at the home front. Ever since then our relationship has been drifting away, he has been avoiding me. He hangs out more with our mutual friends than he does with me (before it was always us), he barely calls/talks/im's me, etc... Basically what's going on? Why is he being distant? We were like peanut butter and jelly before. Please don't tell me it's because of his problems at home because it's just me that he is avoiding. Any input would be great, this junk is killing me.

maydaymommy08
Feb 11, 2010, 04:51 PM
I can tell u right now its because of that girl she knows he has feelings for u and she is jealous u need to tell him step up be normal or step out!!

luckydice07
Feb 11, 2010, 04:54 PM
You think his girlfriend knows he has feelings for me? I doubt he has feelings for me though, he knows he can tell me and I wouln't react badly about it. And he recently broke up with his girlfriend too. I just don't understand why he is breaking our bond as well, a really great friendship :-(.

talaniman
Feb 14, 2010, 09:59 AM
He is healing from the break up, and needs time, and space away from females. That happens after a break up. Don't take it personally, that would be rather selfish, and uncaring.

Just let him heal in his own time, and way.

jacobm28
Mar 2, 2013, 06:52 PM
It could be a lot of things, his home situation.. that you never really gave him any play or showed interest LIKE THAT, n he secretly loves or loved u... look... he got a girlfriend while you left, he ever date when you were around? This story points to no... so yea sometimes... its best to keep your options open when it comes to relayionships... your best friend can be the one that's always been the one.

And also... a friend of his straightup told you that your guy friend thought you were really cool and likes you a lot... lol that's soooo dense, that's why we don't get females these days, we don't know how to put it any clearer then that, then you interpret it into what YOU females want to hear... it was simple.. he wants you, enough said. :)