Hi,
I'm married and a US marine a tough combination this weekend one of my fellow peers was going away and possibly never see him again so all the boys decide to honor him and we decided to go to an adult sports bar the tradition of couse involves drinking spending and things of that nature I'm by no means a drunk the way my username implies in spanish the last time I drank was in November of last year and it was maybe 2 or 3 beers at most well I definitely don't remember nothing that happened after the sports bar next thing I know I wake up on my livingroom floor with last night dinner on me, no I did not drive we had a DD always a good plan, and on the clothes I was wearing my glasses broken first thing came to my mind either we all got in a fight and I got punched pretty hard or we fought each other wich usually happens we do it in a playfull manner well my wife she tells me I was at a strip club which I have no recollection my marines are mostly single and of course my wife does not believe them. I pulled a good amount of money from the atm appereantly paid for a lot more drinks and other things I do not remember I'm not mad at her I'm just surprised at myself I've never done something like that and I don't know what to do about this she kicked me out of the house so now I'm staying at a hotel... and I don't know what to do I said iwas sorry and I really honestly don't remember about the night everything went down we just also had a baby which might cause her to have all these feelings. She gained a little weight which I don't mind but she does she makes it a point togo and work out everyday. I need help in resolving my issues with my wife I love her very much I made a stupid decision and I'm ready to face the concequences (not a very good speller I'm a marine lol) what ever they are but not ready to loose my life with her. TY in advance

What do you mean by 'you made a stupid decision'?

What do your mates say happened?

As for your marital situation,could a trusted relative or close friend act as mediator?

Am I missing something here? What exactly are the issues with your wife?

If I take your post at face-value it seems you went out with the boys and got drunk,maybe visited a strip-club, and probably unwisley spent some money.

Well that seems like behaviour deserving a bit off a rolicking from the missus maybe, doesn't seem like a reason to end a marriage.

Is there something you're not saying? Does she think you had sex with someone? Is it possible you did?

I have no idea my buddiesare saying I was telling strippers if they were not drink to stay away from them my other friend told his wife he didn't even go into the club but we all know he was there I did not have sex with the strippers I had puke on me I did check my staement an I did spend a bit of mone there but they are saying I was only buying drinks pretty much I don't know what happened and

Listen up, Marine!

Report to sick call. Ask the doc about - copy this down - incipient alcoholism. You will most likely be ordered to see the shrink. Do it. Blacking out from booze is as dangerous as an IED.

From the shrink get a referral for your wife to Al-Anon.

You are now the DD for the duration.

- a former HM2, Recon 1/5 -

Edit: Semper Fi, now move it!

Let me see, you went out and got drunk, there were strippers and you spent, ( HOW MUCH MONEY) I mean did you spend 1/2 of your savings or all of your paycheck.

I mean if this means your wife can't buy grocreys or her car payment will be late, and most likely she thinks you cheated on her.

So I would get a couselor and see if she will go with you to try and work it out

In the end, we each have to live with the choices we make, I doubt my wife would be there tomorrow, if I went out, got drunk, stayed out all night, she thought strippers where there and I spent all the money in our checking account

You are paying the consequences Marine, until she is through being mad. Call her and beg to come home, and promise to be a good boy.

If that doesn't work, then you have more consequences to pay. Quit drinking, so this episode will never be repeated.