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Me and this girl used to talk but after some rough times tried to be just friends. I still liked her but thought I should move on and hooked up with another girl I thought me and the ex were cool and just friends and told her well it hurt her and she cried and I was confused because before our "break" we both had gotten with someone else so I thought she did not care well we talked and she told me she doesn't think she can stop liking me and I like her to but she told me that before that she thought she had feelings for someone else but pushed them away because she likes me now I'm freaking out if she'll get with the other person we both changed and she says she's a new person but I'm still scared to believe her I need help what do I do?

Trust your instincts here. There was no doubt in your mind when you hooked up with another girl.

She has doubts now- after the fact, and it is up to you to not go backwards in time, because she has decided she likes you after all.

She may have made a mistake in not being honest with how she really felt, but I think it is more that she didn't know what she wanted, and she still doesn't. It is all too easy to go back to one that is familiar than to let it go, and move on.

I wouldn't change anything, and would concentrate on the new relationship.

She needs to accept the consequences of her actions, and it would be best for you to limit contact with her, otherwise she will drive you down with guilt and confusion.

Do you mean concentrate how she is now? Because I like this girl a lot but I just want to be cautious you know

So she's having a hard time choosing you over another guy.. What kind of relationship is this? I suggest leaving... honestly. If the girl is in doubt about liking you... she's not worth your time.

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Me and this girl used to talk but after some rough times tried to be just friends.

That happens a lot, sometimes it doesn't work out.

I still liked her but thought I should move on and hooked up with another girl I thought me and the ex were cool and just friends and told her well it hurt her and she cried
That's just to bad.

and I was confused because before our "break" we both had gotten with someone else so I thought she did not care well we talked and she told me she doesn't think she can stop liking me and I like her to but she told me that before that she thought she had feelings for someone else but pushed them away because she likes me now
Funny how that works she get someone else but when you get someone else she wants you back.


I'm freaking out if she'll get with the other person we both changed and she says she's a new person but I'm still scared to believe her I need help what do I do?

Don't freak out, just tell her your happy with who you are with, and aren't going to change. Its to late, and why go back to what didn't work before. You guys sound really young any way. Move on, and enjoy your new partners.