View Full Version : Depression from a relationship.your opinions ?
athena254
Feb 8, 2010, 07:34 PM
My boyfriend gave me the world. As I started to get close to him we broke up. I thought he hung up on me so I fuss at him after that he went ignorn me. A week later he was saying how I wasn't in to him I don't love him and stuff. Ignore for 2 more weeks finally he said I made him mad he needed some space and he will call me. I left him alone he even promise he would call. Christmas comes alone he never call or text so I text again and ask where I stand with him so I know how to move on he didn't answer. Again I text jan 1, 2 no answer. After that I was done . I am hurt.I been hurt since nov17 here it is feb8 and I am still depress. Before I met him I wasn't worrying about no guy I was use to be lonely and sad then here he come then I get knock down.
Why am I still depress. I am doing better.at first I was losing weight but I am still hurt as I get better I get worse. I really care for this guy. All I wanted was closure he couldn't do that.
His best friends claims he know I am a good person and that's why he ignore me cause he didn't want to hurt me but I still end up getting hurt. He also cliam my ex was tryna talk to a girl but she didn't want him and now he feel bad for what he did to me
OK if he hated me so much didn't want nothing to do with me. Why when I ask if he care for me he said he couldn't answer it right now he just need space?? If he wanted to be done and stuff he should have just kept it real with me
Now I am so hurts sad. I feel love will never find me. I am not attracted to no one the pain hurts.
I pray and go to counseling but like I said when I get better I get worse :(
How can someone who care for me do all these things for me just flip the script.? It hurts its 3 months and my heart is still hurt so bad :(
Bluerose
Feb 9, 2010, 02:03 AM
It would help to know what age you are. The advice differs depending on your age. Anyway what you need to do right now is take care of yourself. Be good and kind to yourself and try not to worry too much about what went wrong and concentrate on feeling better. Someone else is around the next corner.
redhed35
Feb 9, 2010, 10:47 AM
It sounds very much that he has gone no contact,and the best thing you can you too.
Yes its hurts but it does get easier,lots of people get their hearts broken and recover.
My advice is to continue with the councilling,and self discovery.
You write the script for for life,you decide either to be positive or negative,the choice is yours to make,and as soon as you realise this,you will feel empowered.
athena254
Feb 9, 2010, 01:01 PM
In 19... but I'm veeerrrryyy mature mom made me that way and its like love will never find me. Either I found out the guy has a girl and kept it from me or he is trying to get in my pants. I know I am young but io graduate college may2011 and love has yet to find... everytime I think something may be good its not... oh boy I had a little crush on hid his girlfriend from me it hurts. Then on top of that I don't feel love from my mom. And I don't have friends
talaniman
Feb 10, 2010, 11:10 PM
Start with making some friends for love, and support. No one should be alone during there down times. It helps to have at least one.
Rebuilding yourself after being left by an uncaring fool is tough and takes time to get over, so go slow and get something good into your life, make a friend. A FEMALE ONE, for now.
athena254
Feb 11, 2010, 06:16 PM
See the people that claim to be my friends are not. I don't have family nor friends to talk to. So I just go to counseling when I can and it helps for a little while. None of the friends take me serious when I say I feel like dying because they see I'm about to graduate college.have good grades and I smile but see they don't see the pain I am going through so they thinks it's a joke.
So I just stay pray up and talk with my counselor:)
But yes I pray I can meet some new people while I am healing some good trusting reliable friends
Cyberstar
Feb 12, 2010, 06:59 PM
It's understandable that you feel down still. During the relationship, you built an emotional reliance on him as you got closer. If closure in the form of clarity and honesty is something that he can't or won't give you, try getting closure in another form, such as by coming to terms with the fact that he was not able to be the boyfriend you want and deserve, and please realize that having been treated poorly doesn't spell the end of finding someone who is.
Counselling is a great step. Maybe try to focus your next sessions on helping you learn to seek out and build a support system of friends to keep your mind occupied on other things.
athena254
Feb 13, 2010, 02:56 PM
Yes I understand it just hurts when more months pass the more it hurts. Imiss him a lot and I really cared for him. But yes I have to move on..
Yea counseling helps but the pain gets worse I don't cry but the pain is there... I love him sooo much but he can't give me what I want so yes I do have to find other ways...
And the friends they don't help the people I think I can talk to don't take me serious.sooo it hurts
I don't have friends
I don't have family to talk to
It just hurt
I do home and school that's it...
Yesterday. I went out. Its been over a year it was OK but came home and the pain hurt more
I just don't know what to do
n o sullivan
Feb 13, 2010, 03:30 PM
Your young free and single.am saying this out of kindness k.. Suck it up and forget about him.if he couldn't be bothered replying to you then he isn't worth the steam off your piss.
gwynso
Feb 13, 2010, 03:34 PM
This maybe helpful for u too: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/what-expect-when-you-get-dumped-123862.html
athena254
Feb 13, 2010, 07:16 PM
Yes I am young
But it hurts so I'm trying my best
Thank you sooo much!!