xx_sam_xx1988
Feb 8, 2010, 08:59 AM
My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 11 months now. We used to have sex every day and then slowly it started slowing down. I just assumed it was because we were getting used to being with each other and I knew our sex life wouldn't be like it was when we first got together all the time.
But the last month has been non existent. He won't even touch me anymore. A lot has happened recently, I was diagnosed with depression and knew I was pushing him away so I went to the doctors and got sorted.
Then I had a miscarriage but didn't know I was pregnant. In between all this when my boyfriend and I slept together it used to really hurt and ended up having an operation to find out what the problem was.
Then I found hed been txting another girl and confronted him about it. He said she was just a friend and was helping her out as she had just been dumped.
I started to then think that he was scared of getting me pregnant again or hurting me which was why we stopped sleeping together and he just said he didn't know.
I even started accusing him of being or sleeping with someone else.
He denies everything and says he still loves me and wants to be with me.
Its now come to the point that I won't even get changed in front of him because I just feel so ugly and dirty and hate the way I look because he doesn't even bat an eyelid if I come into the room when I've just got out the shower or I'm getting dressed in front of him.
Ive lost count the amount of times I've spoken to him about it but it just doesn't get anywhere and I'm the one who ends up in tears. All I want is for him to want me again.
But, I'm also thinking it could be one other thing. He lost his dad nearly 3 years ago and his brothers just been diagnosed with depression, so I'm now thinking maybe my boyfriend is going through the same thing. He says he can't talk to anyone, not even his family about how he's feeling. But I'm also thinking that if he is finding it hard to deal with then wouldn't he have been like this from the word go?
What upsets me is that he used to sleep around and doesn't know how many girls he's slept with, but he said that he's now a changed person and he's not like that anymore. But I keep asking him the same question... if you can sleep with that many girls, why won't you sleep with me anymore?
I love him so much, I just can't leave him. I just don't know what else to do.
But the last month has been non existent. He won't even touch me anymore. A lot has happened recently, I was diagnosed with depression and knew I was pushing him away so I went to the doctors and got sorted.
Then I had a miscarriage but didn't know I was pregnant. In between all this when my boyfriend and I slept together it used to really hurt and ended up having an operation to find out what the problem was.
Then I found hed been txting another girl and confronted him about it. He said she was just a friend and was helping her out as she had just been dumped.
I started to then think that he was scared of getting me pregnant again or hurting me which was why we stopped sleeping together and he just said he didn't know.
I even started accusing him of being or sleeping with someone else.
He denies everything and says he still loves me and wants to be with me.
Its now come to the point that I won't even get changed in front of him because I just feel so ugly and dirty and hate the way I look because he doesn't even bat an eyelid if I come into the room when I've just got out the shower or I'm getting dressed in front of him.
Ive lost count the amount of times I've spoken to him about it but it just doesn't get anywhere and I'm the one who ends up in tears. All I want is for him to want me again.
But, I'm also thinking it could be one other thing. He lost his dad nearly 3 years ago and his brothers just been diagnosed with depression, so I'm now thinking maybe my boyfriend is going through the same thing. He says he can't talk to anyone, not even his family about how he's feeling. But I'm also thinking that if he is finding it hard to deal with then wouldn't he have been like this from the word go?
What upsets me is that he used to sleep around and doesn't know how many girls he's slept with, but he said that he's now a changed person and he's not like that anymore. But I keep asking him the same question... if you can sleep with that many girls, why won't you sleep with me anymore?
I love him so much, I just can't leave him. I just don't know what else to do.